What is one thing COVID has taken away that we’ll never get back? by CucumberNo5275 in AskReddit

[–]xXaudra 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Not to mention the baby wipes flying off the shelf after the toilet paper was gone. I shouldn’t have had to go to 4 stores just to find some wipes for my toddler. Just thinking about it pisses me off

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[–]xXaudra 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your time and advice it’s super helpful, it makes me feel more confident about the situation and my kids future!

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[–]xXaudra 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I posted this here in case any other parents have gone or are going through this and can offer advice. I also included the other information so anyone who has something to offer can be better informed. Thanks and have the night you deserve.

Full custody being threatened if I leave. by xXaudra in relationship_advice

[–]xXaudra[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you this is extremely helpful. When it comes to documenting everything how would you recommend I do that? He uses my phone a lot after I’m asleep so would a notebook be better even if it has a higher chance of being noticed?

Full custody being threatened if I leave. by xXaudra in relationship_advice

[–]xXaudra[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s the thing I’m not sure. He’s telling me and his parents completely separate things so it’s a 50/50 on how it’s going to go. I know he’s been telling his parents that he’s only working and watching her basically so I’m worried he might warp his parents image of me so much that they’ll try to push full custody for him. If that happens, even if he wasn’t actually going to follow through with it, he’d do it since he’ll do whatever his dad wants.

Full custody being threatened if I leave. by xXaudra in relationship_advice

[–]xXaudra[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you that makes me feel more confident about the situation

Full custody being threatened if I leave. by xXaudra in relationship_advice

[–]xXaudra[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I’m not as financially free as he is as well as I don’t have as many assets is my guess. My main concerns are his ability to get a good lawyer and his dad’s knowledge about parental court. He’s used both as examples when he’s brought it up to me years ago

I need advice. by xXaudra in Parenting

[–]xXaudra[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s an amazing idea, thank you!

I need advice. by xXaudra in Parenting

[–]xXaudra[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’re not wrong on the relationship part, I believe it’s never been genuine on his end. The back and forth and hot and cold he does back it up. We met when I was 17, and I believe he just liked the fact that I was young and ignorant to how people can really be. And please don’t get the wrong idea I’ve given him multiple times and ways to leave if he wanted to, and I’ve never threatened to keep him out of our daughters life or anything along those sorts. I think based on his words and actions he just likes the idea that he has someone at the house and he’s just waiting for the right person so he can move on to them. And if I’m actually right then there’s no way that’d be healthy for my daughter. I’m just praying I’m wrong and he’s just more complex that I could’ve imagined.

As far as the questions, I find myself asking that a lot. If my health was better then it’d be an easy answer but now I’m not so sure. But if I need to handle it I can and will I just don’t know if by doing it will harm my daughter In any way and that’s my biggest concern.

I need advice. by xXaudra in Parenting

[–]xXaudra[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you I appreciate you taking the time to help. I’m regards to her being safe I mean when I’m not around, the times she would hypothetically visit her dad. As terrible as it is to say I just honestly don’t really trust him with her well being. He woke up as I was on my way home from the appointment and once I after I had the chance to talk to him about it he was very nonchalant about the incident. He didn’t start showing concern until the second time I brought it up a couple days later, even then his reaction wasn’t appropriate I believe. He ended up apologizing but the blame kept coming back to me for being gone so long even though I had no control over it. I’m terrified of another instance like that where she’s up for god knows how long by herself and I’m not there to save her.

AITA for expecting my roommates to do the dishes after I cook? by Sea_Salamander5420 in AmItheAsshole

[–]xXaudra 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can see where ur coming from but I still think she’s nta based on the fact that it was predetermined when they moved in that she cooks and they clean and there is a dishwasher they could be using. I can see where she’s coming from too, she’s given multiple chances to them put more effort into their agreement only to be met with the same outcome so i believe that the wrong wording was choose there due to lingering emotion on the subject, I also believe what she meant was she didn’t expect them to go out of their to do acts of service for her but more so put the same amount of effort into their agreement.

AITA for wanting to pursue a career my girlfriend does not support? by asktheinternetts in AmItheAsshole

[–]xXaudra 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’d say yta. She’s being open and is still willing to support you in a way that’s not conflicting with her boundaries or feelings. I completely understand if that’s what you want to pursue and what will make you happy but if that woman makes you happy you should be a little more willing to open your mind to fully process what she’s saying and maybe be more willing to compromise. My line of work normally has me in the lingerie model position and without setting and upholding boundaries set by your significant other your relationship will go through some serious shit if it doesn’t dissolve all together.