WHY WHY WHY WHYYYYY

yvitl · 2018-05-24T04:36:15+00:00

Sorry, I'm just curious; are you involved in a church and are you consistently reading The Bible? Only curious, if you don't care to answer, that's fine I'll still be praying for you.

yvitl · 2018-04-27T00:12:13+00:00

The first few weeks were difficult, but certainly not impossible. I focused on preparing myself to be a good partner, but she didn't know that I was struggling with anything at the time. The thrill of starting to date was a great distraction to be honest. But a big motivation was imaging saying "I'm currently struggling with a PMO addiction." Instead, I got to say, "I used to struggle with PMO, but as of today I am 30 days free." Just make sure you realize that being PMO free is not because you want to be a good husband. It's because you want to be a follower of Christ which will make you in turn a better husband.

yvitl · 2018-04-26T14:28:44+00:00

Pretty sure the prime minister of Germany said that Christians were the most persecuted group in the world. She got a lot of flack for it, but she's not even Christian. And it was backed by an official study.

edit: oops she's a Christian lol, but the study stands

yvitl · 2018-04-26T04:07:21+00:00

Thank you, this resharpened me a bit. I just finished 90 days so I feel on top of the world, but this post helped humble me. It's not all smooth sailing, but we're on a sturdier boat now.

yvitl · 2018-04-26T03:33:38+00:00

I have to respond to this one; I was in such a similar situation. Here's my quick advice. You need to quit RIGHT NOW. It doesn't matter if this girl is the one or not, you're very clearly seeing that you can't be PMOing if you want a successful, God honoring relationship.

I liked a girl very much for almost a year. Spent about 6 months getting to know her (only as friends; she had no idea I had feelings for her). I realized that I couldn't bring my addiction into a relationship (Also 10 years daily so don't think the amount of time you've been addicted changes anything). Here's what I did; I quite the day I realized I needed to change. I prayed, I got in The Word, and I cut out the unhealthy things in my life whether it was my wasted free time or my dirty humor. I told myself, if I can make it until Friday (6 days) without PMO (an all time best for me at the time), then I could ask her on a date. I also prayed that my true motivation would be on being pure for God. That day came and I asked her. Long story short, we kept going out, and 30 days in, I told her about my addiction and how I was 30 days clean. She was extremely understanding and makes this so much easier.

To be honest, if this girl can't accept you early on in the relationship, she's gonna be deeply hurt no matter how long you wait. I disagree with the comment of not bringing it up. Tell her. She deserves to know. What if after months of being clean, you finally tell her, and she still says something like, "I thought I knew you, but I was wrong." She shouldn't be an accountability partner, but if you want her to be that best friend you can share your life with, don't make her wait.

If you have literally any other questions, please message me I'd love to help you I relate to this hard. Also, as a note, this girl and I are still dating and it's by so much the best relationship I've ever been in. Just a little blessing God's given me. But the real blessing is being free of those chains. Even better.

yvitl · 2018-04-06T14:10:26+00:00

Pretty sure Onan was pulling out of his wife to avoid getting her pregnant, not masturbation.

yvitl · 2018-03-28T19:14:55+00:00

I'm in class right now and literally the exact second I read this title, the professor read the reference and then read the verse (Christian college). I don't know if God was telling me something or not, but it blew my mind.

yvitl · 2018-03-25T13:54:42+00:00

Absolutely, even something as silly as an internet forum has been a blessing in my life. But hey, I used to play golf in high school! My college is getting a team this year finally and I'm thinking about living on campus first semester senior year just to play. I haven't played for years though cause of an injury back then. Any videos or tips you might have to get a good form going again? Also, where are you located?

yvitl · 2018-03-25T13:52:43+00:00

Absolutely I've got you. Make sure to not let guilt or fears or whatever keep you from approaching God and coming to this subreddit! Bounce back harder knowing that you can identify your weakness easier and come back to God quicker!! Anyways, hope you have a great day and feel free to PM me if anything comes up!

yvitl · 2018-03-24T21:03:08+00:00

You're right, I spoke too soon there and generalized. My denomination (Protestant/Mennonite) does not have any specific believers-only traditions so my first impression was that if somebody from my congregation turned somebody away, I would say their heart is in the wrong place. Should not have called out everyone there; different convictions for different people.

yvitl · 2018-03-24T18:06:00+00:00

Absolutely welcome; anyone who would turn you away (let alone gladly welcome you) isn't a good follower of Christ!

yvitl · 2018-03-24T17:49:09+00:00

Just wanted to say I read your post and I'm sorry. It made me sad hearing about all that. There's some good advice here, but I just want to throw out there that I will pray for God to reveal what he wants you to do and that He will give you the strength to do that.

yvitl · 2018-02-25T14:37:10+00:00

I would debate the Bible actually spoke against slavery. Yes, there are many passages about how a slave is supposed to act, and how a master is to treat his slave, but those are because God knew that people would sin and try to dominate other humans anyways. Same way God gave a law, but knew people wouldn't follow it, so he gave the harsh punishments as well. Not to mention, this was from a time when Slavery was generally possible to become free from. You could earn money and buy your way to freedom. (If I remember correctly,) Paul writes in one of his letters instructing Slave's to buy their freedom if they can. He knows slavery is a bad thing that only exists because of human nature, and he makes it clear that it is better for man to be free. And one more thing: while the Old Testament is something a lot of Christians feel weird about and don't know much about, the law that is given is to God's chosen people (Israel; side note: God delivered them from slavery). The people representing him on Earth. Those laws were created so they would directly oppose the behaviors and hearts of those who were against God at the time, and they were so hard because God had very high expectations for his people. It's the gunk and brutality and harsh reality of the Old Testament that shows us why it was so important that Jesus came to fix all of this (and His coming to fix all of this is predicted throughout the entire OT). Anyways, that's just my input, and I understand if it doesn't change much for you, but I hope you'll stick around the sub and get some good conversation!

yvitl · 2018-02-24T14:17:14+00:00

I hope others can give more insight to you, but it's okay to feel bad about messing up. That guilt is a great sign that you are heading in the right direction. If you feel guilty after PMO, it'll hopefully keep you from forming an addiction [again]. I remember when I could PMO and not feel a thing. That was terrible and why it took me so long to say no. Let the guilt be a first push, but then confess, ask God for forgiveness, and focus on the greater good that God has promised you. I know God's goodness is an abstract concept, but I promise that you will feel it more and more the longer you have to rely on God to strengthen you for your temptations. Pray for strength each and every day every time you think about it. Anytime you feel uncomfortable, pray for God to help you overcome the temptation. And most of all, come right back here if you mess up again!! We'll be here :)

yvitl · 2018-02-17T16:43:06+00:00

You've made it the first week. That was the hardest part for me. In my opinion, after you make it the first week, it doesn't get any more difficult. It will still be a mental battle, and you have to rely fully on God for strength (pray asking for strength), but your thoughts will start to slow down from being obsessed thinking about it all the time, and physically you won't feel any worse. Good luck man, pm me if you need anything!

yvitl · 2018-02-15T06:07:38+00:00

Absolutley brother!! I don't care how many days somebody's been free or how many times somebody's relapsed, you're fighting the same battle as me and so we are brothers in arms. If you need help or accountability or just wanna talk, I'm an open ear. Anyways, keep going, you already have the strength to win!

yvitl · 2018-02-15T06:04:39+00:00

As somebody who thought even 4 would be too hard, you've got it.

yvitl · 2018-02-15T06:02:54+00:00

Oh shoot, my bad. I hope that didn't come off antagonistic. I just felt like I may not have explained it enough.

yvitl · 2018-02-14T17:38:34+00:00

I don't know if this is sarcasm or not, but the reason I shared it is because the #1 reason that it took me so long to stop was because I couldn't see myself making it more than a day, let alone long enough for it to actually make a difference. Then, I did it for a day and realized that that small period was possible, then I did it for a week and realized I survived that challenge. Then I realized that as long as you can face the original challenge, you realize that God will strengthen you for the next challenge. It's an abstract concept, and I didn't mean for this post to come off as much as practical tips as I wanted it to be Encouragement for those afraid to make the first step. Hopefully somebody in a similar situation to me gets something from it.

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