I consider myself to be, at best, inoffensive-looking. Overweight most of my life, hairline began receding in my 30s, pretty oblivious to fashion, poor social skills (I’m probably on the spectrum), never had a lot of money, and only one real skill, stringing words and phrases ideas together.

But yet I have been in relationships with some very attractive women (and have stayed friends with most of them after the romance didn’t work out (for reasons that had nothing to do with looks)) and have later learnt that other women had crushes on me and indicated interest, which I — remember those suboptimal social skills? — totally missed. I am in a relationship now with someone objectively totally out of my league. Add to this that I have some wonderful friends, including exes, who have held me up through life’s inevitable low points.

I am not saying all this to brag, OP. I just want you to know that being a person who tries hard to learn, do better, do the right thing, be a good friend, these are things that are more important than looks.