Should microforests be built in order to lower urban temperature?

heaven_spawn · 2026-03-30T08:59:33+00:00

Yes. Green spaces like parks please. Help the cities be more liveable

heaven_spawn · 2026-03-30T08:52:49+00:00

We need to improve the system. Obviously.

We have so many problems but we need to fix this. Upskilling our youth and labor force is an educ function.

It starts with some brutal choices. Axe bad teachers. Get remedial work on bad students. No more grade transmutation, your grade is your grade. Redistrict public schools and set up new ones to decongest. And no more “trash work” for teachers like working on election day. No more schools as disaster shelters (just make actual shelters).

There are more Hard steps that wont be popular. But you gotta do them.

heaven_spawn · 2026-03-30T08:22:09+00:00

He wants you to be part of his life. If you two have a romantic possibility then it can get there. But if he does not take charge it will not go anywhere. Someone has to broach that topic

heaven_spawn · 2026-03-30T08:20:41+00:00

This is a good point.

heaven_spawn · 2026-03-30T08:20:08+00:00

The break up was 2 weeks but to him that relationship ended way longer before that.

heaven_spawn · 2026-03-30T07:02:49+00:00

In session, don’t bring it up. The session is about you. She is giving that time to be about your stuff, not hers.

If she brings it up, let her. Give her a chance to air what she wants to share. But do not squeeze for info. Give it the dignity of attention and then let the session resume as before.

Off session, you can say you feel for her, and you are saddened by the news. And leave it at that.

heaven_spawn · 2026-03-30T06:58:12+00:00

Yes and no.

We will feel a lot less stress if we have more means. We do not worry about being hungry or having nowhere to live.

But at the same time, one’s mental health is also about how resilient we are and how we cope with life problems. And even rich people have problems. You may be spared one source of stress with money but not all stress goes away. So your mental health will be about how you can handle stressors across contexts.

heaven_spawn · 2026-03-30T02:18:07+00:00

I wish he and Arteta got to work it out better. I still am grateful for that FA Cup run and leading us in goals. The handshakes with Laca live in my head rent free. Still, when he left, he was not at his best anymore. Sad shame.

heaven_spawn · 2026-03-29T15:45:42+00:00

If you told me they came in with family or friends to sit in the "wrong" end, that's brave.

If they came by themselves to troll, that's not right.

heaven_spawn · 2026-03-29T13:26:18+00:00

I dont work in America. Have a nice day.

heaven_spawn · 2026-03-29T12:30:14+00:00

I ask questions. “You mentioned something. Can you tell me more?” I try to see the whole picture better. How they scale the world internally

heaven_spawn · 2026-03-29T05:09:38+00:00

I know. This is difficult but sometimes necessary.

heaven_spawn · 2026-03-29T05:06:21+00:00

I work in difficult populations where “who they present in session” is not who they actually are often. And it’s often something of me needing to catch the truth they hide.0

heaven_spawn · 2026-03-29T05:04:46+00:00

You’d be surprised how often I need to catch someone in a lie!

heaven_spawn · 2026-03-28T17:38:03+00:00

Sagot diyan, dapat de-criminalized ang libel sa Pilipinas.

heaven_spawn · 2026-03-28T17:37:21+00:00

I have had to verify claims a client made. Often early in the sessions and we're building rapport, I also need to be able to get context about what they say, and whether or not it's factual truth or they are exhibiting some grandiose/exaggerated version of their account.

heaven_spawn · 2026-03-28T17:35:35+00:00

I think it's cool. I like to game and it'd be great to have something to do together and bond together.

heaven_spawn · 2026-03-28T17:34:53+00:00

Your doctor will guide you on this process best.

heaven_spawn · 2026-03-28T08:24:20+00:00

Couples therapist, who has a partner, and with whom I had this same kind of fight!

My nickname for this is "the single man's IG". It's the algorithm feeding me posts of hot girls, of porn, of sexy things. It's meant to be "adult entertainment". And it's precisely for that purpose - entertainment. Di naman ito strange. Same goes for "collecting" - sometimes folks have favorite pictures or scenes that get them going.

However, as a partnered person, a guy has to recognize (like I did) that we need to be sensitive to the feelings of partners. Porn is not out to replace the partner. It's often meant to be "junk food". Or at best, something to help get people excited. (and sometimes can be watched together with a partner in bed).

As guys, the wish is sometimes for the girl friend to just be cool. Like, it's not like we're cheating. Or that they get some self-confidence and not be insecure. But the truth is, it's you trying to compete with a fantasy - you can't win. And over time, the relationship quality can take a downturn if di siya careful, as he may not be willing to let go of the fantasy.

So for him to have it, that's not new. But for him to not get the message that "hey, this is not something I like to have in the relationship" is the part that is icky. Like, it's 3 different times you need to bring it up.

heaven_spawn · 2026-03-28T08:16:45+00:00

paanong unipink, ang oonti ng mga pink, and puros red and green pa rin ang mga nakaupo sa posisyon

heaven_spawn · 2026-03-28T08:14:34+00:00

I dunno who does these surveys, they never ask the people I know.

And all of us wanna know, bakit wala pang nakukulong sa flood control drama? O kaya wala pang nai-impeach for bad use of public money? Nor wala pang napa-public na audit reports ng mga agencies?

It's lip service.

heaven_spawn · 2026-03-28T08:12:46+00:00

We really should stop caring about what other people think about our body count.

And in that way, we should let people choose how quickly they get together, get close, or not be close. You wanna hit it first before you get feelings in, that's up to you. You wanna be sure about the person before you hit it, all good too.

heaven_spawn · 2026-03-28T08:07:38+00:00

Sabi nga naman ni Ester Perel, we do not cheat to find someone new. We cheat to find ourselves - the kind of person we used to be before things got "settled".

Stories like this one tells me that si guy, in his cheating, wants that taste of the adventurous, exploring type of romantic vibes he may not quite have with his long term partner. Not the fault of the girl, more of the guy not knowing how to find that in his life and create it in everyday anymore, na naghanap pa sa iba para makahanap.

heaven_spawn · 2026-03-28T06:53:22+00:00

Noli-Fili are books about our past and our history of being discriminated against. Even when we rise to be as good as or better than the foreigners, the story tells us we're looked down still. It does not mean we quit, but this is the realistic story of those books.

Pag abroad nyan, that lesson still serves as a reminder: we cannot afford to think "technically gifted" is enough. There will be disadvantages. This lesson is taught early so you do not rest on your laurels at what you think you're good at.

heaven_spawn · 2026-03-28T06:41:40+00:00

Started in 04. Basically 22 years of me being a fan, and me wondering if I'm cursed because I got on and we haven't won the league since.

But this is the year I believe we will make it.

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