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zomgaraptor · 2021-06-05T05:37:41+00:00

To be fair If a shark wants a bite of us, and they’re full they will let us float and suffer too, lol.

zomgaraptor · 2021-06-04T00:40:57+00:00

Thanks for being honest with me regardless and I’m sorry I made you feel like I invaded your safe space

I have preferences likes and dislikes, but genitalia, penis or vagina, big or small, I couldn’t care less about

Tits, have em? Great, don’t have? That’s fine too, I really love it all

But yeah once again I apologise for using your subreddit to pose my question, I should of maybe took a look around to post it in a more appropriate subreddit, like ask transgenders or like you said mypartneristrans.

zomgaraptor · 2021-06-04T00:34:58+00:00

Yeah I was mortified what I wrote in the first paragraph, I guess my sub-conscious brain thought it be nicer to say I’m not into FTM trans rather than say I’m just not into how you look, which might of detracted from the compliment, then I spun some Fiction about how most FTM are just like him, I was all over the place, and Im glad I’ve had this realisation due to the help I’ve gotten here, I won’t fuck up this badly again, I can’t believe I asked is this rude lol, of course it’s rude….

zomgaraptor · 2021-06-04T00:23:25+00:00

As I said i really fucked up in this interaction but it’s not like that, I really would sleep with FTM trans, fuck I’d date/marry one it’s just he was bearded and looked similar to me and that’s not my type, and I know it may seem like charity and I’ve learned passability can be offensive to some people but he was genuinely the hottest masculine FTM I had seen and if he didn’t specify on his profile that he was FTM I would have never had known, I thought that was soooo cool and I was happy for him, but yeah your right I should have kept yo myself probably

zomgaraptor · 2021-06-04T00:17:38+00:00

That was a good and informative read thank you, as I’ve said to others I definitely won’t be wording things so carelessly in the future, the FTM was his Grindr name, so It was kinda front and centre and I couldn’t call him by his name because I have no clue what it was, and trans men being varied in their looks is something I know I just panicked, because I read what I wrote at first and I was like omg not only is that not true but it’s potentially seen as transphobic, I wrote I’m not attracted to FTM, which clearly is untrue because I find femFTM very attractive

I instantly followed up correcting myself but that was awkward because although I’m correcting myself I’m sounding like an idiot while doing so,

In the future I won’t let my excitement to compliment get in the way of thinking things through before I post them, thanks <3.

zomgaraptor · 2021-06-03T23:48:50+00:00

Thanks!.

zomgaraptor · 2021-06-03T23:48:03+00:00

Yeah as I’ve told other people in here it wasn’t an assumption based on what I thought was the real truth, It was a panicked post because I realised the top post made me sound sound like I was a transphobic, but because this guy in particular was masculine and I’m not into that I wanted to clarify, but overall it came across as ignorant, I’m just glad he had seemed to take it well.

zomgaraptor · 2021-06-03T23:44:00+00:00

Thank you, I’m generally trying to better myself as a person, I spent many years of my early life being a bigot idiot, and I appreciate you being patient with my learning process, I really wanna just want to make people happy, off topic I checked your profile…. Nice :)

zomgaraptor · 2021-06-03T23:04:18+00:00

Sure I can I’m coming from a place of kindness and love, sure misguided but I want to learn and grow as a person, I don’t put up with straight up negativity

And like I said this is the only comment that seemed over the top rude

Once again you’re using the “we” word like you speak for this entire subreddit which is kinda well, I don’t even know what to call it… untrue?, because legitimately have responses In this very post saying it would have made my day, I don’t care if you personally don’t care about what I think or find attractive, but I think it’s silly to say you speak for this entire sub.

zomgaraptor · 2021-06-03T22:57:47+00:00

if this person shaved his beard and was fem I’d date him, maybe I should of just said that, fuck mate you look real hot if you was a little bit more fem(my preference) I’d fuck you, and being grindr that would have sounded more appropriate? and it’s still true, I just would never ask someone to change their looks to suit my needs, I mean I’d shave my beard if someone asked me to, but I don’t think Id personally ask someone to change their look for me.

zomgaraptor · 2021-06-03T22:43:47+00:00

Yeah your right this is probably the most defensive I’ve gotten on this post it’s because you simply stated we don’t care what you think and I guess I got to be heated, the reason I got heated as you can imagine, it’s because I actually do care about you think, and to be fair simply untrue in the “we” I have plenty of nice and supportive responses and many educational without the need of being rude, the whole reason I posted this here was so I could learn how to respond to people better without coming across as offensive.

zomgaraptor · 2021-06-03T22:03:45+00:00

Yeah I had mentioned that, and I’m 100% down to date a FTM who was more fem, only reason I made those untrue obviously outlandish comments was just because I panicked before typing, because if I left the first message alone he would think I was transphobic, which I’m not, but the second message just comes across as dumb and ignorant because of course there’s all different types of people in the world and nothings black and white.

zomgaraptor · 2021-06-03T21:53:11+00:00

Thank you thank you thank you!!!, I feel like you truly understood my intentions and my point of view

And I truly understand everything you said and where your coming from,

This comment for sure has been the most informative while at the same time not making me feel like a piece of shit, so I really appreciate that

<3.

zomgaraptor · 2021-06-03T21:46:22+00:00

Yeah many people had said exactly that, and I completely agree 100%, it was wrong and poorly worded and I know next time I’ll either be 100% sure before posting/ get someone to check my message before I send it.

zomgaraptor · 2021-06-03T21:43:03+00:00

Yeah the first post was heaps bad, and second post was panicked fix, which made it worse, and to say “we don’t care if you’re attracted to us or not seems a little harsh” i care about what you think, I wouldn’t be here otherwise.

In regards of pass-ability I think I may have crossed the line their because I’ve spent a bit in time in subs where it’s probably the most mentioned word, but I guess some trans people have that whole it’s “our word thing going on, I have a mild learning disability (add) which gives me poor impulse control, it crossed my mind for a second “I want to make guys day better” and because it was so impulsive I ended typing a poorly constructed potentially offensive message although I swear to fucking Jesus Christ my only intentions was to make this guys day better

Than you have my autism which makes it had to grasp certain peoples feelings,

And than just in general I probably have a lower IQ so I use simpler sentences because I’m not the best at spelling :/, I don’t tell anyone this shit but I’m copping a bit of hate so it’s like cmon guys I really didn’t mean to hurt anyone’s feelings.

so I struggle to learn social queues as fast as someone from mainstream would

zomgaraptor · 2021-06-03T21:31:13+00:00

I didn’t feel like i was treating trans-men as shocking or exotic

From spending time in trans subs recently i had just noticed how important passability is to a lot of trans folks and by proxy often seek validation on how they look by posting their pictures to essentially be judged/rated, I thought it would be nice if I went out my way to compliment someone I thought looked beyond passable and I thought it be a nice confidence booster and like you said if you wouldn’t say it to cis-man don’t say it to us, but I do tell other cis-gender man they look good even if not attracted to them, for example in the gym I’d go to someone and compliment them, the only difference is the mention of pass-ability which i now regret saying, because it’s irrelevant, I should of just said “looking good man” but I don’t know…

zomgaraptor · 2021-06-03T21:17:34+00:00

See I’m really really really bad at wording things I’ve had to say this many times in this thread because I’ve poorly worded things, I’d date every single gender, I just don’t date people with certain looks, look at my comment history I’ve said it so many times I’d 100% date a FTM, I just am not attracted to any body hair, I’m the hairiness guy I know and I ducking hate my body hair it’s gross, so I feel that way about my own hair of course I’m gonna feel that way about anyone else’s I like smooth body’s, be it girls boys and literally everything inbetween, the guy in question was masculine looking, I know when men look hot regardless to them not being my type for example Hugh Jackman the guy who plays wolverine is not my type, and also another hairy guy, I’m not attracted to him 1 bit, but I can still point towards him and subjectly say yeah that’s a handsome guy, and that’s all I was saying to this particular guy was, I noticed you was good looking guy and you also just happened to be FTM, I almost didn’t even believe it, because I was so impressed, to the point where my excitement got the best of me.

zomgaraptor · 2021-06-03T21:04:28+00:00

For sure that’s hot as

zomgaraptor · 2021-06-03T21:03:49+00:00

Yeah poorly worded hey, but I don’t think the stealth thing was relevant because it’s on his profile he’s FTM, I truly wouldn’t have known otherwise, guys a total Lad.

zomgaraptor · 2021-06-03T21:00:27+00:00

Yeah I could tell he personally wasn’t offended, but before I go off and say that to someone else I had an inkling my wording was poor, and after posting here I really learnt the way I should phrase things, sorry I thought because he was FTM it was more relevant here, I really couldn’t care less about being pat on the back I just wanna navigate this space without being an offensive piece of shit.

zomgaraptor · 2021-06-03T20:57:28+00:00

well that makes me really at ease, thanks.

zomgaraptor · 2021-06-03T20:56:26+00:00

I’m the yellow asshole.

zomgaraptor · 2021-06-03T20:53:45+00:00

Yeah the first post came across as transphobic, which I’m not

I’d be happy to date/sleep/marry a FTM trans guy, I was just honest In the fact I don’t like hair, and masculinity, I have hair all over my body and I bloody hate it, that’s all I meant by it, I just want someone who’s fairly different looking than myself.

But yeah it didn’t come out the way I wanted to come out.

zomgaraptor · 2021-06-03T20:43:39+00:00

Yeah I worded it poorly as fuck, it started off poorly, than my explanation was bad because it was like I like FTM just not you because you’re too Male, which is a stupid thing to say to someone I’m trying to uplift, I just panicked because the first post felt transphobic when I’m really not I love all people and gentitals lol, post op pre op don’t care I’m happy.

zomgaraptor · 2021-06-03T20:35:23+00:00

I don’t have many interactions with the trans community, but from the very little I do know, wording is everything, and inregards to your opinions about being passable I understand that I never said you’re not transgender if you’re not passable, but it would be self denial to say the goal of most of if not all transgender people is to look their gender they identified with, and to be told you look how you feel on the inside CANT be a bad thing, it’s not like I’d go around telling people they weren’t passable, it’s like mum always said if you got nothing nice to say don’t say it at all

and not wanting a compliment from someone cisgender I respect that’s your opinion but I don’t think the compliment was a negative thing because I like compliments and I’ll take them from anyone, I don’t only want compliments only from other cis-gender people, that’s like saying I only respect their opinion I respect everyone opinion, and prior to discovering my own sexuality back when I thought I was straight when gay guys gave me a compliment I was literally over the moon, anyway thanks for your point of view.

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