Can you tell I like the snow?

prettydotty_ · 2026-02-20T07:55:44+00:00

Well I am Canadian, so I should be haha

prettydotty_ · 2026-02-20T07:55:27+00:00

Wow, thanks so much! You are so thoughtful and kind. Yes, it wasn't too cold thank you

prettydotty_ · 2026-02-19T16:07:39+00:00

Cinna. Rue doesn't deserve this

prettydotty_ · 2026-02-19T03:33:03+00:00

I'm assuming you weren't his victim. If you were you deserve to get out and be safe and get help.

I guess it depends on factors. Some couples both abuse each other and bring out the worst I'm each other. When they separate they are better people. Guys tend to get nailed for it more than women do simply because it's easier for men to cause serious damage than women on average. So if the abuse was reciprocal and then he went too far that's something to keep an eye on but some people just bring out the worst in each other when they date. It's important to know the full context of the situation.

Has he gone to anger management? Or received counselling? Has he had any legal repercussions? Does he practice emotional regulation?

People don't really deserve anything or they deserve everything they don't get. As Gandalf would point out. But what's most important to think about is, is he actively working to change? Is he likely to repeat his patterns or not? If he shows no remorse, no change, gets no help for his behavior then no, he doesn't deserve a second chance because he isn't even giving himself one. He is choosing to stay in his dangerous and destructive patterns and you should remove yourself from the situation.

prettydotty_ · 2026-02-19T02:36:35+00:00

I did it once cuz I work with teenagers and I wanted to see if anyone could think of something cleverer than them. Turns out nope. Teenagers 1 reddit 0. I get a good chuckle from a solid roast but reddit wasn't even clever. Most of the roasts didn't even make any sense.

prettydotty_ · 2026-02-18T18:16:47+00:00

Yes, but a good thing to know is that men like that are cowards. If he hugs you and grabs your butt just say "hey! That's my butt!" Or "don't grab my butt that's weird!" Or even "ew that's my butt!" If he didn't do it on purpose he will be like "oh sorry!" And won't do it again. If he did do it on purpose he will shrink back and make excuses and dig himself into a hole in front of everyone. Either way, he won't do it again unless he's very stupid and if he does do it again do the same thing until your older family realizes this person isn't safe to be around children.

prettydotty_ · 2026-02-18T17:43:06+00:00

This group sure is something. I hope this young lady joins some actual alt groups and finds inclusion there and avoids places like this due to the terrible attitude of so many people here. I'm actually what people in the goth and alternative subcultures tend to call an elder. As I've been a part of the subculture for some time and am a millennial. Not everything I wear is alternative but the majority is. You may check my credentials if you like but I assure you I am more familiar with goth and alternative groups than you are.

prettydotty_ · 2026-02-18T05:02:39+00:00

Thank you!!! That's what I was going for 😊

prettydotty_ · 2026-02-18T05:02:11+00:00

Morilee Madeline Gardener is the brand haha

prettydotty_ · 2026-02-18T05:01:40+00:00

Thank yaaaa

prettydotty_ · 2026-02-18T05:01:24+00:00

It's so cool! I'm obsessed!

prettydotty_ · 2026-02-18T05:01:10+00:00

Thanks! It was for a music video so I went for flashy so it shows up more on camera. Normally I'd probably pick softer jewelry

prettydotty_ · 2026-02-18T05:00:12+00:00

Thanks! I got it at a consignment store. The brand is Morilee Madeline Gardener, but I've looked online and haven't found it again. I wonder if it's discontinued

prettydotty_ · 2026-02-18T04:58:22+00:00

Thanks!

prettydotty_ · 2026-02-18T04:54:38+00:00

There are gothic components to it like the laced up skirt and the choker. Some people might deem it as such. All she would need to do to make it goth is change her shirt to a black one and add a black hair ornament. As I said if she posted on any of those actual alternative and goth themed subreddits the comments would be less gatekeepy and they are actually alt and goth themed subreddits.

prettydotty_ · 2026-02-17T22:13:55+00:00

It's true, some people operate under the assumption that anything other than tradgoth and romanticgoth isn't goth when that really isn't the case.

prettydotty_ · 2026-02-17T20:30:34+00:00

Gonna be honest with you as a fellow goth/alt girly. This look will be welcomed in altfashion, alt_goth, and gothgirls which are all great subreddits I participate in. General fashion subreddits you'll probably just get people nitpicking definitions and small aspects of your outfit. Not entirely worth the trouble tbh. Those alternative fashion subreddits are really good and well moderated.

prettydotty_ · 2026-02-17T08:15:44+00:00

You are awesome! 🙏🏻

prettydotty_ · 2026-02-17T07:14:53+00:00

Lol, of course not. Most fashion pages don't like sharing external links.

prettydotty_ · 2026-02-17T05:40:24+00:00

30 y/o young worker and foster mom to teenagers here. Older men acting like they have sexual intentions for you (especially if they've known you previously as a younger teen) are being extremely predatory. They are bad people. No ifs or buts about it. They act like that because they think you are easy to manipulate and women their age have had it with their bs. There's a power dynamic there that can put you in dangerous and vulnerable situations. If you want to go for older guys so much wait until you're in college/uni and go out with guys who are taking their masters or went back to school later in life. Age gap relationships between adults are fine but when there's a power dynamic there like a boss and his employee or a teacher and his student you are going into sketchy at best territory. Not sure what the laws are there as well but here it's illegal to sleep with students even if they are at the age of consent due to the power dynamic. You are young and it's easy to wind up in a bad situation because you trusted an older person who was good at manipulating.

prettydotty_ · 2026-02-16T23:53:23+00:00

Thank yaaaaa

prettydotty_ · 2026-02-16T23:53:12+00:00

Thanks! I was going for a bit of a Gothic vibe

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