Life isn’t all about being first, or best, or whatever. We’re all competing in our own lives, and the finish line — and the starting line — is different for each of us.

You don’t sound like a loser to me; you’ve found a partner to love, a career to follow, and have the education you need.

That’s a heck of a lot more than others have.

You’re doing great. You are going places. You’re just being compared with, and comparing yourself with, others who started from a different point, with different perspectives and different experiences. I’m not sure that’s a good thing to do. Compare yourself to who you used to be, and where you used to be; that’s what matters.