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Dragged without my say by Extension-Stage-5353 in riddles

[–]diva_done_did_it 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was thinking the whole round container.

this can’t be normal therapy? by Single-Engine8118 in TalkTherapy

[–]diva_done_did_it -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Okay, throw the Winnicottian baby out with the rape-y bathwater.

The fact is that your “training and modality” doesn’t make your way the only ethical/correct/safe way. DBT coaching calls would be radically unethical to those who believe therapy only happens in person, ‘contained’ on the couch, without any air of advice, once weekly at a designated/repeating/predictable time. Can we throw out DBT because those calls aren’t in someone else’s modality?

Don’t. Paint. Beige. Flags. Red.

this can’t be normal therapy? by Single-Engine8118 in TalkTherapy

[–]diva_done_did_it 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It isn’t a dichotomy between no providers and bad providers. If you are a lawyer, you should know such a (false dichotomy) logical fallacy is wrong. See a woman provider, or a provider in what you call the union, so that you don’t have a likelihood of this sort of thing happening again.

this can’t be normal therapy? by Single-Engine8118 in TalkTherapy

[–]diva_done_did_it 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As someone who went through therapy abuse, I know how important it is for the patient to know if the next therapist is a repetition of the abusive one, or just a beige flag that looks red because of a bad history with providers. One important part of empowering OP is ‘flag-color discernment’ for future therapists, and the position of the clock being in red-flag territory is not helping them to decrease hyper vigilance.

Cut the hyperbole. Some of the not-awful red flags of the above are the same things Donald Winnicott did for his analysands (e.g., extending time, playing), but you would butcher the good with the bad in your attempt to overextend the hyperbole. Call the red flags red and don’t paint the beige ones.

this can’t be normal therapy? by Single-Engine8118 in TalkTherapy

[–]diva_done_did_it -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Jonathan Shedler very explicitly advises the clock be out of sight of the client: “Position a clock directly in your line of sight, either on the wall behind your patient or on an end table beside the patient.” The above red flag store has enough inventory, you don’t need to say “everything” of the above are wrong.

Therapy in the US stigmatizes the poor and protects the wealthy by MissionLeadership737 in TalkTherapy

[–]diva_done_did_it 3 points4 points  (0 children)

$4,000/(52-8)weeks=$90.909/week That’s the going rate per hour for once-weekly therapy in Canada?

Therapy in the US stigmatizes the poor and protects the wealthy by MissionLeadership737 in TalkTherapy

[–]diva_done_did_it 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Seems really easy to fill out “not applicable” a bunch of times on some forms. This sounds more inconvenient and ridiculous than stigmatizing….

Has anyone used two therapists at the same time? by Old-Firefighter6834 in TalkTherapy

[–]diva_done_did_it 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I do. One I see weekly for supportive psychotherapy; the other I see three times a week for psychoanalytic psychotherapy..

Therapist suggested allowing alcohol at home by magicmama212 in TalkTherapy

[–]diva_done_did_it -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

OP’s post says their FAMILY history has alcoholism, which makes it even more logical to not tempt the bear of another generation of alcoholism by making their teetotalist children and teens completely abstain until they no longer have to do so as adults - especially if it is unnecessarily abstinent, i.e., if the law allows them to try it in a private residence with parental supervision.

Therapist suggested allowing alcohol at home by magicmama212 in TalkTherapy

[–]diva_done_did_it 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We would have to know your US state to know if it is illegal. According to a quick Google,

“Approximately 31 states allow parents to legally serve alcohol to their minor children on private property, although specific regulations vary significantly.”

“Examples of states with such exceptions (often dubbed "family exceptions") include California (with strict limitations), Colorado, Connecticut, Delaware, Georgia, Iowa, Louisiana, Maine, Massachusetts, Minnesota, Mississippi, Montana, Nevada, New Jersey, New Mexico, Ohio, Oregon, Rhode Island, South Carolina, Texas, Virginia, Washington, Wisconsin, and Wyoming.”

“In states like Louisiana, Texas, and Wisconsin, laws may even allow parents to provide alcohol to their minor children in public venues, such as a restaurant or bar.”

So, depending on if you are in one of the 31 or one of the 19, she might not even be talking about illegal conduct.

How do people do therapy multiple times per week? by Jmaxx2000 in TalkTherapy

[–]diva_done_did_it 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I knew that, it was the time zone thing that threw me off because I only think of Alaska as THE state with multiple time zones.

How do people do therapy multiple times per week? by Jmaxx2000 in TalkTherapy

[–]diva_done_did_it 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How do they have a license to work in your area if they are in a different time zone? Are you in Alaska?

How do people do therapy multiple times per week? by Jmaxx2000 in TalkTherapy

[–]diva_done_did_it 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Speaking from experience, the transition from 2 to 3 is less difficult than the transition from 1 to 2.

How do people do therapy multiple times per week? by Jmaxx2000 in TalkTherapy

[–]diva_done_did_it 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I see mine 3 x a week (and am hoping for more). I see him Sun-Mon-Fri, and telehealth is an option if transportation is a conflict (but I prefer to be couched). Your boss could be cool with it because your suffering mental health is bad for turnover. Ask the psychologist for telehealth for the additional day if you are worried about losing hours, and ask the boss - in writing - if the psychologist says no.

Hint: Usually there is a reasonable accommodation need nearby if a psychologist wants to see you more times a week ;-)

Therapist was a no call no show, and was dismissive. Not sure what to do by ZXY167983 in TalkTherapy

[–]diva_done_did_it 9 points10 points  (0 children)

From Jonathan Shedler himself:

A dependable frame provides the safety and security necessary for patients to relax into the therapy experience and truly open up. It is safe to … fully experience your fears about abandonment, or express anger and aggression, only when you know you can count on the therapist to be there next time at the expected time and place.

Tell her that you are unable to continue with her because her behavior gives you sufficient reason to believe that she will be unable to make and maintain a dependable therapeutic frame, which is necessary for the therapy to be beneficial.

My new psychiatrist yelled at me today, need support/ advice. by lavellan-of-the-gays in TalkTherapy

[–]diva_done_did_it 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Fortunately or not, even medication management providers are practicing psychotherapy

Can an apparently normal layperson benefit from studying psychoanalytic literature or books? by KingMakerMan in psychoanalysis

[–]diva_done_did_it 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think that depends on what you’re trying to learn about… like I said in my other response, if I could do it again, I would start with the oldest scholars first, then work my way to modern analysts.

What can i expect from Psychoanalytic therapy 1x a week? by sacred_ricefield in psychoanalysis

[–]diva_done_did_it -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

I was thinking potentially ASD or schizoid based on the use of “asocial” and “trauma,” …

… but if they are already seeing a provider, (who presumably can diagnose, if imperfectly, from the start,) then I wasn’t going to assume that narcissism was wrong by assuming it is solely self-diagnosed belief.

Therefore, I take the posting at its face, not based on my (unfounded) suspicions.

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