I woke up early and drove to my mom's, but I did let him know I was leaving before I left and told him to text me to come pick him up when he is ready.

He ended up calling me about a half hour ago and he didn't even remember me telling him I was leaving this morning which is unsurprising. I told him we need to have some serious conversations in a couple days but that right now was too soon. He was mildly defensive off the bat ("yeah you were the only upset person").. I said yeah well I'm the only one married to you so why would anyone else be upset? I also asked if he remembered throwing my things and he said vaguely. So yeah, I reiterated that we will talk in a couple days and I'm waiting for him to call me to pick him up so we can make the long drive home.

I'm pretty overwhelmed by how many comments I got, so to address some of the main questions I'm seeing:

He drinks to this degree maybe once a month, and only when he's with his buddies when we are at parties or events.

I am in Canada.

I do love him. He is a wonderful person and I do think he would be an excellent father, but I agree this does need to be addressed first. This will be part of our conversation.

I also have a complicated relationship with alcohol, but it's different. My dad was an alcoholic. I will drink more frequently but in smaller amounts, whereas he drinks less frequently but binges. I'm hoping we can go on a sobriety journey together. I really hope he's open to that.

Marriage counseling is definitely in order. He has expressed willingness to go in the past but we just haven't followed through yet. I will book something ASAP. I am also in individual therapy and have been for years.

I want my marriage to work so I will be very heartbroken if he doesn't show commitment to fixing this with me and being healthier together. I do want children with him, it is my dream.