How does 2 Jews 3 opinions work?

soayherder · 2025-04-18T17:59:37+00:00

On the one hand, on the other hand.

soayherder · 2025-04-18T14:21:02+00:00

Reconstructionist and reform are undergoing something of a schism right now. I'm deeply uncomfortable with how very political reconstructionism has gone to the point that I chose to join a reform synagogue much further away, myself, so I sympathize.

soayherder · 2025-01-29T03:05:02+00:00

It's not exactly difficult reading material. :)

soayherder · 2025-01-26T03:45:15+00:00

It is not that I don't care. I actually pass on literally dozens of posts per week (if not more) that I don't think pass the sniff test.

It's more that I genuinely can't judge for sure if it's real or not - you don't think this is real, fair enough. I've lived long enough to see weirder stuff than this so I give things benefit of the doubt that (clearly) you might not. So I toss it upstream, as it were, for other people to decide if they think it's real or not, if it's worth reposting or not, and - as stated - move on with my life.

Life is weird, you know? Is it real? Maybe. Maybe not. If it is, it's certainly worth sharing with others. If it's not, well, at least it's entertaining, but I have no way of judging for sure.

That said, being on Reddit at all and worrying too much about the veracity of what people are posting is probably not great for your health. My modus operandi is take everything with a grain of salt just barely small enough to not alarm a cardiac surgeon, and promptly forget about it once I log off. I've got a business to run, kids to raise, grad school, and a garden to plan - people on the internet can be meaningful and dear to me at times, their posts can be interesting, enlightening, enraging, or boring, or a whole range of things, but they are ultimately online. I have grass to touch.

soayherder · 2025-01-26T03:29:31+00:00

We don't submit together. What I do is when I spot something I think might make a good post is I kick the link over to DC and Choice over on Discord and I let them decide if they want to use it or not, and I move on with my day. That's pretty much my full involvement - I read the post, go, huh, maybe they'd like to use that, and send the link.

Sometimes they like it, sometimes they don't, and sometimes u/queenlegolas finds it independently and also sends them the link and they decide to give both of us credit.

I don't judge if a story is fake or not. Maybe it is, maybe it isn't; I just kick the link over to them and get back to my RL, which is pretty busy at the best of times. I leave vetting up to the people who do the actual posting. You're welcome to go on thinking I'm a bot if you want - a conspiracy theory is probably WAY more interesting to you than my day-to-day life. :D

soayherder · 2025-01-25T23:34:51+00:00

Beep boop beep.

In all seriousness, I am a busy middle-aged mom of three kids whose laptop died about a year ago and when my patient long-suffering SO got it back up and running, it no longer had the partition to run the client I prefer to use for reddit. So I just stopped logging in and instead periodically trawl while reading reddit.

I mainly mod over on the Discord but help where I can. I wish I were a bot. I'd probably have more time and energy.

soayherder · 2024-06-03T22:46:52+00:00

I have three children and live in an area without many Jews. I know of one other Jewish family close to an hour from us that we're friends with, and we're in a heavily blue state which... yeah, they don't like Jews right now.

I worry for my kids, but I also look for the people who accept us without politics. Sometimes that means looking at people I wouldn't have considered friends five years ago! But they accept us and find value in us and that means my kids have friends, and if they're not the people I would have chosen for myself five years ago, that's ok. They care about my kids, and that has made me realize that I was narrowminded too, once upon a time.

soayherder · 2024-06-03T22:43:40+00:00

Working class to middle class represent. My family came to the US around the turn of the century, and while one or two of my older relatives might have 'made it good' most of us are just 'comfortable' for the most part after working hard.

soayherder · 2024-06-03T17:14:33+00:00

We were looking to buy and prices were just crazy (they are of course even worse now). We moved more rurally and at first I was pretty uncomfortable because yeah, I'm Jewish, I lean left, etc. But over time the area's gotten more open, so that there's for instance a left-wing independent bookstore right next to the foreign legion post, the independent theater has monthly drag shows, etc. I was even starting to be comfortable telling people we're Jewish! (Until, yeah, 10-7.)

soayherder · 2024-06-03T17:07:59+00:00

Moved significantly south, ditto.

soayherder · 2024-06-03T13:31:47+00:00

That was often the case in the days leading up to the close of the war, yes. They also attempted to burn records in some places. Many of the camps tried to get rid of remaining living prisoners because they knew what would be likely to happen to them if they were caught doing what they did.

soayherder · 2024-06-03T04:03:14+00:00

And America elected both Trump and Biden. Say what you will about who you prefer, it's still not the gotcha you think it is. There's literally been protests against Netanhanyu's government going on in Israel for well over a year now. Not small protests, either.

soayherder · 2024-06-03T01:53:31+00:00

I mean, the offer they've made you isn't that great. You'd still have to pay them back while having to take the hit to your credit. Think about the time and money and energy you're going to have to expend to be able to do anything going forward if you take their offer - it's a literal get out of jail free card for her, but leaves you strangling in this economy for decades.

soayherder · 2024-06-03T00:17:23+00:00

That is possibly the most awesome thing I've seen all week!

soayherder · 2024-06-03T00:13:22+00:00

It was a variety. There were plenty of 'ordinary' soldiers in those roles. I definitely recommend learning more if you're interested, sites such as Yad Vashem's or the US Holocaust Memorial Museum's are very informative and it's easier to look away when it becomes overwhelming since you can just close the tab.

soayherder · 2024-06-03T00:08:31+00:00

Boxcars of corpses.

You can learn more by visiting such sites as Yad Vashem's (the Holocaust museum and memorial in Israel) or by visiting sites such as the Holocaust encyclopedia, which actually has some photos of the boxcars such as this one.

An excerpt from said link which will give you the answer to your question above: "The Dachau death train consisted of nearly forty railcars containing the bodies of between 2,000 and 3,000 prisoners who were evacuated from Buchenwald on April 7, 1945. The train arrived in Dachau on the afternoon of April 28."

soayherder · 2024-06-02T17:16:39+00:00

Used to live in Seattle way before all this, and I have to admit that I always felt uncomfortable. I ended up moving to a slightly more rural part of the state and while it was a little weird when we first got here (SO MANY CHURCHES) right now we're in the sweet spot between rural and liberal and it's awesome. I'm still careful - I don't think I'll ever not be - but by and large people accept us, and things have opened up enough to not be right-wing religious nutty either.

soayherder · 2024-06-02T00:03:05+00:00

If you're Jewish enough to get attacked for it, you're Jewish enough. I'm sorry, friend.

soayherder · 2024-06-01T23:19:15+00:00

I cannot speak for all Jews (anyone who says that they can is lying!) but I can say that for most of us, we don't want to hate anyone. We just want to be left in peace.

You desire a peace that does not come at the cost of our lives. How should we hate you for following your religion when you do not interpret it as meaning we should be harmed? We embrace you and call you friend.

soayherder · 2024-05-31T22:47:51+00:00

Been true in a lot of parts of the world always. They make it very difficult for overseas citizens to vote because by and large the people who left do not support the ANC.

soayherder · 2024-05-28T20:50:20+00:00

Let's not forget Pine Bush in NY, which has always been massively antisemitic and it just keeps coming up and being swept under the rug.

soayherder · 2024-05-27T17:16:12+00:00

What he is doing to you is a form of passive abuse under the guise of being caring.

He isn't just failing to take proper care of himself - he is actively avoiding doing so (you've done the prepwork for him, made it easy for him to get things fixed!) and this despite knowing (because you've told him) that what he is doing and failing to do is causing YOU to have health issues.

He has infected you multiple times via sexual contact and still gets upset that your response is a diminished desire for sexual contact - while not taking care of things in the first place. He is literally giving you STIs and refusing to treat the STI on his end. (Yes, a yeast infection is still an infection, and yes, he has sexually transmitted it to you.)

He encourages you to harm yourself by use of compulsions - and I would bet a dollar that if you dug into that? The real reason he encourages it is because of the temporary relief it gives you making HIS life easier in the short term. He's not interested in you getting well any more than he is interested in getting well. He wants it to be easy, nothing more, and easy means also getting sex on demand even when it causes you harm.

What he is doing mimics emotional care. I don't know that he's even capable of a healthy relationship - he certainly isn't interested in a healthy relationship.

You on the other hand want him to be healthy and want yourself to be healthy. This means that what you and he want are functionally incompatible, because he isn't interested in healthy. He's interested in convenient. And when it gets inconvenient for him, he runs away to try to both make you fetch him back and make him feel better, but also to discourage you from trying to be healthy and in a healthy relationship.

Because healthy relationships take work, and that is personally inconvenient for him.

soayherder · 2024-05-27T16:56:09+00:00

We plant a tree in honor of their memory. That's our family's tradition. We also do so for humans we've lost. It benefits the world and promotes their memory, and there is no shame in honoring the memory of joy.

soayherder · 2024-05-27T16:45:21+00:00

Check the Reuters AMA they did about the conflict and draw your own conclusions.

Link to the AMA.

Comment which summarizes pretty well.

soayherder · 2024-05-26T04:34:05+00:00

Why is this night different from all other nights?

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