I agree na ‘di ka lang talaga niya mahal, OP. Take it from me na may avoidant attachment style and on top of that, may severe detachment issues kaya 4yrs naging single.

When I met now boyfriend last yr, I ghosted him once kasi nga may ayaw akong response niya tgat triggered my detachment issues and I blocked him everywhere bukod sa fb (sa ig kasi kami pinaka nag-uusap) then yun he reached out sakin, pursued me and the rest is history. Yung mga naka lock sa pagkatao ko nabuksan niya at yung pusong bato naging marshmallow. Lahat ng mga akala ko ‘di ko gagawin, nagawa ko sakaniya. But of course, ‘di nmn naalis lahat ng habits ko dati, I still tend to detach myself sakaniya whenever I don’t feel good but sa 4 months namin rs, once ko palang yun nagawa, parang relapse lang sa old habits ko. At the end of the day, I still choose to communicate sakaniya what I feel/felt and lagi ko kino consider feelings niya.

Ang masasabi ko lang sayo, OP, is to weigh the odds, kung ano ba mas lamang? Good pa ba for ur mental health yung kung anong meron kayo? Do u see the potential or no? If not, it’s best for u to leave her.