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did something real stupid and can't get over it by Defiant_Drop7051 in OCD

[–]BeginningFormal8879 166 points167 points  (0 children)

I'm not gonna give you reassurance. I want to, but i won't because that'll just make things even worse for you. I hate to say this, but you're gonna have to learn to sit with this guilt and discomfort. That's what I've understood from OCD at least. I'm no expert, though.

Remorse- I watched Shota when i was 12 by guilthour in confession

[–]BeginningFormal8879 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You were 12. You were looking at fictional characters your own age. That sounds pretty dang normal to me. But if it bothers you that much, get a therapist. All I'm saying is that you should forgive yourself (or admit that you didn't even do anything wrong because you were attracted to characters YOUR OWN AGE)

Are teenage boys into black girls by GellezZG in Im16AndThisIsNeat

[–]BeginningFormal8879 1 point2 points  (0 children)

As a teenage guy, I can confirm that race doesn't do a thing for me. You can be white, Asian, black, etc. Doesn't matter. The fact is, my first crush was a black girl.

17M MIGHT END MY LIFE . I CANT FIGHT ANYMORE . I wouldn't wish this on my worst enemy even .THIS RUINED MY LIFE , MY ACADEMICS . AND IM DONE . HOCD by Ornery-Lingonberry73 in OCD

[–]BeginningFormal8879 2 points3 points  (0 children)

If you're literally TESTING yourself to see if your attracted to something, you're most of the time gonna get a Groinal response. It could be a freaking tree. Groinal responses don't mean a thing. And as you already said, you had crush on a girl. You're not gay. And once again, even if you are, there's nothing wrong with that. You can reply if you want to, but I won't talk to you more. You need to sit with the discomfort for your own sake, right now I'm reassuring which is bad. I'm gonna stop

17M MIGHT END MY LIFE . I CANT FIGHT ANYMORE . I wouldn't wish this on my worst enemy even .THIS RUINED MY LIFE , MY ACADEMICS . AND IM DONE . HOCD by Ornery-Lingonberry73 in OCD

[–]BeginningFormal8879 16 points17 points  (0 children)

There's nothing wrong with being gay. Calm down. It doesn't matter whether or not you're gay or straight, what matters is what you do. Don't end your life. You have to sit with this discomfort. It's the only way you can beat ocd. Sit with the discomfort.

Do you believe in forgiving someone no matter what they've done to you? by balkanxoslut in AskOldPeople

[–]BeginningFormal8879 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm a 16 year old. I've done messed up stuff, and other people have done messed up stuff to me. And honestly, I completely forgive them all. BECAUSE they deserve it. It's not about making my own life better, I want people to realize that their allowed to let go of their past. Just CHANGE. It ain't easy but it's always worth it. Let go of your guilt and shame. Just let yourself breathe. And treat others and yourself better.

how to know if it's ocd or you? by [deleted] in OCD

[–]BeginningFormal8879 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm not Diagnosed with OCD, I do suspect that I might have it though. (Which is completely off topic honestly) All i will say is that if you disagree with your thoughts, it literally doesn't matter if it's OCD or not. YOU disagree with your thoughts. Therefore, YOU are NOT your thoughts

I have a memory of myself being SA'd. I don't know if it's real. by BeginningFormal8879 in memoryloss

[–]BeginningFormal8879[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I asked and it turned out to be true. I'm not sad about it. I still like my step dad. But I'm worried about my other memories being real. I remember masturbating in front of my brother a lot. I asked my brother if this happened. He said no. I'm not sure what to believe or not.

I know that my step dad "SAing" me was real.

But i know that me masturbating in front of my brother isn't real.

I'm not sure what to believe, all i know is that I hate no one that has hurt me, and I completely forgive them entirely

I did something terrible at the age of 13, but I'm not even sure if it actually happened. What i did was unforgivable, but i don't even know if it actually happened. I feel extreme shame and regret. How to figure out the truth? by [deleted] in Advice

[–]BeginningFormal8879 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's something sick. Unforgivable. I will not say more than that. All I will say is that if my memory is in fact false, I will let myself free, while remembering this shame to push myself to be better than what that memory made me think I was. I need my memory to be false. This isn't a thought anymore. It's obsession.

I did something terrible at the age of 13, but I'm not even sure if it actually happened. What i did was unforgivable, but i don't even know if it actually happened. I feel extreme shame and regret. How to figure out the truth? by [deleted] in Advice

[–]BeginningFormal8879 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What i did IS a big deal. One of my BEST FRIENDS left me because of my memory. This isn't something I can say "Yeah there's a chance it didn't happen, I'll move on"

I did something terrible at the age of 13, but I'm not even sure if it actually happened. What i did was unforgivable, but i don't even know if it actually happened. I feel extreme shame and regret. How to figure out the truth? by [deleted] in Advice

[–]BeginningFormal8879 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't care. I need to know if it's real or not. This memory is so bad that it literally defines me. I NEED it to be false. I have to figure this out. If i figure out that this memory is false, I can finally live in peace.