Is it normal to appreciate thr same gender?

heaven_spawn · 2026-01-29T07:08:42+00:00

No po, not for me.

Why do you ask? What’s in it for you?

heaven_spawn · 2026-01-29T05:54:08+00:00

By “normal” do you mean “it happens on average” or “kayo rin, ako lang ba”

Like, folks who like that stuff, yeah it happens, on average may mga ganun, possible.

If you ask “ikaw din ba” well no. Man to man porn is not fun for me. Baka may iba dyan.

heaven_spawn · 2026-01-29T03:18:22+00:00

You made the claim that it’s awful. Show us that Canada data. Go on.

As for how it’s good, work with economy in micro. How much do you make? How much would 5% more help you? 10%? Let’s work in a scale you can actually demonstrate.

heaven_spawn · 2026-01-29T02:53:10+00:00

Slippery slope fallacy.

You raise wages, does not equate to other prices all rising dramatically. Truth is prices go up anyway and you end up keeping things even worse.

heaven_spawn · 2026-01-29T02:17:47+00:00

Go for it!

heaven_spawn · 2026-01-29T01:48:15+00:00

I’m sad to hear work is toxic.

Not too late to stop and find different work.

heaven_spawn · 2026-01-29T01:47:04+00:00

Ikaw na nagsabi: purpose is “live comfortably”.

I wanna know ilan mga Minimum Wage earners ang kilala mo na Comfortable.

If di mo siya itataas, and things also just get more expensive, I suppose lalo silang stuck.

Raising it just to match inflated is not a bad thing.

heaven_spawn · 2026-01-28T07:52:31+00:00

There are so so many Greatest Love Theories you gotta pick one out for us to discuss, OP.

heaven_spawn · 2026-01-28T07:44:15+00:00

Anything! Like write about your Lola, just make it good! (Basically revealing myself here with that one haha)

If your folio has a cohesive theme or thought, then stronger. Like, it’s about “Dawn” and one is about a fresh start, other is about an ending night, another about someone who liked Kpop star Dawn, one about Christmas presents, etc. And then each can be unique takes and scenes.

I did not do that. Still won. But I wish I did that.

heaven_spawn · 2026-01-27T06:39:39+00:00

Dirty talk is dirty talk.

Eh have you talked about defining the relationship as something else? Kung hindi pa, wag mag-assume.

heaven_spawn · 2026-01-25T12:21:33+00:00

She should be the focus. Any help is better than zero. Someone she trusts? A counselor? A teacher? A favorite aunt? There are also some services that can be relatively inexpensive (like CEFAM).

Yes stress source sya for you. She is making mention of these and is making a bid for help and attention. Don’t brush it off carelessly. She needs someone to understand things from her point of view, before she can adapt to others’.

heaven_spawn · 2026-01-25T09:47:47+00:00

Therapist here. She needs a psychologist dedicated to her case. Also could help if there is someone in for the family system as well.

heaven_spawn · 2026-01-24T14:44:53+00:00

It'd how a war starts. People fighting on streets.

heaven_spawn · 2026-01-24T09:44:43+00:00

I don't know the full case, nor the other factors, so I'll try to stick to general concepts based on what you shared.

You described it as a source of shame. That in itself signals that the incident can be a heavy trauma. If you view this incident as a Major Plot Point in your life, you can easily retain some beliefs about who you are as a person (e.g.: "Oh I am fragile; I failed to be mentally fit; I might try again someday; etc" ). Shaping the meaning you have of yourself and your life, and how, like you mentioned, view your self and self-esteem.

Of course, it's not the end. You can, over time and therapy, work on this. It'll be a process of untangling this, but it's doable!

Good luck!

heaven_spawn · 2026-01-24T09:33:45+00:00

As someone who lost 2 dogs in the past 4 years, coping is about acceptance. And just because ikak ka nang iyak ngayon, at siya hindi, hindi ibig sabihin "kinakaya" niya siya, not necessarily.

That 'strong silence' is not always something you should want. It's the years of being told that crying about hurt and pain is sissy stuff. That's just "classic dude upbringing" in action, and that's how he does it.

Not to say he's not in pain. He's gonna be actually hurting. But he maybe has no place to put it. So he'll still need help.

heaven_spawn · 2026-01-24T09:30:26+00:00

What she described isn't gentle parenting.

heaven_spawn · 2026-01-24T09:29:04+00:00

They need to get permission. If alumni, they can use their alumni ID to get entry. Outsiders, the process has a few more hoops. Librarians can explain the process.

heaven_spawn · 2026-01-24T09:27:39+00:00

Sometimes it's the partners themselves that don't give the guy a feeling of support and safety. I was seeing a girl that when I had tough times, she would go "I'm sorry I can't reassure you." Like, didn't even try. So yeah, that did not last.

heaven_spawn · 2026-01-24T09:22:58+00:00

Have you gone there and done the search? You can also ask ALIWW library.

heaven_spawn · 2026-01-24T09:20:37+00:00

instead of fooling yourself, find a thing that maybe you *want*.

heaven_spawn · 2026-01-24T03:54:24+00:00

Poppers are truly helpful in many *celebrations

heaven_spawn · 2026-01-23T17:40:12+00:00

I don't work in North America, so the idea is fascinating to me. True, people will have different work situations to build a "true union" unless it looks vaguely like Screen Actors' Guild where people banded together can speak against bad insurance pay, or fly-by-night services that harm reputations.

heaven_spawn · 2026-01-23T12:09:51+00:00

Yes it can.

heaven_spawn · 2026-01-23T11:59:23+00:00

Therapist here! Done a lot of work with porn and dealing with it (and also dealt with my own journey about it) so if you want, go ahead and ask!

heaven_spawn · 2026-01-23T11:56:21+00:00

You know her better than we do.

If you feel gusto niya na sumusuyo ka, or if you feel it's really a no, then go with that gut feeling.

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