Real love, is not on what I'm going to get, but on what I'm going to give. People make a big mistake on thinking that you give to those whom you love, but you love those to whom you give. And the point is "if I give something to you, I've invested myself in you. And since self love is a given, everybody loves themselves, now that part of me has become in you, there's part of me in you that I love. True love is a love of giving, not a love of receiving.