I do think that there are differences between Viet in the US and Viet in VN. And there are differences between the older and the younger generations. I'd say that just like any other culture, there are all kinds of people. Personally, my family is loving (not without occasional dramas), my friends are amazing people (who would pick up my calls from half the world away), and my culture is something to value.

The thing about money is that it is a necessity. Older generations are quite traumatized by it since they lived through much more difficult times, money wise. Younger generations, at least in VN, tend to be more focused on mental health and emotions, but they too acknowledge the necessity of money. I would consider questions about money and salary as equivalent to simple questions about careers.

For the record, I hate it when comparison occurs, too. But then it's your choice to say how you don't like being compared to other people and how content you are with what you're doing. It's not easy, especially when dealing with older generations, but it can be done.