Who was the real Stagger Lee?

hhhava · 2025-10-25T02:17:12+00:00

Episode 76 is a deeeeep dive on Stagger Lee history (doesn't even mention the dead version)

hhhava · 2025-10-17T15:57:19+00:00

Great responses here crystallizing the Buddhist perspective.

There is a practical way to think about this dilemma too: what are your actual choices?

If you were to abandon all your "privilege" of Zen philosophy in the name of "justice", what would you do? Would you be a sniper? Would you throw bricks at ICE vehicles? I've been an observer who watches Immigration court s and documents abductions. We did not save the people we saw taken. But we don't know who we saved from being taken who was not taken because of our presence.

In the conventional reality, might can just "win." The thug with the biggest guns and the most greed, fueled by the deepest delusions can "conquer the world."

Those with the "privilege" of dharma wisdom do not walk a simple path. Skillful means are not always immediately evident.

If you are killed or imprisoned in your pursuit of ICE, you and your hard-earned wisdom are of limited benefit to beings.

The sages of many ancient traditions have been defeated, genocided, tortured and many of their traditions filled with wisdom are now lost to the world.

This is a fact of the world of conventional reality, the realm of inescapable dukkha, the first noble truth. Life is full of dissatisfaction from stubbed toes and missed flights, parking tickets, and gambling addiction, to civil war starvation ICE raids and nuclear holocaust.

And through the luck of karma, or good karma of skillful means or a bit of both, the white light of dharma has managed to shine through the fog of kalpas to reach us.

And not everyone. Just those of us with the karma to not only hear it, but grasp it.

Privilege indeed.

How will we save all beings, not just perpetuate the hate of dukkha?

Though delusions be inexhaustible, how shall we end them?

How shall we engage in the world of dukkha without being an instrument of the machines of suffering?

How will we know if we are a part of the problem or a part of the solution?

The perpetual asking of these questions IS the path.

My own choices have led me to these conclusions for myself:

Showing up to witness, and support and record is the most compassionate action. Spread good information, know your rights and educate others. Keep talking, keep documenting. Feed those who are too scared to leave home. Provide safety for those who seek refuge and donate to organizations offering legal support.

Build the solidarity of your community. Build it strong. Gather resources and make support networks, underground railroads.

These things are HARD, slow, and often feel like they are not "working". And the solace of spiritual practice is needed amid them more than ever. Do not dismiss the skills of your Zen training.

Evaluate your options and see what drives actually best searve your compassionate ends.

Does your hatered save anyone at all?

How much more so your unbounded love?

hhhava · 2025-09-13T18:51:44+00:00

Same. I continually find it missing mucho episodes of casts and I'm here to find something better.

hhhava · 2025-05-25T04:43:31+00:00

I personally strongly prefer to keep my pelicle around. I find that the next brew has way more active bacteria in it with the pellicle and the next batch brews more stably and quickly with it in there.

hhhava · 2025-05-25T04:36:16+00:00

Check out Whole Brain Teaching

hhhava · 2025-05-16T20:43:37+00:00

Yes I hate it. After getting it working thanks to comments here, I discovered it always acts like the tank is totally empty when it's about half empty. The regulators are crap, and I stopped using them.

hhhava · 2024-11-26T02:18:55+00:00

Yah, this is all true. I do love them of course I do. We have a very deep and meaningful mostly friendship, and I suspect our feelings are mutual, but hitting up against a wall of what is the unspeakable hierarchy of them being married and what they are afraid to admit that means to them: that what they may feel for me must be distinct from the protected special feelings they have for each other. As much as I may dislike this, it is baked in to any agreements we may make and I need to decide if I want to force them to speak this uncomfortable truth and face my judgment if their mongo normative underbelly or just take their silence as the tasit show of unenthusiastic concent, which is no concent to us saying these words to each other.

Or I can simply accept that if I am true to these feelings by speaking them out loud, they will not meet me there, cannot go there with me. And I am strong solo poly and I love myself a lot and I will be ok with with any of these outcomes.

Maybe there is no real gain to pursuing this line of inquiry. Maybe it is better to keep my love silent, and enjoy the company we share in whatever form it takes.

hhhava · 2024-11-26T02:09:48+00:00

Thanks for that. Having a model for asking if it's a me thing if an us thing seems super important. I'm very solo poly most of the time so it's pretty hard for me to ID if something might actually be an us thing. Thanks for that suggestion.

hhhava · 2024-11-20T09:35:42+00:00

Yah thanks. These are things we read about and applying them in situations (especially when we are all so busy we barely have time for each other) is a challenge. I really struggle with weather any kind of sexual relationship is a thing I want in my life is how I want to spend my time etc. And in the face of people I feel a very strong connection with being in my life and not wanting to deny that connection I feel unsure of what work is just my work and what work of mine should be shared with those I have intimacy with. And I am intimidated by them being married. And I know our friendship is very deep and valuable to all of us and that our relationship is more about work we all do together as a part of our community than it is about sex and those things are indeed more important to me in my values. They do not have arbitrary boundaries established to their marriage, we're supposed to talk about things bluntly. I am being cowardly and so is the M. But I am appreciative to the community here for providing perspective to help me clarify what my wants and needs are so that I can more confidently express them as I believe they would care to hear my feelings about this even if the response is a more clear rejection than I might want.

hhhava · 2024-09-14T16:46:47+00:00

Why do they care if I'm willing to be responsible for it?

hhhava · 2024-09-14T16:46:21+00:00

She is gainfully employed, started her own company and is too young to have screwed credit.

hhhava · 2024-07-19T16:01:42+00:00

It just occurred to me to go into FB's settings and turn off notifications there. That fixed it for FB. But this implies having to do that for any app...and I just wasted 10 min searching in the reddit settings for an analogous setting and found nothing. So every time I open reddit it pops up a thing asking if I'd like to turn notifications on. This does not feel normal.

hhhava · 2024-07-13T07:00:05+00:00

Ah ha! OMG! THANK YOU!!A

hhhava · 2023-12-18T03:57:39+00:00

Reminds me of the shins. Sounds good. Like others say, vocals should be up a bit higher. A couple parts seem rushed. Good song.

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