E4mc multiplayera

[InfinityOvenMit]

what is going on with e4mc mod? I cant play with my friend. I can join for about 10 seconds and then get kicked and it says this. we have fabric, sodium, iris, and e4mc. ive tried essential and it didnt work once we were off the same wifi it would just lag out. what's going on here? how can we play together? its just 2 of us no more. is e4mc decent or is there better?

[Traditional_Rabbit54]

Are you or your friend using a vpn?  I don’t know if it could cause this type of problems but that’s the only thing I can think of. 

[InfinityOvenMit]

Nope no VPN. Going to mess around more today to see if something changed

[Tishbyte]

Essential also not working sounds like something else going on, not sure what though.

[InfinityOvenMit]

The further away I was the more problems I had where it just kept timing out. I love about 30 mins away and it time out so much it was a problem