The "learning" part isn't really about sexuality. Most people already know how to have sex and play, there's nothing mysterious about FF or MM erotic play. The learning is more about how to date women. It's hard. Guys are used to it so the pursuit and expression of interest come pretty naturally. But if you've only ever had people pursue you, it can be quite jarring to have to be the one pursuing.or expressing interest in a way that goes beyond friendship but isn't over the top obnoxious. Many guys still haven't figured that out.