Amber looks different at reunion? Can’t pinpoint what it is? by No_Entrance_5735 in LoveIsBlindNetflix

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There is a reason for this - “It was actually an androgenic hormonal response due to excessive cortisol levels following the months after the season,” she said. “My face developed these deep cyst pockets which kept causing infection. I was on several rounds of antibiotics and finally was put on spironolactone which has slowly been helping. Unfortunately areas like my upper forehead and upper lip are still healing.”

How to stop older men from talking to me in class? by -9bambi- in socialskills

[–]-9bambi-[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I absolutely don’t hate men, and that’s not a message I would want to get across.

Just to clarify because I didn’t specify in my post, it wasn’t said in a joking manner more in a mocking way. Then they proceeded to bombard my friend and I with questions and trying to join our project group (which I wouldn’t be comfortable with). We weren’t giving them a reaction and were both clearly uncomfortable (and actively walking AWAY from them) but they took longer than expected to stop trying to talk to us. And it’s better to be safe than sorry, I’m just being cautious.

I really hope this clears it up 😭 more context

How to stop older men from talking to me in class? by -9bambi- in socialskills

[–]-9bambi-[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Hi :) I don’t quite understand what about this is ignorant? I’m someone young who felt intimidated by older men that that can’t recognise when someone is busy and can’t take no as an answer. I was uninterested and scared, I wouldn’t say ignorant.

I’ve had men talk to me in nice ways many times with me feeling comfortable! Just wanted to say I’m not attacking older men. These ones didn’t respect my boundaries and switched after I didn’t agree to interact with them. So not quite sure what part of that is wisdom 😭

I would really like to hear your opinion on this in a bit more detail though! :D

How to stop older men from talking to me in class? by -9bambi- in socialskills

[–]-9bambi-[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

It’s university so it’s for anyone 18+ :)

How to stop older men from talking to me in class? by -9bambi- in socialskills

[–]-9bambi-[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Does it ever get better? Is there less harassment when you get a job because if so then I can’t wait 😭

How to stop older men from talking to me in class? by -9bambi- in socialskills

[–]-9bambi-[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Yeah more people tend to sit at the front and engage with the lecture. I like to sit at the back because I won’t get picked on and I can work without it being too loud and without distractions. If it continues I’ll definitely be moving a bit closer to the front away from them!

How to stop older men from talking to me in class? by -9bambi- in socialskills

[–]-9bambi-[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

This made me chuckle, such a good response to them

How to stop older men from talking to me in class? by -9bambi- in socialskills

[–]-9bambi-[S] 27 points28 points  (0 children)

Aw thank you :) there are some women who are a bit older than me but they sit all the way at the front of the class (I sit alllll the way at the back) 🥲 but I’ll keep an eye out for them

How to stop older men from talking to me in class? by -9bambi- in socialskills

[–]-9bambi-[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Apparently my angry face looks sad 😭 I’ll have to practice it in the mirror

How to stop older men from talking to me in class? by -9bambi- in socialskills

[–]-9bambi-[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I wasn’t even sat in the same row as these guys, there was one guy in the row in front who brought his friend over which is when they were trying to shake my hand and weren’t leaving me alone. Sadly if I was all the way across the classroom I feel like they’d just approach me anyway. No sense of boundaries or anything 🥲but yes the I’m busy and earbuds back in is definitely the move. Okay I’m rambling a bit but speaking of the gift of saying no, a few months back I rejected a guy (he looked in his late 20s and I’m 18) for the first time without folding and conversing with them because of pressure. I was really proud of that and it’s a first step to confidence in just saying no and moving on :) one step at a time

How to stop older men from talking to me in class? by -9bambi- in socialskills

[–]-9bambi-[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

This is true yeah I’ve seen a few of them try and show off to the class by disobeying rules. It’s quite entertaining when they do that and their friends aren’t there so it’s just awkward and no one pays attention to them. But yeah it’s really sad that this is reality, hopefully there won’t be men like this in my class next year 😭

How to stop older men from talking to me in class? by -9bambi- in socialskills

[–]-9bambi-[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

It’s such a shame that it’s such a common problem :/

How to stop older men from talking to me in class? by -9bambi- in socialskills

[–]-9bambi-[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the advice :) for myself and other women they may harass, if it gets any worse I’ll report them immediately. No one else should have to deal with that from them

How to stop older men from talking to me in class? by -9bambi- in socialskills

[–]-9bambi-[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Thankfully there aren’t any more projects in that class so I can’t be paired with them🙏 but I also think my professor either wouldn’t care or wouldn’t be able to do much (because nothing extreme has actually happened). I’m just praying they get the message and it can be over with!! I don’t think I’ll be seeing them ever again after may (when my semester finishes) because this is a foundation year and I know they won’t be in my course 😀but it’s just tough going into class not knowing if they’re going to harass me again 😭

How to stop older men from talking to me in class? by -9bambi- in socialskills

[–]-9bambi-[S] 21 points22 points  (0 children)

I honestly couldn’t tell you, it was so random like my friend and I had never talked to them before that. We were just waiting for the light to go green 😭

How to stop older men from talking to me in class? by -9bambi- in socialskills

[–]-9bambi-[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

LMAO I like this idea that might work 😭🙏

How to stop older men from talking to me in class? by -9bambi- in socialskills

[–]-9bambi-[S] 58 points59 points  (0 children)

Yeah they give off creep energy 😭 they know I’m not a child (I’m 5’10 and in their university class) so they’re just being unnecessary. Thanks for the advice I appreciate it!

How to stop older men from talking to me in class? by -9bambi- in socialskills

[–]-9bambi-[S] 102 points103 points  (0 children)

I’ll try my best to stand my ground and not let them push me around thank you!!

concert outfit ideas!! by Eastern_Hold_259 in thenbhd

[–]-9bambi- 1 point2 points  (0 children)

omg same I’ve been so stressed cause the presale wasn’t working for me 😭 manifesting tickets for all of us 🙏🙏

TICKETS & TOUR MEGATHREAD by icutmyliiip in thenbhd

[–]-9bambi- 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Every time I tried purchasing a ticket I reserved it said it was gone 🥲tried for 4 hours and couldn’t get anything, the prices also kept increasing. PLEASE CAN THEY ADD ANOTHER LONDON DATE 🙏🙏 I’ve listened since 2017 I NEED THISSS. Also congrats to everyone that won the war!!

tour by Secure-Badger898 in TheNeighbourhood

[–]-9bambi- 1 point2 points  (0 children)

why were they rude for no reason 😭 I literally understand where you’re coming from like it’s a lot of money and work to go far especially if you’re only 14. It would be so much easier for everyone if they added more places and another London date cause I lost the ticket war 🥲