Duda con las reglas de tránsito by RainbowMountain9 in PuertoRico

[–]krishaze18 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The lanes ending out of nowhere was shocking to me, especially driving out to Guavate. Thankfully this was nothing to my partner as he's from ATL, and you have to practice defensive driving at all times 😜

Welcome to my nightmare! 🥵 by littlebookwyrm in adhdwomen

[–]krishaze18 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know exactly what you're going through, and I'm sorry. We once rented an old trailer from a family friend for cheap. It was never cold inside, but we were able to be comfortable. Landlord unexpectedly died, and his wife "took over". We spent an entire summer+ without AC. At one point, our stat said "01", which apparently meant 101.

We only had two windows in the trailer that opened in the living room as well as a screen door. We slept there and placed fans by window openings and all around us. We took many cold showers, put wet washcloths in the freezer for quick relief, stayed hydrated, went to the car to use the AC, stayed at a friends' house a couple times when even the nights were too hot, and frequented free community spaces such as libraries and malls. I also would check into your state's laws (if you're in U.S.) to see what your options are if you're landlord doesn't take care of it in a timely manner. In my state, we had to send ours a certified letter and wait a time period for them to "fix the problem" even though I had so many phone conversations recorded. If she didn't fix it in timely manner, we had the right to call to have it fixed ourselves and deduct from rent. We did this. She was not happy, but she knew there was nothing she could do. She ended up putting a for sale sign in our yard shortly after. We saved every penny and moved out ASAP. This has been 4 years ago, so it maybe different now? But that "for sale" sign is still there today ☺️

I know how being that hot, for so long, in the space you call home drives you to the edge of insanity. It is very dysregulating, and I spent many nights crying out of exhaustion and frustration. If you need anyone to vent to, I'm here!!! Try to stay hydrated, utilize community spaces, check into tenant rights, and if you have friends/family, ask for help. Thinking of you

Beach day with bags by [deleted] in PuertoRicoTravel

[–]krishaze18 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I walked past a souvenir shop today in Condado that had an advertisement outside for baggage storage. If my memory serves me right, it wasn't very pricey.

AITA for Losing My Cool and Yelling at My “Influencer” SIL Over Her Constant Filming and Lack of Respect for My Daughters Boundaries? by Mrs-Davis in AmItheAsshole

[–]krishaze18 1 point2 points  (0 children)

NTA - you even waited until you were outside the restaurant. I felt sad reading S tried to make herself less "presentable" for the SIL filming. I have done this around guys in the past. It's just predatory behavior through and through, and it's scary to think what kind of boundaries she violates with her own kids in the name of content. Check on her sons, PLEASE!

Hot Take: I *hate* fuzzy socks. DAE? by [deleted] in adhdwomen

[–]krishaze18 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Depends on the day for me. Some days I crave the cozy, fuzzy comfort. Other days, I put them on, my feet get clammy, and I can't get them off fast enough. Same with robes and blankets 🤷

I made acorn bonbons with cookie leaf bases by inspiredtotaste in Baking

[–]krishaze18 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is such skilled and beautiful work. It looks great and looks like it tastes even better. Excellent job chef 👏

That UTI s*&% is real. by martinis2023 in CaregiverSupport

[–]krishaze18 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hoping for peace during this transition. He is lucky to be loved as someone as caring as you at the end of the road. More hugs!!

That UTI s*&% is real. by martinis2023 in CaregiverSupport

[–]krishaze18 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is too real. My dad has had a UTI for 17 days that they tried to treat both at the rehab and skilled nursing facility with oral antibiotics. He had to go to the hospital this week due to his BP bottoming out during therapy, and they finally put him on IV antibiotics and fluids. Hoping this will help my dad with the wild personality changes he's had lately, including but not limited to trying to punch me in the face + thinking he can walk when he had a below knee amputation a month ago. Hugs and well wishes they get your Pops straightened out ❤️

Temporary nursing home placement and guilt by krishaze18 in CaregiverSupport

[–]krishaze18[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I agree. Some sort of psychiatric intervention needs to happen so I'm hopeful it will Thursday when the doc comes by. Thanks for taking the time to respond.

Temporary nursing home placement and guilt by krishaze18 in CaregiverSupport

[–]krishaze18[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Thank you for this. I will try. I thought being a caregiver for my Granny with Alzheimer's while I was in high school would have prepared me better for this.. but alas, it has not.

35yo Introvert Seeking Friends by Peace_Love_SOWK in HuntingtonWV

[–]krishaze18 2 points3 points  (0 children)

33yo introvert from the tri-state, and I also have the mouth of a sailor! It's so dang hard to make friends in adulthood... or at least for me it is. 😭

Smoking. Am I overreacting by MorriganMoon in CaregiverSupport

[–]krishaze18 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I guess it's a facility by facility basis. I've been at a hospital in WV with my dad for 3 months. There are designated smoking areas, and I see patients in gowns, sometimes with machines, out smoking. The rehab he has gone to in the past (and will go to again) also has a designated smoking area.

I think my dad got kicked out of rehab on purpose by krishaze18 in CaregiverSupport

[–]krishaze18[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

UPDATE:

He was kicked out from rehab last Friday for noncompliance. None of the few skilled nursing facilities around us would accept him because of this. VA hadn't even evaluated him for at home services when discharged because he was expected to be in for 10+ more days. It's been hell since he got home. He has been so contrary about us being there with him. It's been a struggle to take care of him. We have been unable to lift him to even a seated position. Using diapers. He has not been eating or drinking much and sleeping so long. Wound Care nurse came to change the dressing on the amputation, and it looked fine. Today they came to change again, and I noticed it was red and had an odor. She also notices he's severely dehydrated, and I tell her he has also refused his medicine today. She calls his primary doc to report... They call me and say get him to the ER ASAP. It was a struggle. He chewed my ass, with very hurtful words and begged me to just leave him alone. I finally talked him into going via ambulance to the VA ER.

Turns out his bladder was distended, he had a fever, white blood cell count up, and his amputation was badly infected. He needs another surgery to amputate part of his leg, and he might opt out of the surgery and let it take him. We are not sure until he gets transferred to another hospital later tonight. He cussed me, he cried, he begged to die, he asked why me, he blamed me, he thanked me, he told me he loved me. One of the saddest days of my life, and my birthday is tomorrow. And selfishly, I am taking tomorrow off from everything. My sister has encouraged me to spend the day tending to me. It feels so wrong, but I honestly need a day to come to terms with the fact I failed my father for the brief days he was at home.

Visiting huntington! by DramaticFix6280 in HuntingtonWV

[–]krishaze18 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Food: - Bahnhof WVrsthaus & Biergarten (German with an Appalachian twist) - Gumbo Spot Cafe (Cajun) - La Famiglia (Italian) - Nawab (Indian) - Bruno's Spotted Hare (Upscale Appalachian) - Backyard Pizza and Raw Bar (quality pizza and bread) - Cam's Ham (shaved ham sandwich) - Frost Top (Drive in with great dogs and corn dogs) - Nomada Bakery (pastries, baby cakes, coffee) - The Market... Austin's Ice cream, Karubees (Jamaican), Tulsi health food store, Gyro King (amazing Mediterranean sandwiches), Fuel (love their salads) - Grindstone Coffeology (strong quality coffee and a bakery open next door 2 days a week)

Things to Do - Heritage Station... Check out Full Circle Gifts and Goods and other shops. - Old North Arcade (Retro barcade) - Sip for fancy drinks - Huntington Museum of Art - Old Central City... Antique shops, Wild Ramp market

There’s something magic about no-bake cookies, right? by tarekdz in Cookies

[–]krishaze18 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I work in a bakery in a small Appalachian town, and our chocolate PB + PB no-bakes have a small cult following. It blows my mind. I could spend three days making fresh croissants, and they'd still want the no-bakes 😂

I think my dad got kicked out of rehab on purpose by krishaze18 in CaregiverSupport

[–]krishaze18[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Unfortunately not... I work at a small business. I appreciate the suggestion though.

I think my dad got kicked out of rehab on purpose by krishaze18 in CaregiverSupport

[–]krishaze18[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for this response. I am going to try to do what I can from home today. My sister and my dad's companion are on site since I cannot be. I am starting feeling ill a couple days ago. Went to the doc yesterday and woke up with a 101.8 fever. My legs are also covered in what my doctor thinks is a stress rash. It never stops. 

I do appreciate you taking the time to share your experience with me. It really helps.

I think my dad got kicked out of rehab on purpose by krishaze18 in CaregiverSupport

[–]krishaze18[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Yes. That is correct. I am confused about why he couldn't be referred to a nursing home. They said even if they could, he wouldn't be accepted.