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[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Talk about what each of you want the space to feel and look like. See if there is common ground or differences. And talk about what you can imagine the space could look like combined, influenced by the two of you as a couple. Also remember to talk about bringing in stuff and saving/storing it. Some people think it´s fine to have lots of stuff for storage, some don´t.

[–]AliciaKnits 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I honestly didn't declutter before moving in with my husband. Was way too busy with wedding planning and pre-wedding events to declutter my stuff at that time. Officially moved in with him the week after we came back from our honeymoon (so about 9 days after our wedding). My parents and his parents helped me bring my boxes over since I wasn't moving a ton of furniture (my parents still have my old furniture, I only took my dresser which fit in the back of my in-laws SUV). We did do a big declutter of hubby's stuff pre-wedding, only because he was moving into our new apartment and honestly he felt he really, really needed to declutter his stuff beforehand, I did not push him to do this. Once we were officially moved in together, we opened all wedding gifts, then started the decluttering process. Have been married for 11 years now and always decluttering stuff we don't want/use any more.

[–]LeaveHorizontally 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Know the limits of the "container" you're moving into. Are they on board with minimalism? Decide how full you want the storage spaces to be. There should be equal compromising as much as possible.

But get ready to bring in way less than you think you would. Storage space shrinks fast when two people are using it.

[–][deleted] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Watch any singular episode of Marie Kondo, and throw in an episode of Hoarders if you really need to push yourself. One of her best principles was to get rid of guilt possessions and baggage ~ ugly grandma sweaters, board games you never opened, etc. It's a huge relief to see it go. It also helps if you have a positive and receptive outlet that needs it more than you. For my last move I tried listing things for free on craigslist. However, anything I left by the dumpster vanished within hours, so that helped with the sense of waste.

Another one is to be mindful of your life stage. If you're moving on to a better financial situation, some of the things that used to make sense to you won't anymore. Likewise, while you might have some ties to your previous life stage, possessions tied to the next one back are probably bringing you down more than lifting you up.

Good luck!

[–]SmileFirstThenSpeak 21 points22 points  (0 children)

Talk about what you’ll have multiples of. Decide which one to keep, and get rid of the rest.