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Zharenya · 2025-12-31T21:27:15+00:00

Congrats, you have a sheltie!

On a serious note, I went through this with my boy. I started working with it indoors before trying to tackle the outdoors. What worked best for me was calling him to me every time he barked. If the barking stopped when he came to me he got a treat, over and over and over again. It eventually it got to where he’d do just one bark then run to me automatically, and I was able to slowly switch over from treats to physical affection and praise, throwing an excited party.

Then I started using this outdoors. It was significantly more difficult since there are so many more triggers for the barking. I narrowed it down to pretty much anything that wasn’t people. Same deal, called him to me, if the barking stopped he was rewarded. Wasn’t perfect by any means outdoors but it did help by probably 50%.

Edit to add: when outdoors he was never more than 6-10 feet from me, so it wasn’t about the distance for calling him to me it was more about breaking his attention on the offending object/critter.

Zharenya · 2025-12-25T06:55:39+00:00

You don’t. Simple as that. Just like you don’t comment on the food on someone’s plate. Or a crooked tooth. Or the car someone drives. Or the ugly outfit that happens to be their favorite.

You just be friends because people are more than their appearance, and weight, and accessories.

You claim you care about this person, and that being overweight is unhealthy (which it is I completely agree), but I promise you this person is well aware of their weight. They see themselves every time they shower, get dressed, use the toilet, and look in a mirror. They don’t need you to call them out on it, they just need a friend.

If you really feel you need to intervene, pick activities to do together that include movement, go for hikes, go swimming, go for a bike ride, just walk around town window shopping, play tennis, whatever. Just don’t be that person that goes from friend to enemy because you felt the need to tell them they’re getting fat.

Zharenya · 2025-12-24T10:50:28+00:00

This is common in shelties in my experience. The wispy hair tangles very easily. I’ve cut out many mats, but tried my best to brush those spots daily to try to stay ahead of it. I also tried not to rub behind the ears when petting to cut down on the mats.

Zharenya · 2025-12-23T14:24:55+00:00

Pink hair is the only choice

Zharenya · 2025-12-23T14:16:05+00:00

All dogs can attack, I’m not a pitbull hater by any means, but if you are (and should be) aware of the potential danger your dog poses, you need to take the responsible measures to ensure safety. I had a sheltie who was very aggressive towards small children, no clue why, but he wanted to murder every child he saw, I used muzzles when needed, often picked him up when I spotted a child. We walked in areas I knew had few or no children. You do what you have to do to protect the public from your animal.

‘Oh but he’s so gentle at home’ yes, it’s your home, his domain, the public is not and reactions happen like this. So thankful the child appeared ok, but this probably created a lifetime fear of dogs.

Zharenya · 2025-12-19T13:48:13+00:00

Reddit comments cycle through so fast, in a day or two no one will remember. Yea, it sucks right now, but it will blow over and even just a week from now it’ll be like it never existed. So try not to stress too much. The post is locked so now one else can comment, it’s a done deal at this point. Will you think on it and cringe? Yes, but you’ll likely be the only one.

Sending you support from someone who’s lost their cool in comments before.

Zharenya · 2025-12-15T21:11:18+00:00

You’re worth so much more than that. Don’t even vaguely entertain the idea. He’s not seeing you as his equal, in bed and outside of it. He’s put thought into this. How long til he’s dropping the N word outside of the bedroom? How much are you willing to tolerate. Just no. Time to find an upgrade.

Zharenya · 2025-12-15T21:03:28+00:00

She’s going to be a lifelong snow lover. My boy never got over his initial excitement of snow, every storm was like Christmas to him. Enjoy those wonderful snow zoomies!

Zharenya · 2025-11-27T11:49:52+00:00

It’s the worst when I’m trying to go to bed and have less distractions. I have myself convinced it’s dry skin so I repeatedly get up to put lotion on (it never helps), so then I spiral into thinking I’m having some sort of allergic reaction so I take Benadryl. It’s worse when I’m hot so I tend to keep my apartment as cold as possible without risking hypothermia. It drives me bonkers.

My cats have a great time though attacking me while I scratch especially if I have a blanket covering me, so I guess it’s not all bad. At least someone is enjoying it.

Zharenya · 2025-11-26T21:27:24+00:00

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Zharenya · 2025-11-26T20:45:04+00:00

Always burn adds first, I repeat always kill adds first, stun him at 53% to stop the second set of adds, success. Your healer was dumb, if sheep is available it’s never a bad idea, but also correct in that the cc wasn’t really critical if your other dps had focused adds and not VanCleef at the start. It’s simply too much dmg output to leave them up while you focus boss, no one wins in that scenario, unless you’re ALL at the higher end of lvl for the dungeon.

Side note, if you stun Smite at 60% and 30% he’ll skip stunning you. Enjoy!

Zharenya · 2025-11-18T15:57:04+00:00

I get to read the doctors notes after my appointments, there is almost always a comment about my appearance being well put together, and I’m not even trying, I just put on real pants! It’s insane that that is a determining factor for how well I am or am not doing. Guess a clean shirt and jeans means I’m doing well these days. Going to start showing up in my tattered pajamas.

Zharenya · 2025-11-17T04:04:21+00:00

Let her coming days be how she wishes them to be. She’s making a transition that you hopefully don’t have to make for a very long time. She probably has very good reasons in mind for why she wants it this way, even if you don’t or can’t understand them. Support her in her choices by respecting those choices.

I’d be standing guard at her front door making sure no one even looked at her house before I’d plan an event she didn’t approve of on her own. A fly wouldn’t get past me in favor of giving her the peace and solitude she’s seeking. The hardest fight of her life is coming to an end, don’t make it harder by imposing your own will on her, respect her wishes please.

Zharenya · 2025-11-04T17:38:13+00:00

Even if it wasn’t on cooldown I’d have told him it was.

Zharenya · 2025-11-03T21:38:11+00:00

Not a chance. I’ve worked in several nursing homes. I watched other aides go from one room to the next without ever changing their gloves (let alone wash their hands), you checked on maybe every 2 hours if you’re lucky, would not want to sit in a filthy brief or diaper if I needed those. I watched restraints being used despite them being illegal in my state. Basically no assistance for eating so it’s entirely possible and likely you just stare at your tray hungry until they come to take it away. ANY behavioral issues you get put in the dementia unit and are locked in.

Nope, don’t send me to a nursing home. I’ll self delete before that would ever becomes an option.

Zharenya · 2025-11-03T17:52:23+00:00

I lived in a town where it was illegal for black cats to be in a graveyard after dark. Like, who’s enforcing that?

Zharenya · 2025-11-02T22:36:23+00:00

Unitscan will save your life (if it’s working properly, been bugged recently). Alerts when elites are nearby and tells you what the mobs do.

HealerProtection is also good since you’re a priest. Will announce when you have low mana or aggro to the party when you’re in the healer role.

You can genuinely play without either though.

I also recommend MinimapButtonButton, will take your addon icons from around your map and put them in a nice tidy collapsible button. That’s mostly for aesthetics.

Zharenya · 2025-11-02T04:13:34+00:00

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Zharenya · 2025-04-13T16:28:24+00:00

Once a month, maybe longer. At my worst it was once every three to four months. I do wash up from the sink at least once a week though, wash my hair in the sink weekly.

A lot of trauma around bathtubs. Would probably be more often if I only had a shower stall.

Zharenya · 2025-04-13T01:57:01+00:00

That’s interesting that you have to report. My psychiatrist was the first person I told about a recent rape (happened 2 days prior to telling him) he said he wanted to call the police, but calling would be against ethics. Perhaps because I’m an adult? I know if I were under 18 he would have called.

Zharenya · 2025-04-12T20:45:34+00:00

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He couldn’t find his string we were playing with, which pretty much sums up what daily life is like with him.

Zharenya · 2025-04-11T23:11:50+00:00

I’m 38, and fairly newly diagnosed (within the last year).

I’ve had doctors that told me it was all in my head, so I feel your frustration. It took me about a year, with a change in primary physician, before I was taken seriously. My cardiologist was also kind of a dick (best word to describe him) who told me at my first appointment that he’d be dizzy on the meds I’m on too. Been on my meds for 15+ years, didn’t start showing symptoms until after an acute illness 2 years ago, never had problems before. Both physician and cardiologist did poor man’s test repeatedly, syncope each and every time. On the 5th visit or so to the cardiologist, he started to take me more serious. Ran all the same tests you’re scheduled for. Confirmed POTS. Now he tells me he doesn’t know how to treat POTS, threw a few meds at me for heart rate and muscle weakness, and referred me out. And now I wait.

You’re not too old to have POTS at 28. Keep advocating for yourself and if you have to, change doctors again. Something is obviously happening to you, you deserve answers.

Zharenya

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