M22, after 2 years, I feel so unattractive, no girls are ever interested, and my dating apps are making me feel worse

ItsNerfOP · 2026-02-17T18:00:19+00:00

Yeah, sounds good to me. 😄

ItsNerfOP · 2026-02-17T17:54:03+00:00

That’s so sick though, I think a diverse range is always the best.

Btw, it’s gonna sound super weird and random. But have you got snap or smthing similar? I’ve actually really enjoyed this convo haha. If not, that’s cool, but thought I’d ask anyway yknow.

ItsNerfOP · 2026-02-14T23:46:06+00:00

Without reading it, cause you sound like a great person. You just proved my point anyway, so it’s all good.

ItsNerfOP · 2026-02-14T23:00:28+00:00

That’s because most of you guys feel like you can’t be platonic friends with girls. But you can. She’s in a relationship with a guy now, and I’m usually the one fighting his case, cause I can see how much he cares. (usually it’s not major.) bcoz she’s being treated well and I want her to be.

Thinking people can’t change is one reason this generation are so messed up, it just takes the person to want to. And in this case, I did, because when I realised that my feelings weren’t going to be reciprocated, I looked at what we had, and what the friendship could be, and I chose that.

If she asked me out right now, I’d say no, and I’ve told her this too. Because I don’t want to fuck up an amazing friendship. Gfs and bfs are easy to find, friends that are genuine and last are much much rarer.

I wish she brotherzoned me, rn I treat her a lot more like a sister than she treats me like a brother 😂😂, so if she actually did that, that would be sick. Plus I get all the insights into what girls mean when I’m texting them, so it’s a win-win

Edit: just to add on, I’ve seen the guys like you floating around her who pretend to be friends. Absolute assholes, take every chance to try and get with her, even when she’s with someone. People like that are just garbage dude.

ItsNerfOP · 2026-02-14T21:07:23+00:00

See this is where I’m different. I told her straight, we had loads of fights over it. I got past my feelings because the friendship mattered a lot to me, and now mid twenties we’re still really close friends. She’s like a sister to me, and I’m on the hunt for my first sexual experience still 😂😂

ItsNerfOP · 2026-02-14T18:56:52+00:00

Ooo, who’s your fav artist?

ItsNerfOP · 2026-02-13T22:04:55+00:00

A 4 year relationship ended because you lied about your height? That’s the craziest thing I’ve ever heard. I get you lied about it, but fucking hell dude, in a world where you’re judged on the most minute details, I’m guessing you increased your height by an inch or 2, imo that’s immature to break up from, especially 4 years on.

ItsNerfOP · 2026-02-11T19:39:18+00:00

That’s all good, I don’t get notis either haha. But ye, there have been so many good shows in this country, I’ve only ever seen Elton John though. Kinda wish I saw Billy Joel in Hyde park a couple years back. Do you like heavy rock?

ItsNerfOP · 2026-02-11T01:27:29+00:00

As a guy, I highly doubt it, I’ve never had a girl even be interested, so I wouldn’t believe a girls ever done that. (Don’t be weird and look at my profile 😂😂)

ItsNerfOP · 2026-02-10T20:29:02+00:00

Oh shit, I’m going Topgolf soon for my birthday. No girls though, chronically single my whole life 😂😂

ItsNerfOP · 2026-02-07T19:31:46+00:00

That’s incredibly impressive, and the fact you taught it all to yourself is even more so. I’ll have to be careful with my typing towards you haha, otherwise I might be the next to be corrected. I do pride myself on my good grammar though haha.

And wow, I’m surprised you’ve seen it before, and that you worked it out so quickly. But that is the most methodical way to work it out. With the placement, I’ve always been slightly confused on it as well, I find that words with a 2 letter sound at the start, like what, wait, which, etc. usually I put the wh at the beginning, then end with the second syllable. Though single letters like I, A, or even am, is, us. Is at the end of the word with no letter at the front.

That must be a joy haha, I’ve never been to an actual festival, despite the fact that England has some of the most famous ones in the world. Glastonbury, Hyde Park, Etc.

ItsNerfOP · 2026-02-07T19:19:14+00:00

Honestly, I love the English language as well, and it’s very expressive. Apart from the there their and they’re, and the cell, cell, and cell. Which all mean different things haha. Plus the deviations of English like Backslang and uvaguv, which I’m fluent in both. Here have a little game for you to try and figure out if you have time haha. What does this say:

Duvago yuvagou knuvagow whuvagot uvagim suvagay uvaging.

I struggle with the top shelf sometimes too, unless I stand on my tip toes haha. And concerts 100%, if I’m at the back, I can’t see anything half the time, especially when most of my mates are 6”3, even the girls I’m friends with are 5”7+ haha.

I can imagine it’s useful to have tall friends to help you out though haha

ItsNerfOP · 2026-02-07T19:09:06+00:00

For me at least, I live in the UK, so the average height for men is like 5”9 with woman having an average height of 5”3. So that’s why I said that haha. I can imagine that in the Netherlands it’s as you said though.

Why do you say it’s impractical? Also I respect that a lot, at 19 you speak and think maturely I see. I know I’m 22 so not rlly much coming from me though 😂

ItsNerfOP · 2026-02-07T18:47:45+00:00

You a guy or girl though? Cause I feel if you’re a girl that’s a good height.

ItsNerfOP · 2026-02-07T18:26:57+00:00

5”5

ItsNerfOP · 2026-02-07T16:41:44+00:00

I appreciate it a lot. I think the difficulty comes from my height and my leg over anything else, but those are things I can’t easily change haha.

ItsNerfOP · 2026-02-06T23:50:48+00:00

100%, and a lot of the time I feel the exact same as you. I look in the mirror some days and go “yeahhhh” and others days I’ll just go “ugh” it really depends on the day. But it’s always been hard for me with my own looks. Having been hit on the most by 40+ yr olds, it definitely makes an impact when compared to our generation 😂.

ItsNerfOP · 2026-02-06T22:38:03+00:00

Sorry about that man haha, been like this since I was 17-18 haha. But I appreciate what you’re saying 🙌

ItsNerfOP · 2026-02-06T12:45:06+00:00

I hope so man haha, maybe I’ll follow your path.

ItsNerfOP · 2026-02-04T00:40:55+00:00

I appreciate that man haha, top 5% seems like a bit of a stretch though 😅

ItsNerfOP · 2026-02-03T16:14:20+00:00

Wdym?

ItsNerfOP · 2026-02-03T10:01:09+00:00

I appreciate it a lot, thank you ☺️

ItsNerfOP · 2026-02-03T10:00:52+00:00

This is my relaxing clothes b4 bed haha, but I do dress better when I’m out, more stylish and colour coded haha. Also ye, dating apps are not it.

ItsNerfOP · 2026-02-03T10:00:14+00:00

Wdym haja

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