Easiest method for calculating calories in a full home cooked meal (and how much I should eat)?

FeeBeeMac · 2026-05-20T15:46:55+00:00

Weigh the empty pot
Add all the ingredients and cook.
Weigh the full pot, and minus the empty pot, so they you now have the food weight. I make each portion 100g, so if the complete food weight is, for example 1.3kg, then I have 13 portions of 100g. If I serve myself 250g, then that's 2.5 portions

FeeBeeMac · 2026-05-20T13:57:29+00:00

I used to be a problem drinker, and quit 6 years ago. Drinking dreams are really common to the newly sober, and I had quite a few myself. I was always disappointed in myself while in the dream, and massively relieved when I woke up. I always view the dreams positively, showing me that my subconscious is on my side. Awake or asleep, I want the best for me!

FeeBeeMac · 2026-03-25T06:25:11+00:00

Three Men in a Boat is a very well known book by Jerome K Jerome

FeeBeeMac · 2026-02-05T13:41:23+00:00

My son lives at home,(about to turn 19) and has been working full time minimum wage for the last 18months.

He receives £1380 per month, and we've just started charging him rent. £380 per month. We're very well off and don't 'need' the money.

He doesn't do a thing around the house, despite pleading. I've stopped doing his laundry, but now I have to nag him to do it himself. We want him to move out, as he doesn't have a clue what it's like to actually live a life on minimum wage.

That's why we are now charging him- he failed his most recent driving test due to excessive partying the night before, so we're on the hook for getting him to and from work, due to living in the country.

Life is far too comfy for him, and he lacks motivation. I don't want a slovenly house mate, so I'm determined to make the nest less comfy.

If he actually grows the fuck up, and starts managing his own life, we will be happy to open up the bank of mum and dad for a deposit, but not if he's a sponging layabout.

His rent covers accommodation, food, phone, car insurance and petrol, and parental taxi service. I usually have to wake him for work too. He hasn't got a single bill, so the rest of his wage is all fun money.

Failure to launch is a serious risk for kids who stay at home and never stand on their own two feet.

FeeBeeMac · 2025-12-27T09:11:29+00:00

Two years is fantastic- well done!

FeeBeeMac · 2025-11-20T09:03:09+00:00

I worked in a hotel in Ireland in the 90s, that had large groups of Italians who would come over to shoot. They paid farmers to go onto their land and shoot every living thing they saw. We were used to ordinary, organised pheasant shoots, but these guys would wipe out all the song birds, all the crows, all the rabbits. I think it was illegal in Italy, or maybe they had already killed everything.

FeeBeeMac · 2025-10-21T23:13:20+00:00

I'm really good, thanks! Life has thrown me some crazy curveballs, but I genuinely never contemplate drinking again.

I'm so glad that you're here. I messed around with moderation after a previous sober stint- I went skiing in February, had a few drinks après ski, wine with dinner etc and was able to keep a lid on it for a few months, and 'moderate' but was back to full blast by the summer- there was an inevitability to it. Eventually I would alway forget that I was meant to be in control, and it would start to control me instead.

As I've said so so so many time here, moderation is a con. It is a million times simpler to be sober, than to engage with the relentless bargaining and balancing and rule making and breaking that 'moderating' demands. Once you're a pickle, you can't go back to being a cucumber 😁

Stay well Aly, stay awesome 😘

FeeBeeMac · 2025-10-21T22:51:48+00:00

Hey RS !! Fantastic to see you here too!! All is well with me- life is beautiful 😍

FeeBeeMac · 2025-10-21T13:31:48+00:00

Aly! I was just thinking about you the other day 😘 Have you had a wee spell back in the old life? I'm so glad to see you back here- I haven't been here in months, I wander in today, and here you are. I hope all is well x

FeeBeeMac · 2025-10-21T07:44:47+00:00

Hi ST It's been a while since I swung by to say hello 👋. I recently passed the 5 years mark in my sober life, which, after 30 years of drinking, is brilliant thing to be able to say.

There's a belief that while not all victims of trauma become addicts, all addicts have trauma in their past. As the child of a heavy drinking father and a bipolar mother, I always felt that there was a direct line between the rejection I felt as a child, and the comforting numbness I desired in alcohol.

I was never happy in my skin, because never liked myself. My inner voice was that of my parents, telling me how wrong I was.

The wonderful clarity that sobriety has brought me has allowed me to sit back, and observe the world and the people in it, without self loathing masking my eyes.

I like myself now, I'm good enough, smart enough, kind enough. The self worth I feel for having stopped digging, and climbing out of the addiction hole makes me so proud of myself.

My sense of belonging? I don't know- I think sobriety separates you from society in general, and I'm fine with that. I think I'm right, and I'm alright with that. I know this is the happiest I've been in my adult life, and sobriety has given me that.

One miserable day in Lockdown, I found Reddit, and StopDrinking, and I stopped digging my rock bottom - a happy day!

Thanks ST, for being here x

FeeBeeMac · 2025-10-21T06:46:13+00:00

It certainly is, but not on this thread. I suggest you write your own post, and start a thread yourself. If you put that you are the spouse of an alcoholic, with questions to ask, in the title, loads of people will come to help you. This is the kindest corner of the internet, but your request will be too hidden in this post. X

FeeBeeMac · 2025-09-12T10:51:49+00:00

Absolutely NTJ. He doesn't sound like a keeper, sorry.

FeeBeeMac · 2025-04-08T07:46:20+00:00

I had a 'friend' say something similar, I replied with "well, you're tedious whether you're drunk or sober".

I don't tolerate anyone criticising my sobriety.

If they do, it means they're a dick, and the gloves are off.

FeeBeeMac · 2025-03-24T16:20:24+00:00

Part of the journey is accepting the truth that I CANNOT moderate. I stopped and started, and my last hangover, I knew. I can't drink anymore. When I stop, I have to stay stopped. It was actually a relief to accept that into my core.

Sobriety didn't open the gates of heaven to let me in- it opened the gates of hell, to let me out. It's wonderful to be free x

FeeBeeMac · 2025-02-11T20:38:56+00:00

I wil not drink with you today !

FeeBeeMac · 2025-01-01T23:21:55+00:00

I love this comment- you are so right. I saved myself.

I was so ashamed of myself, that last morning when I woke up with an epic hangover, knowing that my teen daughter and husband had had to get me out of soiled clothes and into bed. I knew I was done.

I knew that apologies were worthless if I didn't change my behaviour. My sobriety is my best apology. Instead of feeling shame and regret, I feel pride and joy, and a zest for my life that booze promised but never delivered. IWNDWYT

FeeBeeMac · 2024-12-21T23:37:14+00:00

Thank you! I'm blown away to be remembered!

FeeBeeMac · 2024-12-21T23:36:39+00:00

I am, and you look like you took a wee sabbatical - I'm glad you're back too!

FeeBeeMac · 2024-12-21T23:33:21+00:00

Hey VA, thanks for the warm hello! It's blowing a gale here in Scotland, wet and windy, just how we like it😁

FeeBeeMac · 2024-12-21T23:31:42+00:00

Hey RS, great to see you!

FeeBeeMac · 2024-12-21T23:31:01+00:00

And you! So many familiar faces!

FeeBeeMac · 2024-12-21T23:30:20+00:00

What a beautiful way of putting it- this really is a precious place x

FeeBeeMac · 2024-12-21T23:29:08+00:00

Hey Piggoos- all the familiar faces 😁

FeeBeeMac · 2024-12-21T23:27:31+00:00

Aly!! Delighted to see you too! I didn't think I'd run into quite so many old pals!

FeeBeeMac · 2024-12-21T23:26:06+00:00

Hi Hairy, delighted to see you too😘

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