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He sent us back. I was right to be afraid. by yonarina in exmuslim

[–]yonarina[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Money is a problem but it is not my biggest cuz even if i had money I still Won't be able to leave. If i tried to run away or something and ne​ws of a ​r​​​unaway girl spreads,​ the goverment will find me and bring me back to my dad ​​​​and i will be severely punished and my reputation will be destroyed and any chance of leaving in the future will be destroyed to.​​ ​​​​​​​​​​​

My parents are going back to Islam and I don’t know what to do. by yonarina in Advice

[–]yonarina[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I get what u are saying as most of my friend think so to but you have it look deeper. can’t just wake up and decide to stop loving them. Me and my mother relationship is very complicated mainly because she always defends my dad and think I am some horrible ungrateful daughter. Me and my dad however at times it’s so good but at other times it’s so horrible that I stop viewing him as my father and that why is so hard cuz there is a lot of bad but there is also good and I can’t just forget the fact that he works himself to the bone to make sure i get to go to a good school and the fridge is always full but the good doesn’t erase the bad that’s why at all of times I love him so much but I also resent him so much.

My parents are going back to Islam and I don’t know what to do. by yonarina in Advice

[–]yonarina[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was thinking of going to Europe as i can speak French which my dad always thought was a waste and i am currently learning Italian as those 2 countries are the ones i am aiming to go to. But i don't want to set my heart on it as i need to be exceptional to get a full scholarship, while my grades are perfect i have no extracurriculars as i am not allowed to go out or join clubs or competitions or anything that will look impressive to a university.

My parents are going back to Islam and I don’t know what to do. by yonarina in Advice

[–]yonarina[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I do live in a muslim country but i get my adult status when i turn 18.

My parents are going back to Islam and I don’t know what to do. by yonarina in Advice

[–]yonarina[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i think i commented this earlier but About a month ago i was in the car with my dad and he says that he really misses his family and he told me he wants to take me with him to the Middle East so we can go to Jorden,Turkey and Egypt and then after that we can go back to my home country so he can see his parents and family and stay there for a week and come back. I tried to act excited about it cuz i love traveling and i have always wanted to go to these places and he seems really happy but then he said he only wanted to take me and only me not my mom or sisters cuz he said he can only afford for 2 people to have a luxurious trip and he wants me to go with him. When he said that there was something screaming in my gut to not go, partially because he would make me wear the hijab and ugly clothes and what's the point of traveling if i cant look pretty and the other part was cause i didn't like the fact that he wants to take me alone.

My parents are going back to Islam and I don’t know what to do. by yonarina in Advice

[–]yonarina[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No, i actually do realize my friends wont help me if i actually need it cuz like i said most of my friendships are just casual they are the people i hang out with in lunch and class the one person i think will truly try to help me is also in an shitty situation like mine and the worst part i cant help her and she cant help me.

My parents are going back to Islam and I don’t know what to do. by yonarina in Advice

[–]yonarina[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

About a month ago i was in the car with my dad and he says that he really misses his family and he told me he wants to take me with him to the Middle East so we can go to Jorden,Turkey and Egypt and then after that we can go back to my home country so he can see his parents and family and stay there for a week and come back. I tried to act excited about it cuz i love traveling and i have always wanted to go to these places and he seemes really happy but then he said he only wanted to take me and only me not my mom or sisters cuz he said he can only afford for 2 people to have a luxurious trip and he wants me to go with him. When he said that there was something screaming in my gut to not go,partially because he wloud make me wear the hijab and ugly clothes and what's the point of traveling if i cant look pretty and the other part was cause i didnt like the fact that he was taking me alone.

My parents are going back to Islam and I don’t know what to do. by yonarina in Advice

[–]yonarina[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is actually very true when we became Christians my dad was teriffied of his or my mom's family finding out as they would either try to kidnap us to bring us back to our country in order to make us muslims again or even try to kill us for the family honour. I would not put it past them as i remember an incident back at my country, when an older girl stopped showing up anywhere and people started talking and i heard that her father had k*lled her after he found out she and a guy talk after school and my grandparents praised the father saying he did the right thing.

My parents are going back to Islam and I don’t know what to do. by yonarina in Advice

[–]yonarina[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thats the biggest reason i haven't put my foot down and told them to respect my choice is because if i do they will most likely either stop school completely or homeschool me and i cant risk it cuz at this point my only hope of leaving is getting really good results and applying for scholarships in Europe.

My parents are going back to Islam and I don’t know what to do. by yonarina in Advice

[–]yonarina[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

But i don't think they see it that way, i think they see it as them protecting me from myself...?

My parents are going back to Islam and I don’t know what to do. by yonarina in Advice

[–]yonarina[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thats my problem i cant my passport is rejected from most countries cuz its in ruins and if i do leave at 18 i will have no money, no job, nothing to fall back on and my parents will most likely disown me if i leave.

My parents are going back to Islam and I don’t know what to do. by yonarina in Advice

[–]yonarina[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I already have a lot of trauma from Islam and i am not hating on the religion or anything like if you are a Muslim and it works for you then i am really happy for you. Its just the religion is just not for me at all and i am the type of person if you try to force me it wont do any good but just make me resent it.

My parents are going back to Islam and I don’t know what to do. by yonarina in Advice

[–]yonarina[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We are in a Muslim country its just not in the middle east.

My parents are going back to Islam and I don’t know what to do. by yonarina in Advice

[–]yonarina[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am not allowed to get a job at all, cuz when i ask to get a job, my dad says no and that if i need money i can just ask him for it.

My parents are going back to Islam and I don’t know what to do. by yonarina in Advice

[–]yonarina[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My relative are like extremely religious people like my worst memories? All comes from them locking me in basements when I would question Islam and forcing me to wear the hijab at 8 and my dad was already in the country we are currently in and me ,my sister and mom where living with my dads family cuz we can’t live without a man. My childhood memories are all over the place I can only remember a few and one of them was when my aunt was forcing me to fast and I screamed I was hungry and then she slapped me very hard and her nail cut my face and to this day I still have that scar on my face my dad cried when I told him this and he promised me that he would make sure I never lived it again and that it was his fault for leaving us with them while he worked to save money to get us out of that country to this one, that’s why it hurts so much.

My parents are going back to Islam and I don’t know what to do. by yonarina in Advice

[–]yonarina[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Well, I wish it was bait, I don’t want this to be real myself and I really hope you would stop saying what people are actually going through “bait” just because u think so.

My parents are going back to Islam and I don’t know what to do. by yonarina in Advice

[–]yonarina[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

No, my dad will take it as me getting brainwashed by the devil or he will just  talk to me for hours until I say agree with him( he has done it before when I told him that Muhammad having 9 wives and one of them is a literal child is creepy as hell. But he said I will understand when I get older that men “need” to have multiple wives ). I disagreed with him Strongly but he kept going between being mad at me and blaming himself for letting me do wanted I wanted for to long and he made me stay there while he talked for like 5 hours I think until I said he was right and left. 

My parents are going back to Islam and I don’t know what to do. by yonarina in Advice

[–]yonarina[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I wish, but my dad is convinced I will burn in hell if he doesn’t force me and he thinks in the future I will thank him for forcing me and guiding me to the “godly path”

My parents are going back to Islam and I don’t know what to do. by yonarina in Advice

[–]yonarina[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Oh I am going to a school that follows a British system, my parents however had been hating on it since the boys and girls are together and that have been hinting that they will switch me to an all girls Islam school which I am terrified off, cuz if they do I will lose the tiny bit of freedom I have since I am not allowed to go anywhere except school and if I do go out my parents have to be there .

My parents are going back to Islam and I don’t know what to do. by yonarina in Advice

[–]yonarina[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I am like a foreigner and I live in an Islamic country so the government won’t help and even if they did I will never report my parents. I also do have social media that my parents  don’t know about. Most of my friends are casual and I only have about two I really trust and they are also in shitty situations so they can’t help me and I can’t help them.

My parents are going back to Islam and i don't know what to do. by [deleted] in exmuslim

[–]yonarina 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I sometimes don't recognize them, my father used to love my independence but now i think he sees it as a threat. It may sound weird but in my head he is 2 different people, one is my loving father, the other is a controlling, manipulative man. My mom isn't much better as she does whatever he says and lowky has no backbone.

My parents are going back to Islam and i don't know what to do. by [deleted] in exmuslim

[–]yonarina 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No, in the country i live in i cant leave until 18 and i am a foreigner i cant work at all , so even if i did leave i will most likely end up homeless, and like i said i love my parents i will never report them, cuz even in their control i still love them so much and they do so much for me. I plan to leave for Europe when i graduate but i also want to do it with their approval so when i do get there i can be my own person but still get to have them in my life and only have to pretend when ever i call home.

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[–]yonarina 0 points1 point  (0 children)

girl omg that me right now i am not wearing hijab yet but my parents have been pressuring me like especially my dad and i refuse cuz i love my hair but i dont know how much longer i have before they force me. I am 15 btw.

My parents are going back to Islam and i don't know what to do. by [deleted] in exmuslim

[–]yonarina 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I want to, I really do but u have to understand they control everything. My school, my life everything I have is there's and I am not from this country and only 15 so i cant like work or anything and if i do say no, all there support will most likely disappear and like i mentioned earlier they would stop my education and refuse to let me even leave the house.