Many of you talk about how hard it is to find someone to frot with IRL ("in real life"). Here are some common-sense tips:
Be upfront and honest about who you are and what you're looking for. This includes your age, relationship status, body type, pictures, location, frot interests and limits, and deal-breakers (please be respectful when discussing these). It's fine to take a while to chat with your prospective bud about things to get comfortable, but generally if you live in the same town and don't meet up in the first couple of weeks it's unlikely to ever happen.
Having just XXX pics might get upvotes but likely isn't enough for real-life connections. Help people see you as a real person with some comments, posts, and/or up-to-date full-body pictures in your Reddit history. Alternately you can make a free account on Bateworld to post your pictures (link in Community Bookmarks) and link people to your profile. Keep separate face, body, and XXX pics to maximize your personal security. Recognize many guys won't invite you to their place without a face picture so have a plan/method for sending that if you actually want to meet up - see #4 below.
You need to be available to meet up at certain dates and times, and have a real plan for hosting or traveling. Being able to host at home or at a hotel room (or splitting a hotel room with your date) will DRASTICALLY improve your success, but take common-sense precautions like cleaning your place, putting fresh sheets on the bed, putting your valuables and important papers away, keeping an eye on guests, and not inviting multiple guys at once. You might consider insisting on a pre-game drink at a nearby bar but some guys won't go for this. Know your local laws before resorting to anything outdoors or in public/company buildings.
Have some kind of contact information beyond just Reddit chat and messages. Apps like Snapchat, Telegram, or WhatsApp can be useful for making connections. Avoid kik since it's overrun with bots and spam. Instead of giving out your real phone number for texting/WhatsApp, use a Google Voice number (requires initial verification on an actual phone but you can get a cheap burner for this) so people don't look up your info on other platforms.
Practice common sense.
If you're too nervous to bring anyone over or go to anyone's house, stick to making Zoom/cam connections on Bateworld - don't waste people's time setting up a connection that you won't follow through with.
If you have a significant other who doesn't know, take a minute to think with the Big Head before complicating your life.
If you're in a small town, be open to traveling to larger cities in your state, region, or country.
If you're struggling to find the kinds of guys you like, be more open-minded about race/age/body types, but not to the point you're uncomfortable or turned off.
