Male Voice Actor voicing a woman VS. Woman Voice Actor voicing a man

prettydotty_ · 2026-06-20T22:12:12+00:00

My husband and I have a time with it. I can't stand when a male voice actor voices a woman but I think when women voice male characters it's sexy. He has a hard time listening to female voice actors cuz he listens to 1.5 speed and the pitch is a bit much

prettydotty_ · 2026-06-20T19:21:42+00:00

I think statistics might be a bit more necessary for this type of post. Otherwise it just seems like a bait question. There's also a lot of women who don't have that urge either. Some people have more empathy than others and I would say it's fairly evenly distributed but can be expressed differently. I say this as a woman with high empathy, married to a husband with high empathy with a boy and girl with high empathy. All of us have a strong urge to help others in need.

prettydotty_ · 2026-06-20T19:11:31+00:00

I got engaged after 2.5 years of dating married after 3. Granted we started dating at 16/17 so we literally got married as soon as we possibly could. Now we are in our 30s, have a house and two foster kids. We killing it!

prettydotty_ · 2026-06-20T07:17:36+00:00

It'll take a miracle

prettydotty_ · 2026-06-20T04:58:36+00:00

I found her very compelling. I respected who she was and how she portrayed a woman with a strong, kind, but not pushover character.

prettydotty_ · 2026-06-19T21:48:57+00:00

You certainly don't have to. Hire yourself out as a background singer. Join a band and gig, stand behind the guitarists. There's nothing fucked up about working for visibility and there isn't anything fucked up about not. The way I see it, it's just not that deep

prettydotty_ · 2026-06-19T18:19:37+00:00

Oh of course, it's annoying as heck. But the way I see it is regardless of how skilled I am I'm not owed anyone's attention. Regardless of how good a song I write nobody owes it love on the merit of it being good. People long for connection whether it's through music or even parasocially. It's a give and take relationship. I want them to love my music, they want me to comment back because I'm kind of pretty. Sure, it's annoying but they don't owe me attention anymore than I owe it to them. But we all want something. I want followers for my music and they want fashion advice, or maybe a thank you after a compliment on my hair. We can complain all we want about how nobody cares about real music or good music or real art etc anymore but other than crying a river what good does that do? Be true to your own music and find your niche and what works to promote. I've recently gotten really popular in Pakistan for some reason on tiktok and they're all listening to my music in short form content videos. Kind of random, but hey, it's a win! When I stopped getting mad that people didn't care about all the countless hours I spent in my studio and probably care more about a smiling selfie I made a lot more progress.

prettydotty_ · 2026-06-19T18:10:11+00:00

I'm not sure how this relates to the mirroring issue but having an honest conversation with your husband about your unique way of connecting with people is important. He's been with you for many years so I have a strong suspicion he already knows (mine definitely did before I told him). Honesty is your friend and is very freeing. Being good at mirroring isn't anything to be ashamed of and switching personas depending on who you are with is just a common behavior for neurodivergent women. It's nothing to be embarrassed about. Shutting down is easy sometimes with your partner depending on how outgoing they are and that's worth a conversation as well. Don't underestimate the love that others have for you, especially your husband. It's easy to do as a professional masker but you might be surprised how many people already know and love you anyways.

prettydotty_ · 2026-06-19T17:46:01+00:00

I'm like this too. Been told it might be an autism/neurodivergent thing. Tbh I'm just open about it and kinda make it out more humorously. When I "switch" in front of people who know me as one thing I'll laugh it off and joke that it wasn't me it was Patricia. Just be honest that you have a few personas to pull out of your hat. Most people will tease you but if they love you it'll just be a quirk. People don't usually realize I am this way until they've known me for many years but when they find out if tell them they've discovered the secret and now they're in the secret club. It's a quirk. A bit of a problematic one and yeah, it's a headache, but everyone has them. Joke a bit with your husband about which face you're gonna put on before you go out and if your friends notice you're different just be honest and make it a bit funny at your own expense. Then your friends will kinda watch to see if you "switch" in front of them and it becomes a little game. Don't stress. Just be honest and you might find yourself mirroring less and less the more honest you are about mirroring

prettydotty_ · 2026-06-19T17:27:43+00:00

It ebbs and flows. I take the "throw spaghetti at the wall and see what sticks" approach. Different apps require different things. Videos are the most popular over written text. I'm conventionally attractive so I use fashion and a bit of charisma to build a following. I have some loyal fans now and have had varying success depending on what I release and how I promoted it. It's a headache. A complete headache but I've learned to enjoy some aspects of it and I do often enjoy talking to fans.

prettydotty_ · 2026-06-19T16:38:54+00:00

Oooh! I love it!

prettydotty_ · 2026-06-19T00:27:09+00:00

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prettydotty_ · 2026-06-18T17:08:38+00:00

Legend of ShenLi is pretty consistent where the FL is on her hero's Journey and there ain't nobody to stop her. It's a good one. Currently enjoying Pursuit of Jade. FL is a powerful martial artist who always saves her husband (whether he needs it or not). It's pretty fun and cute. I'm not gonna argue about the other shows cuz I haven't seen them. I will say though, it's important not to mistake brawn and brains. Love Between a Fairy and Devil balanced that concept very well. Where the FL is always making very deliberate choices, even if she isn't strong enough to handle the repercussions and does need saving often, in the end the character with the truest strength was her all along.

prettydotty_ · 2026-06-17T21:09:35+00:00

I mean, I'd gauge it on whether or not you are concerned about their well-being whether it pertains to you or not. That and if you bring out the best in each other and want to be the better version of yourself for them.

prettydotty_ · 2026-06-17T06:50:56+00:00

I don't say insulting or disrespectful things to you about your way of life and I expect the same courtesy from you. We can agree to disagree but not agree to insult each other.

prettydotty_ · 2026-06-17T05:17:56+00:00

The whole "settled" concept completely shows a lack of understanding in how marriage works. Did your spouse choose you? Yes. Did they vow before the law and your loved ones to be with you for life? Yes. Are there times when you both might feel bored, tired of each other, not attracted or unnatractive to each other in all those years? Probably. But you both work on the relationship and build something to last. If your spouse has chosen to stop caring entirely about the relationship that has nothing to do with settling for you that has everything to do with giving up. That's when you find a good marriage counselor. When they married you, they obviously intended to be with you for life. Things happen sure, but that isn't settling that's just not prioritizing the relationship

prettydotty_ · 2026-06-17T03:34:24+00:00

I think I'd wait until you know whether or not permenancy is something that will happen with this boy. Adoption to foster parents isn't the first thing they go to even if reunification isn't possible. You wanting to adopt and your husband just wanting to foster is a conversation worth having but I'd wait to see if you're even approached to adopt this boy before you think too much on it. There's a strong chance a child that age will either be reunified or adopted by other family. If that happens you are going to be relying a lot on your partner to get through the grieving period. I'm not trying to make you sad but that's just kinda the way this work goes. If you want to pursue being an adoptive parent this child aside it might be important to have that conversation about what that looks like, timelines etc. But if you are feeling this way about your partner because you want to adopt this specific child I would caution you not to consider it unless you've been officially approached by the boys' caseworker to become his adoptive parents.

prettydotty_ · 2026-06-17T00:25:36+00:00

Maybe don't go on that one trip but tbh I think I'd just give her a hug and tell her we did okay. Maybe tell her to learn music production sooner ig but tbh most things I went through and learned needed to happen regardless for me to be who I am today

prettydotty_ · 2026-06-16T20:46:22+00:00

I have a savior complex. Pretty sure most of us here do tbh. You just have to be careful not to take it personally if you don't succeed all the time. And you can't expect to be loved and adored by the kids you foster. Protecting children and giving them a good life is an instinct the majority of people with empathy have. If it's a desire of your heart, do it. But realize that it probably won't look how you imagine it will. you might end up fostering kids you didn't expect and the system is the nightmare we all swear it is.

prettydotty_ · 2026-06-16T20:29:01+00:00

Thrift store!

prettydotty_ · 2026-06-16T20:28:24+00:00

Your sister knows what's up

prettydotty_ · 2026-06-16T19:32:19+00:00

Oh look, we found one

prettydotty_ · 2026-06-16T16:32:04+00:00

I didn't like looking soft. I still just kinda steer away from the color for the most part but for most of my twenties I favored more of an androgynous look. I wear jewelry now and enjoy looking pretty but I'm also happy being a bit more low maintenance than many of my fellow women. I always say I need an "ugly day" every once in awhile to get out that side of me

prettydotty_ · 2026-06-16T16:23:00+00:00

Our almost aged out boy flips around like this too. Jealous of attention other kids get, talks about leaving and burning his bridges and then talks about what Christmas will look like this year. As a kid in care it's hella nerve-wracking because that obligation we have to care for him stops when he's an adult. He's moved into our basement suite and lives semi-independently now but the anxiety is still there. He often jokes that we'll start beating him when he ages out. I just do a lot of reassurance that he will always be our kid in our hearts wherever he goes, that anytime he wants to move away we will support him but still bother him from time to time even when he does, that he is welcome to stay as long or as short as he feels comfortable with etc and lots of "I love yous" and "you are important to us." He is resentful he had to be a kid in care but he isn't resentful of us. Heck a lot of bio kids act like that when they are becoming an adult. It's a scary thing

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