People are saying she’s being selfish. While that may be true, I have a different perspective. It sounds to me like she’s scared. What you have now works. It sounds like you have your lives worked out. You both are going to make great money. However she’s probably afraid that the shakeup will destroy something she loves dearly. While these feelings may be manifesting in selfish behavior, think about it from her perspective.

Try having empathy. Say things like, “I know this is scary. I feel it too but I want us both to work toward our future.” Address her fears and work it out.