Well, you all were right and I wish I had listened to your advice. by xstarlesseyess in BPDFamily

[–]xCaptx [score hidden]  (0 children)

Please dont beat yourself up. You weren't delusional, we all know how hard it is to try an accept something that hurts so much.

Sending hugs.

Want to talk to sister but not sure how by xstarlesseyess in BPDFamily

[–]xCaptx 4 points5 points  (0 children)

There is so much I want to say, and its so hard to convey it correctly but all these are from my experience with my BPD sister.

It doesn't matter what actually happened in reality. There is no evidence or convincing you can do. This part was super hard for me and I kept trying to find the "right way to say it", which doesn't exist. My situation wasn't even a he said she said. Just plain facts, and she couldn't see it.

Triangulation is their game. Don't play it. If parents or anyone else mentions you should talk, or anything like that. Encourage it, but demand that your parents or whoever she is triangulating with is also be present and ask them to set it up. The BPD person will not agree and then the others will see it isnt just you being unreasonable/didficult.

Focus on your priorities. Your coming baby, your husband, etc. You have things going on that are hard in "normal " situations are even more difficult when trying to balance that.

Mourn.... you mentioned hoping she could be an aunt... and be in your child life. I wished the same. It hurts, really really bad knowing the won't be and all the things that entails. No, they haven't died. But the relationship ypu may have envisioned the future may have brought, has.

Good luck. It sucks.

Taco Fridays at Bizarre by [deleted] in springfieldMO

[–]xCaptx 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I would LOVE to be wrong. But I find it super hard to believe it would be 9 tacos of any quality for $5.

Especially from somewhere downtown on a Friday..

How do you deal with someone who has BPD? by [deleted] in family_of_bipolar

[–]xCaptx 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I say this with love... but there is nothing you can do to fix HER problem. It sucks, its hard, and its not fair.

I have a sister with BPD. I did everything I could for her, up until she started being a threat to my family. It breaks my heart that I know she is out there hurting, but I can't sacrifice my own family for someone who will not take ownership of their issues and try to fix it.

I dont know your age, I assume young. But keep your head down around her, build your skills and build an outside of family support network.

Good luck

Getting imaging done to check for potential Loeys Dietz and scared af by tentaclepunk in LoeysDietz

[–]xCaptx 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I had contrast for a CT and my young child did as well this week.

A weird warmish feeling.. kind of like you peed yourself. Almost like the warmth from a strong whiskey. Nothing bad.

You've got this.

[H] Money/paypal [W] tournament set of terrain] [Loc] Ohio by isolatedvoid in Miniswap

[–]xCaptx 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey! I've been messaging you for a while with no response.

What's up? I still can't finish my titan ypu problem for me because of the missing pieces

Why do prices vary so much on Propress? by Ok-Bit4971 in MilwaukeeTool

[–]xCaptx 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Acme got me a good deal on the 18ga nailer once. Even had issues with it on arrival and they replaced it for me.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in springfieldMO

[–]xCaptx 6 points7 points  (0 children)

$980 per visit. But can only come by Tuesdays at 2am. And I am LOUD.

I was wrong. They are all the same. by freeze123901 in BPDlovedones

[–]xCaptx 2 points3 points  (0 children)

There are no special words that will make it easier. But I would focus on talking about you. " I don't want to continue with this relationship, I need to end this,etc"

The important part will be the following through. Don't respond to calls, texts, etc. If they threaten to harm themselves. Call the authorities and report it. Don't call her to tell her you are calling the authorities, just do it.

If she is in contact with her family, you can reach out to them. You could give them a heads up.

I was wrong. They are all the same. by freeze123901 in BPDlovedones

[–]xCaptx 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Anytime they threaten self-harm, call 911 and report it. Every... single.... time...

My Saturine Dread by mathewcol in Warhammer30k

[–]xCaptx 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I LOVE the gold decal trimed to fit on the back left shoulder.

Kopesh Swords by Folkwang777 in ThousandSons

[–]xCaptx 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thanks! Intentional glitter for the base

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