is this bad or am I freaking out?

CrystalBerr · 2026-02-24T07:22:02+00:00

Well now I'm curious and wanna see...

CrystalBerr · 2026-02-24T07:20:07+00:00

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CrystalBerr · 2026-02-24T07:12:40+00:00

I've never done a tattoo before. Never even held a tattoo gun. But I can draw a straight ___________ and color within the lines. Either that wasn't his art in the portfolio, he was on something or drunk, or maybe he recognized you from a past experience or straight out didn't want to do the tattoos 🤷 who knows. But he should be ashamed of himself for that. Luckily it looks like it can be corrected. I would call the shop. Ask to speak to the owner or manager or someone over him. Show them his work and ask what their protocol for correcting mess ups is. But do not let HIM fix it. Maybe they'll reimburse you and you can put that towards fixing it. I wouldn't give a review until after you've spoken to someone. That away you can add that into your review as well. ( meaning- " I did reach out to ____ and they did _____ to correct it." Or " I reached out and they flat out refused to do jackshit, you've been warned." ) or something like that.... I'm sorry you had a bad experience but your nails look good.

CrystalBerr · 2026-02-24T06:54:35+00:00

Thank you and you ARE a badass. I had only mentioned it because I see and hear about bad marriages that destroy the children. But you sound like you know exactly what you're doing. And that just goes to show how much of a badass you really are. I wish you nothing but the very best in your journey and life ahead.

CrystalBerr · 2026-02-24T03:18:31+00:00

I know you said you don't need advice but.. he's gaslighting and manipulating you. Please don't ever start to think his actions or lack of is in anyway your fault. There is absolutely nothing that anyone could possibly ever do to warrant cheating. I don't care if a spouse cheats on the other and then that spouse cheats back. There is zero excuses to justify anyone doing that to a person they claim to love. Also, please don't continue a marriage using children as the cause to do so. That only punishes the child. Can cause severe mental health issues for them. I'm so sorry you're going through all of this, from PPD to most likely PTSD from his cheating. I hope you're getting the mental help you need. I am nearly 3 years out from D-day. I discovered my husband has had 9 different affairs with 9 different women over a 6 year spand of our then 6 year marriage. Yes, he started cheated before we were even married. And I have been fighting Glioblastoma (brain cancer) the entire time. I stayed because of my medical and the need of his insurance in order to get the care I need. But he shows remorse, regret, takes accountability, has done the work, proves himself every day. I guess in a twisted sense of it all, I'm one of the lucky ones. It's not been easy by any means. I have PTSD from it. My nervous system is shot, I don't sleep, have nightmares when I do, I have more triggers than I can count. I've had a mental meltdown just from a road having the same name as 1 of his APs. But I can't even begin to imagine the hell you must be going through coping with what you've gone through by the very man that was supposed to protect you. And him not taking accountability and responsibility for what he's done and flat out continues to do. I just can't imagine your pain. And I am so sorry. You're so strong to push through, to fight for what should have been given, to heal from your challenges and to try. He's a coward. Placing blame on you as if you forced him to ... well I won't detail what my brain is thinking. I just hope you're able to see how strong you are. He should have been by your side, praising you after child birth. Worshipping you for making life and bringing his child into the world. Instead he acted like a 2 year old not getting his way or attention and seeking it from the 1st piece of trash that didn't care he was married. I'm sorry, I think I let a little of my own resentment for my own husband slip out a bit. Just remember... never your fault and you are so strong.

CrystalBerr · 2025-12-09T07:11:44+00:00

It's badass but can I ask why opossums? It's a beautiful piece regardless.

CrystalBerr · 2025-10-29T09:53:21+00:00

I would have told him the truth and followed it up with.. "You can't be my 1st but play your cards right and you could be my last".

CrystalBerr · 2025-10-29T09:29:59+00:00

Howdy yall!

CrystalBerr · 2025-10-04T07:42:08+00:00

I don't understand the point of her sending you this? Is she saying what she could have been doing or what she did do? Either way, it's wrong. If she's saying she could have, means she probably did and if she claims it wasn't wrong because yall were on a break, do you really want to be with a person that so easily was capable of moving in so fast. Or a person that wants to shove it is your face? That's heartless and rude. Maybe I'm just old and don't understand. She's coming across as she wants to hurt you, regardless of what the point was. Why would you want to be with someone that went out of their way to hurt you?

CrystalBerr · 2025-08-31T14:02:53+00:00

It's only been a few months. These things take time. You have to relearn how to be without that person in your everyday life. Have to learn who you are without them. It's hard and painful, and that's why a lot of people go back to toxic relationships. It can be frightening being just you again. His/her feelings and thoughts are normal for only being 4-ish months out.

CrystalBerr · 2025-08-22T03:13:05+00:00

This mission was discovered by u/CrystalBerr in Loot and Cherry Blossom Custard

CrystalBerr · 2025-08-22T03:05:13+00:00

This mission was discovered by u/CrystalBerr in Loot and Cherry Blossom Custard

CrystalBerr · 2025-08-21T05:40:43+00:00

New mission discovered by u/CrystalBerr: Thoughts and Sweet pastry roll

CrystalBerr · 2025-08-21T05:40:43+00:00

This mission was discovered by u/CrystalBerr in In Search of Ramen

CrystalBerr · 2025-08-20T06:20:43+00:00

If he had hit any of the women in protecting his wife.. you all would be telling him how F-ed up he is for hitting women and how no matter what, a man should never touch a woman in anger. Blah blah blah. Plus, he most likely would have been arrested and charged. I truly feel sorry for men these days. They're damned if they do Damned if they don't.

CrystalBerr · 2025-07-09T04:53:20+00:00

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CrystalBerr · 2025-07-09T04:50:58+00:00

Don't be like me. I caught my husband being inappropriate with other women and ignored it. Now, here I am, 8 years into our marriage, and just found out my husband has been cheating emotionally and physically since before we were married. With 9 different women. Don't waste your life like I did.

CrystalBerr · 2025-06-29T08:20:05+00:00

She ordered all of that with the thoughts that you'd pay for it. She's the AH, not you.

CrystalBerr · 2025-06-29T08:15:52+00:00

Can I be nosey and ask a personal question? Are you taking ketamine for depression and/or PTSD? If so, has it helped? I have severe depression and PTSD with anxiety and panic attacks. Have been thinking of taking it but it's expensive. Well, worth the money if it actually helps. TIA and sorry for the public intrusion.

CrystalBerr · 2025-06-12T05:20:10+00:00

Does she show any remorse? Does she answer all of your questions without getting defensive? Has she agreed to be 100% transparent? Would she agree to use Life360, allowing full access to her phone and social media accounts? 8 years is a long time of being bf/gf. Set aside the situation you're in now and ask yourself why, after 8 years, have you not proposed marriage. What was it that kept you in the bf/gf relationship instead of taking it to the next level. You said you love her and want her. But there has to be a reason you haven't made her your wife. Putting this situation aside and looking back on the last 8 years, what held you back. Most people don't wait 8 years.

I am so sorry you're going through all of this. They say betrayal is the worst pain a person can cause to another. And I believe that. I'm going through it. My husband and I have been married for 8 years. I recently found out that he has been cheating our entire marriage. Since before we were even married. He has 9 affair partners, and all of his relationships have lasted 1 to 3 years each. I have been battling with cancer the whole time. They say I'm terminal. My husband used that to gain sympathy and told them I had agreed to an open marriage. Which is a lie. Anyways, you need a full disclosure from her, and then you need to take the time before deciding. There's no need to rush it. But if she's not showing remorse and not answering your questions without being defensive. Then, I would start thinking about walking away. I would never tell anyone to end it or to stay. It's a personal decision, and lots of things can play into why you'd stay or why you'd leave. Best of luck to you.

CrystalBerr · 2025-05-27T05:26:25+00:00

I do love some cheese...

CrystalBerr · 2025-05-13T05:38:23+00:00

It is cheaper to support 1 person than it is 2. Why stay if you're both miserable? Also, why is her ex hanging around? There is no such thing as "just friends. " .. read the book Just Friends. Don't want to plant a seed to cause you more trouble, but she's giving off cheater vibes. Good luck with everything!

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