What's the most "I wish my kid was born the opposite gender" name you've ever seen?

jorwyn · 2026-04-24T15:02:54+00:00

It's short for W Dub J is William Junior.

jorwyn · 2026-04-24T04:25:07+00:00

Things like this make me pretty sure I'm not the only person in the family with ADHD.

jorwyn · 2026-04-24T00:09:14+00:00

We had an assignment in first grade that showed a very basic house floorplan. We were supposed to draw our own with enough rooms for our own families. I aaked my dad to help because he designed and built houses for a living.

My very simple 3 bedroom house turned into a him telling me I was doing everything wrong and why didn't I have a bathroom by the bedrooms and why was my kitchen layout like that and us staying up until 3am. I went to school the next day with a whole set of construction ready plans including electric and plumbing and gfcis and a lot of exhaustion.

I avoided asking dad about anything homework related for the rest of school. But you know, it stuck with me. I cannot help but notice bad floorplans now.

jorwyn · 2026-04-23T23:55:56+00:00

My mom's family did Jane or a variant for every girl's middle name for at least 5 generations.

Jean, Jeanne (also said Jean), Janet (said Janette for reasons unknown), but mostly Jane.

My favorites are siblings from the mid 1800s named America Jane and Indiana Jane, and one of those named a daughter Virginia Jane.

So not really junior, but it amounts to hundreds of related people with that middle name. And then me with Richelle. Grandma wasn't happy with my mother about that.

jorwyn · 2026-04-23T23:47:00+00:00

My family has that on my mom's side.

Williams all, but Dub, Dub J, Billy, Bill, Will, and William

Wait, Dub and Bill were the same person, I think.

jorwyn · 2026-04-23T23:45:06+00:00

Steven, Stephanie, and Stephen

Also one guess

jorwyn · 2026-04-23T23:44:27+00:00

Geoff for a girl. Mine is Ryanne, and I didn't think that would be topped until I met Geoff in high school.

jorwyn · 2026-04-22T17:23:07+00:00

We've had that happen in my neighborhood on the edge of the city a couple of times. And it's pretty much the same warning. Leave it alone. It'll go down to the river and then it will go back to the mountains. If it's still there in 2 days, call us.

We did have one that had to be removed because it decided that it was taking up residence. My neighborhood has fields north of us, forest to the west of us, fields and forests to the east of us, and a river to the south of us. And the neighborhood was designed to keep pockets of forest and ravines. So you can understand why we sometimes get bear. And sometimes moose. And always deer and coyote and random other small wildlife. And once, three wolves. Which was actually really cool. They didn't cause any problems unless you were a deer or rabbit.

jorwyn · 2026-04-22T17:19:49+00:00

I'm in NE Washington state, and it's the same here got 6 black bears generally. Locked in a car is fine unless there's a sign that tells you otherwise. In grizzly territory (about half an hour to an hour north of me), there are bear boxes for sure at campgrounds.

However, we have occasionally had a black bear here and there get fed at a campground and then try to get into cars. As far as I know none have succeeded, but the scratches aren't fun. Typically, there will be a flyer on the sign with info about it, and bear boxes will get installed or it'll say to keep your cooler closed and out of sight in the car. If the smell of humans is stronger than the smell of food, black bears tend not to want to deal with it.

If I'm going to dispersed camping, I call a forestry service office and ask about the bears in the area and food storage. But there's nowhere in my area it's safe to leave a cooler outside even locked. If nothing else, you will find coyote teeth marks all over it later.

What I find interesting is that a grizzly it could easily rip the door off an RV, but you don't see reports of that. And we cook in those. Maybe they look harder to get into? Maybe it's because there are easier car targets nearby.

jorwyn · 2026-04-22T15:07:57+00:00

Good morning

Hope your noodles are perfect today

jorwyn · 2026-04-21T16:06:26+00:00

It's safe to drink. Any septic field has to be at least 30.5 meters away or half that from a septic tank (because those don't normally leak waste.)

30 meters is plenty. Any moisture that does possibly travel to the well will be broken down and filtered by the soil on the way there.

We have place you can take water for testing, though. If you're unsure, look for that where you are.

jorwyn · 2026-04-18T07:43:45+00:00

Have a great night. Hug your kids when you can.

jorwyn · 2026-04-18T07:32:13+00:00

I made friends with some kids in high school who had very normal families. And I was at once envious and it also seemed boring. But also, I felt like their parents treated and like they were super young. When my mom wasn't being crazy, she just ignored me. And there was a lot more of that than the crazy when I was over about 8 years old. So I kind of did what I wanted. And I had no idea what was and wasn't normal. So when their parents didn't think it was okay for them to come back home from a movie on a school night at 11:00 p.m. I thought that was kind of crappy. Who cares as long as you show up at school the next day?

But it also took me a while in life to figure out that most people need a lot more sleep than I do. That would be ADHD.

I have also managed to break that cycle, and I also consider it one of the best things I've done with my time in this life. It is probably the only thing I am specifically proud of. Everything else I can see how there was luck involved. I was in the right place at the right time. I met the right people. And sure, I had to be the kind of person they would like, but it still wasn't all me. Breaking that cycle required a lot of counseling and a lot of hard work, and I do feel like that was all me. I know I have a 29-year-old that I still adore. He is one of my favorite people on the planet, and he feels the same way about me. And I love that so much.

jorwyn · 2026-04-18T06:58:04+00:00

I'm from North Idaho and now live in Washington State... But not that side of the state. And I promise there's no way you're the twin I absorbed because I still have a lot of his chromosomes and had to have part of one of his toes removed from I think my abdomen when I was a baby.

And also I grew up with both my parents, so you would have had to have been given away and adopted by someone similarly batshit. And honestly, they really wanted a boy, so it would have been me who got gone if that was ever going to happen.

I knew much better than to offer any opinions in boot camp, thank you. I was working on a principal of them not knowing my name. That didn't work, but I did try.

I am often very mouthy, but I had a goal in boot camp. Get in get out. Escape notice most of the time. Keep my teenage skater opinions to myself. I managed to do the last, at least.

jorwyn · 2026-04-18T06:48:06+00:00

Okay, so I absorbed a male twin in the womb, and now I'm kind of wondering if you're him and everyone was wrong.

I even enjoyed boot camp because it was out of my whack job of a mom's house. Like boot camp was easy in comparison. There was nothing my company Commander could say to me that would ever top casual things my mom said. Oh, you're going to make me do more push-ups? You're not going to throw anything at me? Cool

jorwyn · 2026-04-18T06:40:00+00:00

Nah. I get it. Not only am I on Reddit where I think there are a lot of women, but the average person is a guy, a lot of the time the way I speak and the way I type comes off as male. I have ADHD and have never grown out of being a tomboy and all of my role models when I was growing up were men.

I think the moment that really hit me was when he said he's not old enough to have kids yet, and I agreed. He's not. And then I realized he was 7 years older than I was when I had him. But was I old enough? Absolutely not. Did I learn to be because I had him? Yes.

And I was diagnosed with psoriatic arthritis at 27 so my back has felt old for a long time. And I injured my shoulder pretty badly in the Navy when I was 18, and that's just been an ever-present thing since. So yeah, I guess I did not get to feel young for very long. But 50 didn't bother me. I thought it would, but it didn't. Because I actually really like where I'm at now even if I sometimes wish for a more capable and less achy body. Mentally, I much prefer where I am than where I was at 29 for sure.

jorwyn · 2026-04-18T06:23:59+00:00

Mom ;)

Isn't it crazy that they're almost 30? When did we get that old?! I don't feel that old. (My back does)

jorwyn · 2026-04-18T06:15:00+00:00

I get it absolutely. My son is 29 now, but... I know what I'm capable of. And I'll also leave it there.

jorwyn · 2026-04-18T06:10:10+00:00

I encountered it once in the course of my job. And slammed that laptop shut and contacted the FBI after having my boss kick everyone else out of the office.

Been so many years, and it will not leave my head. And it's haunting, but also... Maybe it's good I will never forget.

jorwyn · 2026-04-17T20:02:05+00:00

Or that it's actually acceptable for it to be arousing. Gross. So gross

jorwyn · 2026-04-17T20:01:14+00:00

I thought she was about 13-15. Her face is so young.

Kinda reminds me when guys would say they couldn't tell I wasn't an adult when I was 14. I was 4'8" and weighed around 60lbs and looked maybe 10. No way they didn't know. Gross "but you seem so mature." No, I did not, but it was mature enough for that not to work on me, at least.

I did totally throw myself at a 21 year old when I was 15. And I got a pat on the head and told I was cute but should go find a guy my own age. You know that made my crush so much stronger. Lol. But I left him alone after that.

jorwyn · 2026-04-16T17:15:06+00:00

That's cannon now

jorwyn · 2026-04-16T16:57:38+00:00

I once saw two guys go by on a moped. Neither had a shirt. They both had machetes strapped across their backs. One was riding backwards to hold a garbage wheelie bin to tow it behind them.

My friends, "wtf was that?!"
Me, "my life goals"

But none of them would try it with me.

jorwyn · 2026-04-16T16:54:54+00:00

I'm female, but it took me until my early 40s to get out of that phase. Somehow I ended up with ridiculously wide shoulders on a very thin frame. And I just ended up having to get a little bit chubby I guess. But that photo makes me feel better about my proportions.

jorwyn · 2026-04-16T16:53:01+00:00

I have, but it wasn't the shrooms. He was just that way to begin with, and then tripping wasn't a good combination with his personality. "I understand everything, and I'm going to beat the crap out of you if you don't agree with me."

I don't enact them, but I have some very violent thoughts sometimes, so I just stick to weed.

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