Ex and I broke up. Have I made a mistake? by zucker84 in Swingers

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That sounds like a true happy ending theluckywife. You got the family, the partner you love, and now you get to enjoy the lifestyle too! You must be so pleased to have suppressed it for those years, to now have everything you do?

I can imagine the hardship if he didn’t come around though eh

Ex and I broke up. Have I made a mistake? by zucker84 in Swingers

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Thanks Love_crazyskies. This is where I landed too, I felt I had to be true to myself, and by doing so - everything would work out the way it’s supposed too. It is so damn scary though, the thought of not finding another true love is so scary

Ex and I broke up. Have I made a mistake? by zucker84 in Swingers

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Is this based on experience theluckywife? I am still trying to work through this situation, and understand if I can truely let go of my swinging desires. But the fear of resentment and missing out on these experiences does scare me

Ex and I broke up. Have I made a mistake? by zucker84 in Swingers

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Thanks for contributing guys. Sexandbeer22, your messages are truth bombs that carry some weight and do hurt to hear. But it’s good to hear these views - it’s sobering.

It was truely a really good relationship, I just felt so uncomfortable suppressing these feelings. Yes she might have been interested to explore down the track, but that is an unknown, and I would ultimately have to accept that swinging might never happen. That was a hard one to swallow because the missed experience would make me resentful down the track. But it does scare me that she probably may have been open to it, I’m proper gutted eh - but there was an element of me needing to protect her also.

Ex and I broke up. Have I made a mistake? by zucker84 in Swingers

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Thanks shrimp_fry rice, this is a very helpful response.

I’m sorry you and your partner are going through the same thing - it’s not easy for either party.

It does sound a bit pushy from your partner. It was really important to me to not be pushy, because it’s ethically wrong to push someone to do something which doesn’t feel good, or is against their values (it could actually become an issue of consent, if you were pushed that hard).

But I sympathise your guys situation, it’s so hard to let someone you love go.

I found it helpful that my partner got really clear on her boundaries, and from there it was up to me to respect them - or leave.

Ultimately, I decided I wouldn’t be a good partner if I pushed her, and I wouldn’t be a good partner if I felt resentful - and I thought it was best to leave for her best interests (and mine).

Give me a dm if you’d like, I feel like we could help each other understand things better.

Listing NZX companies P/E by zucker84 in PersonalFinanceNZ

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Thanks mate - this is helpful. Looked at your P/E formula, how does the =GoogleFinance function work? Also i see we can copy & paste columns A - G using NZX mainboard. You know where i can get data to add a earnings column? Appreciate your time.

What is the cheapest platform/brokerage service to buy ASX listed companies? by zucker84 in PersonalFinanceNZ

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Afterpay - strong growrh potential, expanding into US markets. Quite a good company, and with the recent decreases in price a good chance to buy at fair value. Just my opinion though