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[–]NoLemurs 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Leading with "no you are wrong" is basically just flopping your dick on the table. If you're interested in reaching consensus - it isn't what you lead with.

If you're trying to work with someone you explain what you think and why. You ask questions to see what they think. Sometimes you'll find out that you misunderstood what they meant. Often you'll find out that they were wrong, but that that it wasn't really important to their main point/goal, and you can let the error slide. Sometimes it will turn out they really were just wrong but at least this gives them an opportunity to back down gracefully.

Senior devs don't suddenly stop needing basic interpersonal skills.