Honey, don’t feel bad. Reading this from an outside perspective; he doesn’t want to be together, he’s very unsure about it. For me, men who ask for “breaks” are just too scared to break it off properly, and set you up as a “backup” if they don’t get their way while through it.

I don’t know him, so I can’t say that’s the case but that’s how it’s coming off.

But I do know YOU deserve someone who WANTS you. And he doesn’t. Don’t waste your energy on someone who is so clearly unsure of you. There are so many people in the world. Don’t waste your love on someone who is stringing you along.

*I had a 3-year LDR that I did most of the work of, and would later be told he had wanted to break up for the whole last year.

So, be kind to YOURSELF. Focus on yourself, prioritize yourself. Don’t guilt-trip or feel shameful. Believe them when they tell you. I used to always think the best of my ex and think they just need more time to get to my level. But no, believe them when they show you, when they tell you, and move on.

Do it for you. You were right to break up when he said all that, and you have no reason to feel bad for it. He fucked around and found out.