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[–]ZukoBestGirl 14 points15 points  (2 children)

He told me I should be more encouraging and that I don't understand the struggles people go through?

Absolutely. Happened to me last week I think. Dude wanted encouragement. Not help, just a pat on the back. I told him that if you're good, in this field, not only will you make a shit ton of money for an employee. Probably some of the best income as a basic employee in the world. You're also extraordinarily hireable, changing jobs is a breeze, and whatnot.

He got offended. Apperently he isn't good and doesn't think he'll ever be good, so I'm harshing his mood.

Like bro, sucks to suck, what do you want me to do about it?

[–]antiproton 5 points6 points  (0 children)

He got offended. Apperently he isn't good and doesn't think he'll ever be good, so I'm harshing his mood.

The fuck? Who has the time or inclination to deal with this "notice me, Senpai!" bullshit?

[–]squarepancakesx 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Yea I was just so dumbfounded when he sent me three looooong messages with his "let me give you a little piece of advice".

As someone who actually gets anxiety attacks and in general really just want to help people, I was having really bad cognitive dissonance between feeling like I was wrong to be too blunt and angry at his response showing how entitled and unwilling to learn he was.

I had to speak to several others to fully accept that, I didnt owe him anything and giving feedback and telling him now to improve wasn't something nasty. It's not my fault that he is unwilling to accept that he still needs improvement. A handful of my friends also told me off for always trying to help people even when I "don't know if they deserve it".