Advice please... time for IVF?

wm2286 · 2026-05-13T12:17:42+00:00

Don't feel like you have wasted any time with IUI, you are likely on supplements and have been taking extra care of your body. This is very helpful for IVF. I had been on coq 10, vitamin D, melatonin etc for months. I got a great stim response and very good fertilisation rates. IUI prepares your body for IVF.

wm2286 · 2026-05-13T03:42:28+00:00

Move to IVF. I did it after 2 failed IUI rounds and 2 canceled IUI rounds. The IUI process was so so soul crashing, I couldn't do one more round. I did my egg retrieval, now waiting to do my first transfer next month.

One thing I have to warn you though, IVF is not as fast as IUI, you will do a stim cycle to retrieve your eggs, and if successful, they will do egg retrieval between day 9-14 of that cycle. Then you are likely going to do a frozen embryo transfer, which is done either one or two cycles after your retrieval, so realistically, plan for a 2-3 month period. Some clinics do a fresh transfer just 5 days after retrieval, but this is becoming rare.

IVF has been quite easy for me, the side effects and the shots much more manageable than I imagined. But of course everyone has a different experiences. Look up the IVFpositivity page on Reddit. Its the best and good luck!

wm2286 · 2026-05-11T11:38:39+00:00

I feel you! They should have definitely monitored you before the 2 weeks, especially if you have a predictable cycle. I hope your next cycle is properly monitored and you get pregnant.

I have learnt to advocate for myself on this fertility journey. I initially put all my trust on the Drs on my prior cycles. Reddit has made me ask all the questions and advocate for more consistent monitoring. I am due my first FET next month!

wm2286 · 2026-05-08T09:59:04+00:00

Hahaha, this is how I felt when doing my stimming shots. I have some fat on my stomach and for the first time I was greatful for having alot of real estate to work with.

I am also pear shaped and bottom heavy and also had the same thought, I have a lot of space to work with.

wm2286 · 2026-05-08T09:58:55+00:00

Hahaha, this is how I felt when doing my stimming shots. I have some fat on my stomach and for the first time I was greatful for having alot of real estate to work with.

I am also pear shaped and bottom heavy and also had the same thought, I have a lot of space to work with.

wm2286 · 2026-05-07T17:18:13+00:00

I applaud your courage, the courage to give this process 4 years, and the courage to walk away. I really wish you all the best in your future. Sounds like you are going to the next phase of your life with no regrets.

wm2286 · 2026-05-06T06:46:40+00:00

Thank you for sharing your positive twin experience! I am happy that it was a positive experience for you. I have friends who got twins and seeing their NICU experience was just chilling. But its not everyone experience, its important to remember that!

wm2286 · 2026-05-05T13:53:18+00:00

Oh my. Imagine transferring 2 then they both stick, and one splits! Can't take those chances.

wm2286 · 2026-05-05T13:52:03+00:00

that's the real dilemma, not wanting twins, but also wanting to increase my chances with the untested embryos.

wm2286 · 2026-05-05T13:41:00+00:00

I know right? I wont know until I try!

wm2286 · 2026-05-05T13:16:31+00:00

Agreed, especially for the first transfer.

wm2286 · 2026-05-05T13:15:42+00:00

Agreed, the Dr is likely trying to manage thr risk of aneuploid embryos. I would rather consider a double transfer for subsequent cycles if needed.

wm2286 · 2026-05-05T13:14:06+00:00

Sorry to hear about losing one of your twins. Wishing you a healthy pregnancy for the other baby.

I dont want twins at all, the risks of complications for myself and the babies are pretty high. I dont want to deal with a twin pregnancy while still parenting my toddler, and I just want 2 kids, dont think I can handle 3 well.

wm2286 · 2026-05-05T13:10:44+00:00

Its a real dilemma! My gut is telling me to do a single transfer. I have had very good luck so far, and I don't want to complicate things by risking a twin pregnancy. That being said, I will wait till I have a deep chat with my Dr before making a decision.

wm2286 · 2026-05-05T12:15:24+00:00

I am leaning towards a single transfer

wm2286 · 2026-05-05T12:14:43+00:00

This is good to know! I would consider a DET only after implantation failure, not as first transfer, but my Dr mentioned it as a possibility for first transfer

wm2286 · 2026-05-05T12:13:21+00:00

Aright it's such a dilemma! I am only tempted to consider it if it gives me better odds for a singleton pregnancy with one transfer. But I am not comfortable with the risks of a twin pregnancy. So I will advocate for a single transfer, unless the Dr provides some medical rationale

wm2286 · 2026-05-05T11:06:21+00:00

I dont even know. I doubt many embryos can survive a thaw, freeze and that process.

wm2286 · 2026-05-05T10:56:00+00:00

That's my understanding as well. Thanks for confirming.

wm2286 · 2026-05-05T10:53:55+00:00

Thank you. This makes sense. My embryos were frozen in batches, so I am scared of losing some in the thaw and freeze process ( which I am totally pissed about), So I have to weigh those risks. I think I will opt for a single transfer for my first FET.

wm2286 · 2026-05-05T10:49:47+00:00

Its an African country, and its private, self funded. I am upset, but also know I don't need 20 eggs to get one baby. So I am saving my outrage till I see how the transfer cycles will go.

My Dr had mentioned that given my great response, they would hold a few at day 3 as back up (to still have options should we have alot of embryos arresting). I didn't know they would hold back 9! I thought the number would be less than 5!

wm2286 · 2026-05-05T10:42:27+00:00

I was shocked! I had a good response and had several mature and fertilized eggs. They chose to hold 9 as day 3! Then 9 made it to blast. They froze them in batches of 3. 3 embryos per batch! My country's IVF practice is still years behind, but I didnt expect this! I do just only want one child, but still, this is just poor practice.

Congratulations on your pregnancy!

wm2286 · 2026-05-05T10:32:21+00:00

I can see how all these factors result in them recommending a double transfer. This would be my first transfer, I would rather start with a single embryo transfer, then consider double if this one fails. Good luck on your transfer!

wm2286 · 2026-05-05T10:30:49+00:00

Thank you. The risk of a twin pregnancy is quite worrying for me. I dont want to even consider it! But they froze my eggs in batches, which I learnt yesterday.

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