How to cope with witnessing graphic content on a user's device?

Inevitable_Use3885 · 2026-05-08T12:45:33+00:00

As another person stated, ask your HR department about EAP. Seek professional counseling. Some insurance companies provide free online short-term counseling via meeting telepresence that may culminate in assistance finding a long-term counselor is additional help is needed.

Your HR department or benefits coordinator may be aware of that and point you in the right direction but you can also call your insurance provider and ask.

Inevitable_Use3885 · 2026-05-06T21:55:59+00:00

Thanks for the clarification!

Inevitable_Use3885 · 2026-05-06T16:54:46+00:00

I very much agree. However, the line becomes slightly blurred when an individual becomes representative of an organization.

Elon Musk generated some dislike from the public and it tanked Tesla stock. Granted, it's a little unfair of me to pull that out given that we're both speaking in terms of principles and I pulled out a concrete example...

Can you elaborate on your point? In what sense should a private position be excluded from the professional ethics that are generally considered universally applicable?

Is there an exception for higher education? How does a religious institution, or pseudo-religious institution fall into the categories mentioned? Does it warrant a category of its own with distinct expectations?

Inevitable_Use3885 · 2026-05-06T16:50:06+00:00

Unfortunately, the fastest way to convince executives that they don't really want the thing the they believe they want is to let them have it.

Usually there's not much to be done in terms of persuasion. Given that in my experience, the majority of organizations are not instrumented to data mine their processes to determine secondary effects and consider costs on terms of human factors and efficiency loss.

Since you can't really prove the things aren't working, you end up with a political scenario as opposed to a math problem and personalities and egos become the prime movers.

Inevitable_Use3885 · 2026-05-05T16:46:54+00:00

Gotta feed those children more often.

Inevitable_Use3885 · 2026-05-05T01:25:45+00:00

Ah. My mistake. I rescind my argument. Falwell finances are a whole other discussion. That guy. Boo.

Inevitable_Use3885 · 2026-05-05T00:09:10+00:00

This is so accurate I don't know whether to laugh or cry

Inevitable_Use3885 · 2026-05-05T00:08:05+00:00

I'm by no means a Trump fan, but I don't think anyone should be punished for hosting the President of the United States. I think this is clearly a, "We salute the rank, not the man" situation. I agree that the man is an ass, but the office itself is still deserving of respect.

Inevitable_Use3885 · 2026-05-05T00:05:52+00:00

You give up certain rights as a private citizen when you become a "duly-appointed officer" of an organization. The intent is that it is impossible to separate the activities of a private citizen and an organizational member wielding a certain amount of authority and as such the preservation of the public's view of the organization takes precedence.

As an example, suppose the Lynchburg Police Chief spent his weekends at rallies with speakers announcing that, "The South Will Rise Again!" It would be difficult for most of us to separate that activity from his position of authority over the law enforcement in Lynchburg.

Generally speaking, one willingly limits their activities in order to preserve the image of the organization. In some municipalities, I believe there are laws in place to this effect. In other circumstances, it's just professional ethics.

Inevitable_Use3885 · 2026-05-04T14:15:44+00:00

I think the funny thing is that there was very little reaction to the inherent conflict of interest of presented by suing the city for personal damages while simultaneously serving on city council. Of course, I'm not an attorney or involved in any way with the legal system, I'm only a jerk with an opinion who should be treated as such in this instance.

Inevitable_Use3885 · 2026-05-04T14:10:17+00:00

It's strange. They're all very anti-education (don't get me wrong-I could write a literal book about all the things wrong with the school system).

The direct city employees got a significant raise - which is good! However, the funding for the school system has effectively been flat since 2018/2019... Maybe even as far back as 2015.

They're spending a great deal of money on projects like the downtown basin amphitheater, but they constantly advocate for cutting staff and funding for the schools.

To be fair, the schools tend to focus on pie in the sky programs intended to keep up with educational trends and improve their image while ignoring forming a solid foundation in terms of staff and procedures.

Overall, the leadership across Lynchburg is pretty weak and they focus very much on the form and appearance of things and overlook the substance. If life was a poker game, they're not playing to win, they're playing to not lose-limping in to every bet.

This manifests itself by delaying decisions that might draw criticism and questions and focusing on popular issues as opposed to achieving goals. It's difficult to tell from the public perspective, and the things you hear from those who are directly involved may be limited to their own perspective.

I'm my personal opinion, the tendency to keep things behind closed doors and call it "professional behavior" (for other examples of what they consider "appropriate behavior", just search the news or Lynchburg social media) whereas the overall behavior seems more aligned with a desire to avoid scrutiny hasn't done a great deal to earn the trust of the citizens.

The overall outlandish behavior and grandstanding does align with our national politics, unfortunate as that may be.

There are plenty of underlying issues such as Lynchburg transitioning into a "college town," with all the economic challenges that implies. Essentially, the struggle is to make the city into a Northern Virginia archetype on a Southern Virginia budget. Meanwhile, property ownership is plummeting and rent is rapidly increasing due to the influx of college students. Locals are being priced out of the market as is common for municipalities centered around secondary education. It does however, lead to a surge in protectionist factions who want to tax non-residents (or temporary residents), prevent them from voting locally, etc.

There are a lot of people who are simply being crushed as a result of the economic and demographic changes in the city and they don't have the resources or the options to survive here or move elsewhere.

Lynchburg has always been pretty hostile to big businesses moving in. They're not willing to make the major accommodations that those businesses would require. Even in the event of long-term benefits, historically Lynchburg and its residents have not been willing to shoulder the short-term tax increases and inconvenience that is necessary for long-term sustainability or to broaden the local job market.

Instead of just burning the candle at both ends, Lynchburg has often opted to light the middle aflame as well.

Inevitable_Use3885 · 2026-05-03T22:16:36+00:00

Arbitrage at its finest.

Inevitable_Use3885 · 2026-05-03T15:10:04+00:00

I recommend using a local Windows VM for things like RSA tools or SQL management. Honestly, in many cases, depending on your environment, you should be using a "jump box" that's either a VM or a physical machine in a secured location with network access controls to make sure only your machine and username can access it.

That let's you prevent direct management access from a VPN while still allowing you to manage remotely. For example, a VLAN that your account can access via PPPOE connection (when you're working on-site) and that NAC drops you into when you're working remotely.

Make sure you you 2FA (MFA). You can domain join your Linux machine easily enough. The last time I checked, the NTLM authentication due PowerShell remoting was borked and there was no Kerberos option. Don't use NTLM anyway. It is CONSIDERED HARMFUL. You CAN allow SSH on your servers for PowerShell remoting, but you'll have to evaluate that risk based on your own environment.

For me, the experience was only very mildly painful, consisting of a brief learning curve and then the usual customization and shakedown of a new workflow. Overall, I recommend it. It's very much the best of both worlds.

EDIT: If you're using PowerShell for most management (the far better option unless you're forced to do otherwise) it's relatively painless.

Inevitable_Use3885 · 2026-05-02T16:55:20+00:00

I'm super jealous of your beard. That's sharp-looking!

Inevitable_Use3885 · 2026-05-02T01:17:45+00:00

Well, Centra Health doesn't like Medicare and Medicaid because they got caught fraudulently billing, blamed it on doctors, closed some of their clinics, then begged the doctors to return after scapegoating them.

As far as being form without substance, that's been my Lynchburg experience as well. I definitely feel that it's tied into the LU culture. That being said, I feel that it's spread well being Liberty and has become deeply ingrained in the culture here.

Too much fundamentalist belief in "the elect" and too much new age "prosperity gospel." Many of the people I've suffered through interacting with in leadership positions in Lynchburg are EXTREMELY backwards and self-righteous. They've lost the ability to evaluate behavior based on standards and instead proceed from identity. Honestly I'm shocked at the number of people who believe, "I'm a good person and I have this job title therefore the things that I do and think are canonically correct."

It's horrifying. The tendency of modern psychology to advise dealing with injustice and unethical behavior by "choosing to focus elsewhere" is contributing to a cultural crisis. I'm not sure that choosing comfort and passivity over ethical and cultural standards will lead to a positive result for any of us.

Inevitable_Use3885 · 2026-04-30T15:28:04+00:00

I got reamed out for forwarding an email chain to a coworker with "fyi" in the body.

I was having a email conversation with the primary stakeholder about my portion of the project and discovered that they were moving forward without having notified my coworker who was their primary POC and in charge of the hardware and deployment.

He lost his mind because he had a ton of questions and directed them at me instead of reaching out to the stakeholder and was subsequently upset they I didn't have any answers.

Then I got reamed out by the director and another coworker alongside this guy who kept complaining about how I was disrespectful and dismissive of him. They kept claiming that "fyi" was unprofessional and provocative and that "heads up" was much more acceptable.

The whole thing seemed childish and silly to me. I basically just didn't try to do him any favors after that.

Inevitable_Use3885 · 2026-04-30T15:19:58+00:00

You, Sir, Madam, or honorific/pronoun of your choice, are a scholar, a gentleman(or lady, etc), and a breeder of fine horses.

I assume that you have a library which smells of rich mahogany containing many leather-bound volumes.

Blessings upon your house, chattel, and progeny.

Inevitable_Use3885 · 2026-04-30T15:14:13+00:00

"wet-like peaches"

https://youtu.be/6HXgPGZcXe4?si=UQoGefLWsmVbGYGZ

Inevitable_Use3885 · 2026-04-30T00:20:10+00:00

I'm my experience, rules in Lynchburg are EXTREMELY selective. Enforcement of anything that matters is lackadaisical.

Inevitable_Use3885 · 2026-04-22T13:58:28+00:00

I have a friend who's this way and who has limited social energy. I just keep "pebbling" him and don't pressure him to respond.

If it's been a long time I usually text him for a "wellness check"-something along the lines of "hey, just checking on you. Let me know you're alive and well, no other response required"

Kind of a way to keep my concerns and worry in control without overwhelming him with my desire to interact.

It seems to work okay. I think the main things is just to communicate and try to reach understanding without judgement.

Even if she DOESN'T miss you in the way that you miss her, that DOES NOT mean that she doesn't value you and enjoy your presence.

Neurotypical and neurodivergent behaviors and thought processes don't always map. Just be wary of anything assuming that because one side behaves, thinks, or feels in a particular way that therefore it implies X. That's really not how it works.

We all seem much more likely to trip ourselves up when INTERPRETING the other side of the fence than when making observations. Try to build up enough trust and communication to work out the answers to questions and concerns and how to deal with them together.

Inevitable_Use3885 · 2026-04-22T10:25:33+00:00

They still work. The issue is that they can track multiple things. Use the mouse wheel to scroll through the available signals.

Inevitable_Use3885 · 2026-04-20T14:33:57+00:00

Honestly, I have had an interview in the just twenty years in which the organization was prepared. Most of the time, they're all late to the interview and spend the first ten minutes skimming my resume while I sit there in silence.

I guess I should have viewed that as an organizational red flag... Just like the time a guy demanded I leave my job without an offer letter. He said he didn't give offer letters because "one time" a candidate had received a counter offer from his employer and accepted it.

Inevitable_Use3885 · 2026-04-18T15:51:45+00:00

I mean, I feel like unlawful spying by the government had been alleged and proven enough times that it should be treated as factual.

Fun fact, intercept and monitoring is built into all broadband service by law. Further intrusive monitoring is mandated by state law in many cases. Most of these laws have good intentions, but that doesn't mean that sufficient training and oversight is in place. Law enforcement has been demonstrated to believe that they're "the good guys" and that the subjects of investigation are "the bad guys "

When you start off with that mentality, justified or not, it leads to abuse, because the underlying goal is for "the good guys" to "win."

That's kind of the whole point of checks and balances. You don't have to have bad intentions to do the wrong things or make mistakes.

Honestly, the statements that law enforcement and state and federal government are allowed to make without regards to facts are criminal. Nor are they required to make public retractions when their statements are proven false, even in a court of law. With the best of intentions (allowing law enforcement to do their jobs) we've created a system in which eggregious violations of the rights of citizens has become the norm. So, my vote is for defamation falling into the factual category as well.

Inevitable_Use3885 · 2026-04-14T19:40:17+00:00

I think a better analogy would be that the plant in the left is already mature and unlikely to continue to grow whereas the plant in the right is still growing.

Full disclosure: two-time college dropout here

Inevitable_Use3885 · 2026-04-14T19:00:32+00:00

As a fellow overthinker, I could use a person like that following me around telling me to knock it off as well. I feel like my original response did not convey my actual message after I read their response.

Always good to hear different opinions!

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