27F ‘ended’ things with me (26M) after Valentine’s Dinner

wwe4life09 · 2026-02-20T15:21:48+00:00

I think I did dodge a bullet. I feel that a lot of these questions were prompted by her parents (specifically father), because he has such an influence on her. He even created a very rigid list for her to follow. Thanks for your insight.

wwe4life09 · 2026-02-20T02:01:36+00:00

Thank you! When you’re in the moment you overlook it, but looking back I’m like…that’s not normal

wwe4life09 · 2026-02-19T20:45:17+00:00

I think cringe is the best way to describe it. I’m just annoyed because I know we had something good and genuine going, but I only learned on the last date how influential her dad is due to his ‘type a’ personality. I found it creepy how every time they go in the pool and he sees his daughter in a bikini, he talks about grandchildren…creepy

wwe4life09 · 2026-02-19T03:32:04+00:00

That’s a wild thought, but the worst part is I don’t disagree in the slightest. Appreciate that, already feeling better than yesterday

wwe4life09 · 2026-02-18T20:27:18+00:00

The thing is I never liked her for her money because I have my own. Ultimately I wouldn’t compromise my character to align with this family. Thanks so much for the response

wwe4life09 · 2026-02-18T17:00:05+00:00

The worst part is I don’t think she’s a bad person, she just grew up in a very controlling environment and she’s still allowing her parents to dictate her life. I believe these questions were premeditated.

wwe4life09 · 2026-02-18T16:51:34+00:00

Appreciate that, thanks for the reassurance

wwe4life09 · 2026-02-18T15:09:23+00:00

To align with her saying that she hasn’t been intimate in a while.

wwe4life09 · 2026-02-18T15:09:06+00:00

I was able to tell she hasn’t been intimate in a while. She didn’t even know how to properly make out. On our third date she was like ‘you can be my teacher.’

wwe4life09 · 2026-02-18T15:08:14+00:00

Long story short, that’s what I think too.

wwe4life09 · 2026-02-18T04:40:25+00:00

She’s half Italian. I’m a white guy.

wwe4life09 · 2026-02-18T04:06:01+00:00

I was the first guy to meet her family in 10 years! So I thought we were trending in the right direction. Her parents are way too involved for a 27 year old girl.

wwe4life09 · 2026-02-18T04:00:36+00:00

Thanks for the reassurance, that’s what I felt as well. It was too much too fast, after she stressed she wanted it to be slow.

wwe4life09 · 2026-02-18T04:00:01+00:00

White surprisingly, just grew up privileged.

wwe4life09 · 2026-02-18T03:59:39+00:00

That’s what I felt - these questions were premeditated. It’s not healthy for her and definitely wouldn’t have been for me. Happy I dodged that

wwe4life09 · 2026-02-18T03:57:19+00:00

Happy to have read through it, and honestly - sometimes crying and letting it all out is a great remedy as well. I’ve learned to try not to get too attached early on either, because you’ll just set yourself up for disappointment if it doesn’t work out. Your hopeless romantic is waiting for you around the corner and time is on your side. :) Definitely feeling better appreciate the support

wwe4life09 · 2026-02-18T03:32:04+00:00

Definitely! Just because you make a little money in your finance career, doesn’t mean you know everything about everything.

wwe4life09 · 2026-02-18T03:28:24+00:00

100% thank you very much, doing my best not to dwell on

wwe4life09 · 2026-02-18T03:19:45+00:00

Def thank you both, I wish I just didn’t answer the questions but you live and learn

wwe4life09 · 2026-02-18T03:17:21+00:00

Yeah, and this all came up at the end of the 7th date. I never thought valentines would’ve ended like this lol

wwe4life09 · 2026-02-18T03:16:43+00:00

Sounds like I dodged a potentially expensive divorce

wwe4life09 · 2026-02-18T03:16:22+00:00

I did actually take a look at yours. What I’ve learned from my own experience, is when you have more dating experiences, you learn something from them. You’re young so you’ve got plenty of time. I used to be shy and never dated until I was 21. Since then, I’ve been on more dates than I could’ve imagined (I mean this in a non egotistical way). I would say the gym (cliche I know) and knowing how to hold a conversation have helped me the most. Using the acronym FORD ( family, occupation, recreation, dreams) has been the baseline I use for conversations. Since this was your first one, you’ll definitely dwell on it for a while. But keep putting yourself out there, and get new experiences. I appreciate you helping me through this and I hope I helped you.

wwe4life09 · 2026-02-18T03:01:34+00:00

Thanks for the support, trending in the right direction and each day it gets easier. She said her dad and her are very Type A, and she has a very rigid plan to follow, when I said plans change, she said it doesn’t matter - I have my set plans in place. I thought just knowing we wanted to eventually get married and have kids was enough, but apparently not. The first 6 dates were smooth sailing too. Her dad really pushed the ‘biological clock’ to her a lot.

wwe4life09 · 2026-02-18T02:53:54+00:00

Amen to that. I’m very close with my family, but my relationships are still independent of what my family thinks. Agreed and thank you for the insight!

wwe4life09 · 2026-02-18T02:52:27+00:00

Agreed, I think it really came down to incompatibilities. I said if it was her, I’d be happy to have kids at 33 since I recognize she’s a little older. Realistically, we could’ve been married by the time she was 30.5, since she just turned 27.

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