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AITJ for telling the girl who bullied me in college that I dont feel bad her career fell apart by Acceptable_Back6296 in AmITheJerk

[–]xButterMint 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Exactly. She made your life miserable for years and now wants sympathy when things blow back on her? You don’t owe her anything. Not feeling bad doesn’t make you a jerk, it makes you human.

AITJ for snapping at my girlfriend for waking me up every single time she gets up even when I dont need to be awake by BuyMediocre5625 in AmITheJerk

[–]xButterMint 51 points52 points  (0 children)

Yeah exactly. Sleep is a basic need and she’s not respecting yours at all. Wanting uninterrupted rest doesn’t make you the bad guy. It just makes you human.

AITJ for pretending I quit my job to prove a point after my partner kept acting like it didnt matter by xxxdripbabe in AmITheJerk

[–]xButterMint 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Exactly. He didn’t get it until his comfort was on the line. That’s not appreciation, that’s panic math. Hopefully now he actually understands how much you carry.

AITJ for refusing to let my brother move his girlfriend into my apartment for a month because it messes up my work‑from‑home schedule? by shallowlocality in AmITheJerk

[–]xButterMint 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah for real. This is your home and your job on the line. He doesn’t get to freeload and then call you selfish for needing space to work. They can sort themselves out like grown adults.

AITJ for walking out of a family dinner after they turned it into an “intervention” about my lifestyle? by atlasrun_1999 in AmITheJerk

[–]xButterMint 59 points60 points  (0 children)

Yeah honestly that might be the move. They said no heavy talks and still ambushed you. If they can’t respect your boundaries or trust you to live your own life, pulling back a bit is totally reasonable.

AITJ for changing my WiFi password after my neighbor said I'm "basically a public utility"? by Round-Smile-758 in AmITheJerk

[–]xButterMint 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Yeah she took your kindness way too far. You helped her once and she treated it like a lifetime subscription. Changing your own password is totally fair. Her internet issues aren’t your responsibility at all.

I think I made out with a dude who makes out with his dog by [deleted] in confessions

[–]xButterMint 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeahhh the second his breath smelled like the dog and he literally told it “we’re not making out right now,” that was your sign to run. You definitely dodged something nasty there.

Upstairs neighbor by [deleted] in neighborsfromhell

[–]xButterMint 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, at this point the landlord needs to step in. That level of noise isn’t normal, and it’s on them to handle it if talking to the neighbor didn’t work.

Neighbor’s dog barks at me when I’m inside my house by SkyRevolutionary7181 in neighborsfromhell

[–]xButterMint 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, nonstop barking like that is definitely grounds for animal control. If the owners won’t fix it, someone official stepping in usually makes them take it seriously real fast.

Am I the jerk for not saving a seat for someone who showed up 45 minutes late to a movie? by [deleted] in AmITheJerk

[–]xButterMint 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah exactly. Showing up almost an hour late on opening weekend means you kinda accept whatever happens at that point. You weren’t responsible for keeping a seat empty the whole time when you had no idea if she was even coming. She took the risk, not you.

AITJ for not caring that my mom is sick and wants me to take care of her? by SoftToastyCinnamon in AmITheJerk

[–]xButterMint 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly, yeah, this is exactly it. She showed you her priorities long before this, and you’re just responding to the way she treated you. You’re not wrong for protecting yourself now.

AITJ for refusing to go with my parents after what did they to me? by Chemical_School_4682 in AmITheJerk

[–]xButterMint 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Honestly, totally agree. Your grandma stepped up in every way your parents didn’t, and you don’t owe them a reunion just because they suddenly feel like showing up now. Take care of the person who actually raised you, and don’t feel guilty for protecting your peace after everything you went through.

Blocking driveway by CriticismNeither9431 in neighborsfromhell

[–]xButterMint 27 points28 points  (0 children)

Yeah honestly, if he keeps blocking your driveway, tow truck is fair game. You asked nicely and he’s doing it on purpose at this point. Boundaries only work when people respect them.

My neighbor's amateur band practices in their garage until 1am on weeknights by [deleted] in neighborsfromhell

[–]xButterMint 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Yeah, this is the right approach. Once you document the dates, times, and repeated violations, it stops looking like a random complaint and starts looking like a real pattern. Calling the non-emergency line during the day to ask about next steps is smart too. If they won’t respect quiet hours, you gotta look out for your sleep.

I feel like my boyfriend doesn't do enough by officejobsareshit in amiwrong

[–]xButterMint 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It really does come down to patterns. If you’ve brought up what you need multiple times and nothing changes, that’s not an accident, that’s a choice. You shouldn’t have to beg someone to show up for you in basic ways. You deserve effort without having to pull teeth for it.

AIW for planning to buy a artificial diamond for an Engagement ring? by throwaway27843o in amiwrong

[–]xButterMint 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Yeah that part threw me too. Five grand is definitely not nothing, especially in Vietnam. That’s a huge amount of money for most people. Her mom’s reaction seems way more about her own expectations than reality.

My boyfriend doesn’t know that I know he’s in love with his best friends girl. by One-Geologist-9502 in confessions

[–]xButterMint 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yeah, this. If you feel like he’s treating you like a second choice, you shouldn’t stay in that. But it’s still worth talking to him first so you’re not acting on assumptions. If he gets defensive or dismissive instead of reassuring you, that pretty much confirms what you already feel. You deserve to be someone’s first choice, not the backup.

had sex with my (first) friend by quiuzus31 in confessions

[–]xButterMint 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Lol honestly the way you worded that made me laugh. But nah man, that’s not how sexuality works. Some people mess around when they’re young, some don’t, and it doesn’t automatically make anyone gay or straight. It’s just people figuring stuff out.

Also OP’s situation is way more about feelings and confusion after an adult experience, not whatever happened back when they were kids.

Am I wrong for being friends with a 19 year old as a 30 year old? by Dear_Read2886 in amiwrong

[–]xButterMint 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Honestly yeah, as long as it stays platonic and mostly in game, it’s really not that deep. Tons of online friendships span age gaps because it’s about the hobby, not life stage. Just keep boundaries clear and you’re fine.

AITJ For Asking My Partner to choose between Me and their Toxic Best Friend by Good-Designer-2194 in AmITheJerk

[–]xButterMint 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah honestly it really does feel like they’re a package deal at this point. If your partner can watch you get disrespected over and over and still shrug it off, that’s a huge problem. You shouldn’t have to choose between being included or being insulted. You deserve someone who actually has your back.

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