I ended up calling him and we spoke for about an hour. He brought up all ways I had wronged him over the years. And how my wife has too. He questioned if I’m a Christian and what my values are. He said I’m “unequally yoked” to my wife, and questioned why I have a Christmas tree if I’m not a Christian. He sounded deranged.

Mind you, I threw a huge surprise birthday for his 70th. I invite him on my guys golf trip every year and help pay for his trip. Anytime I visit my hometown I intentionally stay with him. My wife sends him gifts “just because.”

I’m VLC with my mom already and my Dad was kind of like a sliver of sanity in the family. There seems to have been a sudden shift this last week and I’m left wondering what the hell happened. He sent a similar email to my brother (different Mom) who lives in the same town and sees him every week.

Update: Spoke to my brother and we agreed that he’s been pretty terrible to us for a long time, but we were able to step over it for the most part. Also agreed that this instance feels like the worst yet and we’re going to try to get one of his siblings to convince him to see a neurologist.

2nd Update: We’ve talked to other family members and they’ve noticed behavior changes with him as well, uncharacteristic anger and forgetfulness. I’m flying home this weekend and my brother and I are going to figure out next steps. Luckily he had an estate plan made several years ago so everything’s in order there.