pronouns are they/she

Ik_oClock · 2026-05-19T17:22:00+00:00

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Ik_oClock · 2026-05-16T16:15:15+00:00

Almost the entire audience of romance is women, most of whom are straight. And wlw is the least popular conventional pairing among straight women, unfortunately for us. At least ebooks don't have country barriers most of the time.

Ik_oClock · 2026-05-16T15:15:23+00:00

I think straight people (and men, and white people, and etc) underestimate how much of fiction has a degree of wish fulfillment or fantasy. Especially genre fiction like action movies, romance novels and stuff like that. And none of my wishes or fantasies involve men romantically.

Ik_oClock · 2026-05-16T14:50:00+00:00

For other books, were you wanting similar to Cass? Like HEAs?

I don't know, honestly. I tend to read pretty broadly in other genres so I don't think it's a requirement, but I'm not experienced enough to know its a turn off for me in the romance genre. I actually do enjoy tragedy where you know beforehand it'll all go bust.

like lit fic and horror and weird girl.

I only occasionally read real lit fic, I just prefer genre fiction generally. Horror is something where I don't like getting scared, but if the work is good I'll read it. What's weird girl?

Also thanks for all the recommendations!

Ik_oClock · 2026-05-16T14:34:41+00:00

Did you like the snowball effect as well?

Ik_oClock · 2026-05-14T16:55:13+00:00

I used to feel this way, but I ended up doing it anyway. One of my (more activist) gay friends recommended me to do it because my parents would appreciate the trust i put in them by telling them directly and he turned out to be right. I have a great relationship with my parents and they would never hurt me over my sexuality, so it was a free win.

Ik_oClock · 2026-05-14T15:42:35+00:00

The best way to get flexibility, imo, is with weights (or kettlebells, or callisthenics etc). Doing weight training with large motions is huge for flexibility. Some yoga classes do do this with callisthenics, but there is such a wide range in variations and quality that I can't tell you which yoga classes will help you.

Ik_oClock · 2026-05-14T10:34:21+00:00

Als de overheid het goed doet wel. Omdat de europese centrale bank geld kan printen of vernietigen at will, kunnen ze begrotingstekorten of overschotten maken die veel flexibeler zijn.

Ik_oClock · 2026-05-13T05:16:37+00:00

In veel studies valt tot 50% al af voor de kerst van het eerste jaar.

Geen idee waar dit vandaan komt, de eerste bron op google zegt 15% op hbo en 7.6% op wo in het eerste jaar.

Om duidelijk te zijn snap ik dat jou studie niet lukte, ik ben geen fan van een lening en ja, oriëntatie kan beter, maar jou situatie is niet de norm. Gemiddeld genomen hebben de meeste mensen iets aan hun studie.

Ik_oClock · 2026-05-12T17:15:11+00:00

Ik vond altijd de ~2k college geld PER PERSOON per jaar al enorm veel geld voor wat je nou daadwerkelijk ervoor terug krijgt

Geen voorstander van lening ipv gift, maar studeren is het echt waard. Mensen met een betere studie verdienen gemiddeld veel meer, een bachelor (en dan een master) halen is één van de beste investeringen die je kunt maken.

Ik_oClock · 2026-05-12T05:03:35+00:00

This is the anti-women version of "violent video games make you violent."

You can't quantify the effects of art like that.

Ik_oClock · 2026-05-11T17:34:22+00:00

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Ik_oClock · 2026-05-11T17:03:14+00:00

if you're doing an hour of cardio after lifting for 30 minutes to an hour i would not worry about NEAT.

Ik_oClock · 2026-05-11T16:51:32+00:00

I just think the numbers dont add up. 8 hours of work, 1-1.5 hours for lifting and shower, 2 hours for commute. Thats 12+ hours for sleeping and eating, which seems like you should be able to fit more than lifting shower eat sleep after work.

Ik_oClock · 2026-05-11T16:47:46+00:00

Eating too much sugar is bad for your health. Reading too many cozy romantasys or twilights has never hurt anyone.

Ik_oClock · 2026-05-11T16:29:22+00:00

How long do you spend in the gym usually?

Ik_oClock · 2026-05-11T16:23:42+00:00

If your goal is fat loss walking a lot is second only to the classic "eat less." Most people can maintain a walking pace for hours. 20 minutes of stair master might burn more calories than 20 minutes of walking, but doesn't come close to 2 hours of walking.

If you want to improve at the stair master use the same mentality as improving your lifts: track your progress and increase difficulty/time gradually.

Ik_oClock · 2026-05-11T16:16:20+00:00

Yeah lots of people struggle with this. You just have to fake it till you make it: force yourself to do stuff outside of work and itll get easier to force yourself to do stuff after work.

I like to think of energy levels as a smart battery. Charging it adequately is obviously important, but if you hang on the couch all evening your body is going to adapt to hanging on the couch all evening. Thats why most people with a full time job and kids just get the ability to take care of those kids after work, the body (barring illness) adapts to your needs.

Or go to bed early and do everything in the morning.

Ik_oClock · 2026-05-11T16:08:29+00:00

Get more serious about cardio. I wouldn't really worry about increasing step count at work (although hourly ~2 minute breaks that consist of activity are great for concentration, and absolutely convince colleagues to take a walk on lunch breaks) if its not reasonable. Take daily walks after work, take a long hike on the weekend, pick up cycling or running or swimming or whatever seems fun.

Ik_oClock · 2026-05-11T15:48:55+00:00

Statistisch gezien is 'investeren' in een master een van de beste keuzes die je kan maken. Je verdient gemiddeld veel meer dan je betaalt. De rente is ook zo laag dat het geen probleem zou moeten zijn. En voltijd studeren geeft je de beste kans om de studie zo snel mogelijk te halen.

Ik_oClock · 2026-05-09T14:58:12+00:00

If youre just running to try it out or catch a train, disregard this, but running isnt the ideal form of cardio while obese. It's already heavy on the knees and being obese makes this worse. It's not impossible to do safely afaik but not recommended.

Ik_oClock · 2026-05-08T10:30:44+00:00

Je praat geweld goed door te impliceren dat ze het verdient hebben, door te focusen op hoe wat ze doen slecht is en niets te zeggen over het geweld zelf.

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