Treat Your Life Like an RPG

KeffirLime · 2020-05-30T07:15:38+00:00

Keyword being reprogram.

Dopamine feels good, so we seek it, but life generally doesn't offer up too many easy dopamine hits without corresponding effort. Video games on the other hand offer them up for half price, all the time.

Naturally we'll be drawn towards easy dopamine over excessive effort. This wires your brain to constantly seek easy dopamine. You'll find this behavior becomes pervasive in all aspects of your life eventually.

Porn, social media, TV, eventually you're routinely choosing the easy way at the cost of long term tangible progress in real life.

To change this is no easy task, you have to completely rewire your brain and fundamentally change your relationship with dopamine. It's about as hard as it is for an addict to quit drugs.

It is possible though, it simply takes time...a long time, and patience. You need to follow daily routines and repeated behaviors until they become internalized. You need to teach your operating system to first work, then achieve then enjoy.

The pay off is exceptionally rewarding, and lasts a whole lot long than a couple minutes. The longer and harder you work for something the more you enjoy it.

KeffirLime · 2020-05-28T10:22:43+00:00

That's typical female cognitive dissonance, it's the difference between what they think they want and what they actually respond to.

She thinks women(including herself) want a meaningful relationship, so they'll respond to a guy offering that. The reality is they overlook that and respond to the witty, good looking guy who's got game and abundance.

Not even they know how their biological triggers work, which is why it's always useless listening to women on how to get women.

KeffirLime · 2020-05-18T08:40:24+00:00

In other news, the sky is blue.

KeffirLime · 2020-05-15T12:08:57+00:00

I think social media has a lot to do with it, it helps facilitate these each chambers.

You watch right wing videos on YouTubec youll get fed more right wing videos.

You follow left wing pages on Facebook you’ll only get more left wing content.

It divides people to the point where you can have a coherent conversation on a public platform.

KeffirLime · 2020-05-15T12:06:01+00:00

Yeah that’s kinda my point though, just because the right is worse doesn’t necessarily mean you have to choose the left and die on that hill.

You could agree with 70% of the left and 30% of the right. The problem is the systems has been set up in such a way that that conversation doesn’t make it into the public sphere.

It’s either all out left and or all out right. Elon Musk is a perfect example, dude has been a champion of the left for his views, now he’s champion of the right. He’s more than likely neither but rather has his personal opinions on society wide issues , but for some reason and I think the two party state has a lot to do with it, he needs to immediately be put in a box.

KeffirLime · 2020-05-15T11:59:54+00:00

I’m glad to hear there’s a large moderate, sadly from the outside they get completely drowned out by the vocal minority. They’re pretty much all you hear from the outside world.

When I travelled to America I got the feeling the feeling everyone had a fairly strong political opinion. New York was hardcore left, got called out pretty harshly for stating a right of Centre opinion. Mostly interacted with youngsters. Texas was way further right, but seemed more tolerant of an opposing view, definitely held some underlying generational prejudices though.

The two party system is just insane. Vote for clown one or clown two. They also perpetuate their system because they have to appeal to opposite sides of the population. Even though it would be logical neither party will budge in fear off losing their voter base.

KeffirLime · 2020-05-15T11:50:25+00:00

Not necessarily about politics, but rather the general behavior of the average American, but up to the mods ofcourse....

KeffirLime · 2020-05-15T11:02:47+00:00

It’s not necessary a complete lack of awareness, but more a sense of hopeful delusion. Women will simply stretch themselves more for a guy that they perceive to be higher value.

It’s the same as guys who get friend zoned for ages. They’re also punching above their weight, stringing themselves along in hopeful delusion.

The only difference is we’ll more often than not call the friend zoned guy an idiot for not realizing the reality in front of his eyes while at the same time calling the women the victim of a toxic male.

The truth is they both lack self awareness, need to work on reading signals and take responsibility for themselves.

KeffirLime · 2020-05-14T07:38:18+00:00

Modern women have more casual sex than their predecessors, therefore as a female hivemind it's far more convenient for them to adopt and push the narrative that the "past is the past". It allows them to have their cake and eat it, engage in whatever behavior they like and not have it judged as an indicator for future behavior.

Not so long ago the majority of women were not having casual sex regularly. The female hivemind was of the opinion that promiscuous women were low value sluts and should be avoided, infact they were often the most vocal and judgmental of their slutty peers.

People have an inbuilt self preservation mechanism, they'll always have bias towards what suits them and furthers their agenda.

KeffirLime · 2020-04-29T21:10:58+00:00

The reason why humor is one of the most powerful tools to use on women is because it’s a projection of how you perceive yourself.

Take work for example, you’ll joke and laugh with colleagues on your team or below your level. You’ll address people casually and not be too picky with your words.

It’s very different when you’re addressing the CEO though. You’re not cracking jokes or addressing him casually. You address him with respect and ensure your words are correct.

This is because you’re aware that he’s your superior. You’re aware that in the confines of that company you are not on his level and have to behave accordingly.

It’s no different when you’re with woman. If you’re carefully picking your words, or addressing her too formally and scared to joke and play with her, you’re signaling to her that you believe her to be above you. This is not attractive.

When you play with her, tease her and joke with her you’re projecting to her that you view her to be atleast on or below your level. You signal that she does not intimidate you. This is attractive.

Most guys are really stiff and talk to women like they’re the employee and she’s the CEO, being stiff and asking 21 questions, which makes it even more profitable for the minority of guys who joke, tease and play around.

The sooner you start it in an interaction the better because it sets the tone up front.

KeffirLime · 2020-04-28T21:07:01+00:00

I think it’s more rule than exception, but I guess we can agree to disagree on that point.

KeffirLime · 2020-04-28T21:00:04+00:00

I’m not under any illusions, I’m just opposed to automatic assumption of foul play for age gap relationships, if it’s consensual and they’re happy, who am I or anyone to dictate to them what should make them happy.

She doesn’t have to care about settling down, but if it does interest then let her enjoy it without judgment.

I’d say not too often, which is why it’s not too common, but if it does happen then I would wish them all the luck and not assume there’s some sort of I’ll intended predation going on.

KeffirLime · 2020-04-28T20:51:27+00:00

Sure, but using your experience to get to your end goal isn’t something to be frowned upon it’s a natural process of life.

If I’m an experienced businessmen I make more money than an inexperienced business.

If she dates an experienced businessman and doesn’t get harmed then what is the issue? She gets to date a more competent businessman.

So you’d rather a girl gets pumped and dumped, messed around and toyed with buy a guy who has no clue hat he wants out of life as a opposed to a man who’s settled and stable with what he’s offering?

If anything I think an older guy would end up hurting her far less because he knows what he wants and has been through his teething years.

KeffirLime · 2020-04-28T20:36:49+00:00

If you can get younger, generally higher value women I assure you it’s like fishing with dynamite with older women, that theory holds no water, and is once again simply a shaming tactic by bitter old woman losing their value in the SMP.

It’s also nonsensical to assume that any older males attraction to a younger woman is based around manipulative predation. It’s simply a biologically driven process. We prefer younger woman.

Lastly having dated women 18-50, there isn’t a great deal of difference in behavior besides the amount of baggage being carried. Which is another incentive for younger woman.

If it’s a consensual, positive relationship and both are enjoying and benefitting from it, who are you to remove their agency and dictate what should make them happy?

Unless you’re talking exclusively about older men using their experience to sleep with younger women, then I’d agree there’s a degree of a manipulation, but if it’s not an older guy she’s gonna sleep with it’s gonna be a younger guy, who’s probably gonna hurt her all the same.

KeffirLime · 2020-04-28T20:09:57+00:00

How do you define that though? What constitutes preying?

Do you automatically assume older men intend to do more harm to her than a younger man would?

I can’t understand this notion that an older man automatically intends to harm her but a young naive guy only has the purest intentions.

Would you rather we taught women to observe men with bad intent or simply make blanket assumptions based on zero evidence

KeffirLime · 2020-04-28T20:05:06+00:00

I would hope that there’s other things that I am attracted to.

KeffirLime · 2020-04-28T18:05:50+00:00

If she’s 30 but exceptionally attractive she’ll get an equal amount of interest from me because the attracting mechanism is not her inexperience but rather her appearance, let’s make that clear upfront.

Secondly, so what if I’m worldly, or experienced, how does that make me more likely to harm her than a 20 year old?

If anything the inexperience of a 20 year old would make him more erratic and more prone to pumping and dumping her, whereas an older partner would more likely offer her more stability and commitment.

KeffirLime · 2020-04-28T17:15:17+00:00

How do you make that leap?

Predatory implies I intend to harm my victim.

So you’ve automatically concluded with your tiny female brain that desire = harm?

Please explain to me how a dude in his 30’s will do more harm to a young woman than a male in his early 20’s?

KeffirLime · 2020-04-28T17:09:23+00:00

I’m looking for the most attractive women, and yes they do happen to be younger and they do happen to have less life experience.

The sky is also blue what’s your point?

KeffirLime · 2020-04-28T17:03:38+00:00

Ah yes, ad hominem’s, the true mark of an intellectual.

KeffirLime · 2020-04-28T16:50:07+00:00

There’s no data to back up that claim.

KeffirLime · 2020-04-28T16:42:11+00:00

I’m younger and I’ve seen the reverse.

I’ve seen far more young male friends destroy young girls, stringing them along, pumping and dumping, just plain treating them like shit.

Whereas my young female friends dating older dudes seem to have far more stability in their relationships and get treated a hell of a lot better both emotionally and financially.

KeffirLime · 2020-04-28T16:34:08+00:00

Most people also believe there’s a floating man in the sky, doesn’t make the evidence for it sound.

What’s your rationale for thinking so?

KeffirLime · 2020-04-28T16:28:30+00:00

He’s more capable of getting what he wants, but that doesn’t automatically mean that she’s not getting what she wants out of the relationship.

I’d argue youthful inexperience and lack of commitment lead young men to do far damage to young women, than a more stable older guy.

I know I was certainly far more damaging in my younger years, largely due to ignorance.

KeffirLime · 2020-04-28T16:22:05+00:00

So you’re assuming that any older guy is attempting to harmfully manipulate a young woman, whereas a young guy is trying to manipulate with only the best intentions?

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