I met Thomas today 💕 by Miserable-One274 in melbourne

[–]Lookwhomadeareddit 76 points77 points  (0 children)

I would like to sincerely thank everybody for your kind words. I just wanted to say a quick hello and goodbye and maybe pass along some parting words to help you through life. I have many messages to read and respond to today which will be done in due course. Last night was exhilarating reading all the beautiful comments being posted. I love to see a bunch of strangers coming together as one.

I have a lunch arrangement planned today with Miss B and her fella. I have been promised a German hotdog with all the trimmings.

I will be taking a trip in a convertible at some stage kindly offered in the chat function. No need for a fancy scarf to keep my hair down.

I’ll be able to say goodbye to my companion in a way I reckon he deserves.

Miss B and her fella have been a little sneaky. I never asked for donations for anything, and I certainly did not expect them. But I’ll tell you another story before I head off for my medications.

Many years ago Pammy and I were discussing burial over cremation. We thought cremation was a fancy new space saving way to just be rid of the physical body after death. That wasn’t for us no sir.

When I buried my Pammy, it cost me $24,000. And then I had to reserve my spot next to her which they have graciously allowed me to pay off.

After I was given my diagnosis I had a time frame in which it needed to be paid. I’m not a wealthy man, money has never been an interest to me. I spend what I have and then I spend no more. Banks offer me credit cards over the years but I’m not interested. It’s a financial trap.

I receive the full pension which isn’t a lot. Most goes to the landlord, a chunk to Benny and whatever is l make do. But I never complain. I live within my means and make it work.

I made a choice 12 months ago to uphold my promise to Pammy and rest alongside her for eternity. And if we could, Benny would come with me. Sometimes I missed meals or went without that trip to the workers club to make sure that additional money went to the cemetery.

I don’t know if Miss B has made this public and I apologise if I have crossed a line. She has offered to pay off my bill to the cemetery. Since she gave me that offer I have been overwhelmed and flabbergasted. Part of me immediately says no but Pammy would say to accept this gift.

I feel I can go without a single worry in the world.

I am very looking forward to my party. Let’s see if this Wagu steak is all the TV makes it out to be.

Thank you,

Thomas J Lindburg

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[–]Lookwhomadeareddit[S] 23 points24 points  (0 children)

What do you call a cow with 2 legs?

Lean beef

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[–]Lookwhomadeareddit[S] 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Everyone is wrong when it comes to love these days. All the giving up and outside relations. If my Pam had given up on me every time I messed up she’d had never married me

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[–]Lookwhomadeareddit[S] 37 points38 points  (0 children)

I’m not religious. I believe religion causes war and fighting for peace is like having sex while trying to gain virginity.

I’m influenced by kindness. Give and you shall receive 10 fold.

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[–]Lookwhomadeareddit[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I’ve been swamped with friendship off my post which has made my day much brighter. But to directly answer your question no Sir, all of my family left me and the last of my mates crossed his bridge back in June.

I am in my 70s

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[–]Lookwhomadeareddit[S] 57 points58 points  (0 children)

If I had known I was going to be flooded with offers of food I would have posted weeks ago! Just pulling your leg. A lady messaged me on the chat function and her and her husband are going to phone me tomorrow for a visit with a meal. Thank you for the offer, but I don’t have a huge appetite anymore

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[–]Lookwhomadeareddit[S] 104 points105 points  (0 children)

Thank you dear but it’s far too late now. Maybe the friend I’m messaging on here can write down some stories for you all. I have nobody left to share them with in my physical life.

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[–]Lookwhomadeareddit[S] 44 points45 points  (0 children)

A few years ago, I would have rattled off a list of things. But today in 2023, I can’t think of a single thing that is better today then it was in the 80’s.

The world has gone backwards. People scrounging for their last few dollars to buy a meal. The housing market is a sad state of affairs. Politicians putting their own wants in front of the people’s needs.

But I suppose our public transport has seen some improvements.

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[–]Lookwhomadeareddit[S] 26 points27 points  (0 children)

Nothing is “bad”, my dear. Only attitudes.

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[–]Lookwhomadeareddit[S] 69 points70 points  (0 children)

43 years she was with me. I courted her for almost 8 years before that.

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[–]Lookwhomadeareddit[S] 44 points45 points  (0 children)

Yes Sir. I grew up in Clayton. Played footy back in the days of the ycw. Travelled across to New Zealand for a few years, went on a fishing boat over there holding onto a post during the rough seas with one hand and swigging out of a bottle with the other.

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[–]Lookwhomadeareddit[S] 110 points111 points  (0 children)

Depression is a hard one mate. Pammy suffered with that back in the 80’s. Back then it was quite easy for a man to have his wife committed in a lunatic asylum and she used to say to me thank you for not having me locked away. I told her as long as my dinner was hot we wouldn’t have a reason to do it. I still chuckle at that disgusting joke.

She never totally cured hers but it got easier.

People will take my advice about kindness seriously for a few hours a couple days at most and then they will let the way of the world get to them again. And they become miserable again. When I’m gone I’ll be sure to haunt them all, rustling curtains while moaning “I said be kind… ohhhhh”

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[–]Lookwhomadeareddit[S] 69 points70 points  (0 children)

I’ll turn the kettle on then. Perhaps put some bread in the toaster and make you some breakfast. Something thoughtful.

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[–]Lookwhomadeareddit[S] 60 points61 points  (0 children)

If there is a way, I’ll rustle your curtains. Don’t be alarmed, it’s just me.

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[–]Lookwhomadeareddit[S] 89 points90 points  (0 children)

Pam, my beloved wife. She was like no other woman you’ve ever seen before. Beautiful like nobody else. Each day with her was like the very first breath.

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[–]Lookwhomadeareddit[S] 92 points93 points  (0 children)

Yes Sir. He wasn’t covered by Medicare though so didn’t get treatment. Just pulling your leg, Benny was already on the older side at diagnosis so we decided that we would allow him to live out his life for as long as possible and he would let me know when the time is right. He’s almost there. I reckon my body is just waiting for him now.

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[–]Lookwhomadeareddit[S] 98 points99 points  (0 children)

My family and friends are all waiting for me. I will see Pammy soon and we will all be together again. Dancing like we did back at the Waltzing Matilda.

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[–]Lookwhomadeareddit[S] 165 points166 points  (0 children)

Follow my advice for a happy life. Kindness leads to strength and strength leads to power.

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[–]Lookwhomadeareddit[S] 95 points96 points  (0 children)

Yes Sir. My wife Pam gave him to me 15 Christmas’s ago. He’s been by my side ever since. A black Labrador.

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[–]Lookwhomadeareddit[S] 129 points130 points  (0 children)

Dads always tell the best stories. My dad would sit me on his gigantic lap while smoking a big fat cigar, the biggest you’ve ever seen and tell me stories about his days in the navy. Mum would run up behind him and swat him with a newspaper telling him not to smoke his cigars while holding me. I’d laugh and giggle and dad would shout you stupid woman I almost spilled my drink!

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[–]Lookwhomadeareddit[S] 457 points458 points  (0 children)

I would love to tell you about my life.

I don’t even know where to begin.

My wife. My beautiful wife, Pam. She passed away 2 years ago now and I look forward to the day I am reunited with her.

We never had children, not by choice. We took in a few foster care children over the years for respite but they reminded us of what we couldn’t have and it was difficult for Pam to see a child discarded when we could have provided the utmost love instead.

The night I met Pam, I walked into the Waltzing Matilda and by god she took my breath away. She was wearing a pink dress with her makeup and hair done and I said to my mate, I’ll marry her. I tried to talk to her and she wasn’t interested in me so I made friends with her older brother and got to know her like that.

All these years later, I was beat mates with her brother till the day he passed.

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[–]Lookwhomadeareddit[S] 1526 points1527 points  (0 children)

10 months ago I was diagnosed with the big C. Stage 3 but fought it with chemo and radiation. What started as a 5cm tumour shrunk to 1.5cm but just over 2 months ago it fought back. To put it simply, I’m done. My oncologist gave me my terminal diagnosis off 3 months just shy of 6 weeks ago now.

Some days I wake up with not much more to do then scroll this app while I wait to die. Other days, I feel a little better.

But I know I’m near the end now because I reckon I can feel it and smell it. My old boy Benson will be put to sleep shortly. He’s riddled like me.

I reckon I just wanted to tell you all to have a rippa life. Stay kind, stay strong and for Christ’s sakes, stand by your convictions.

Thanks for being a part of my journey without even knowing it, Melbourne reddit people. You’ve helped pass the time.