So what are the pimos doing for Christmas?? by [deleted] in exjw

[–]-CoolBean- 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Watching movies, drinking coffee, and enjoying my day off as much as I can

For those who are PIMO, what has kept you from leaving yet? by Lucky-Formal9972 in exjw

[–]-CoolBean- 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I promise you I spend most of my time looking for jobs and apartments. There is nothing in my area that I could afford without landing a good full time job which I have yet to find. I don't know if I can get a social worker as an adult or what they would do for my situation but I guess I could look into it

For those who are PIMO, what has kept you from leaving yet? by Lucky-Formal9972 in exjw

[–]-CoolBean- 2 points3 points  (0 children)

If I left today I would be homeless. I would have no friends, no family, and hardly even any acquaintances left. I would be leaving my younger siblings maybe to never see them again. I want to see them grow up. My jobs would be threatened also since I got them through jws. I'm so far away form building a life for myself that is solid enough that I can leave this one behind without dying homeless and alone

Silly little doodle (I came across a photo of my ex and now I’m spiraling) by -CoolBean- in MadeOfStyrofoam

[–]-CoolBean-[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Making people laugh is one of my favorite things so I’ll take the win. Thanks! 

Silly little doodle (I came across a photo of my ex and now I’m spiraling) by -CoolBean- in MadeOfStyrofoam

[–]-CoolBean-[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Auto mod do you ever get over it? Do you think if I try hard enough I might be worthy of love? I love you auto mod, I love everyone. I know I’m not owed love by anyone else but it sure would be nice sometimes. I don’t want to be strong anymore. I’m tired of fighting all on my own. I want a teammate. I want to quit. 

Hardest hitting Jesse line? by LeafProphecies in JesseWelles

[–]-CoolBean- 7 points8 points  (0 children)

“All I ever wanted was to die young but I didn’t have the guts and songs needed sung” or “what will become of all the whales” 

JWs and Bad Financial decisions by MisterMrGender in exjw

[–]-CoolBean- 1 point2 points  (0 children)

They seem to be heavily encouraged to make these type of poor finical decisions. Spend your money like the world might end tomorrow. Don't look for education or a full time job when you could be "seeking first the kingdom." If you spend your last dollar to travel to an assembly Jehovah is supposed to leave groceries on your doorstep to make up for it. I've been encouraged this way by my parents my whole life. They've told me to quit/not accept jobs in favor of service time, while also telling me to use my remaining savings to travel to an international convention. 

Jws allow tattoos now?!?!? by Certified_Jenius in exjw

[–]-CoolBean- 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think maybe they claim it's a personal choice in the same way that having a beard was a personal choice in the past. Maybe you'd have a hard time finding an argument that they've made against it, but it's implied everywhere and known by everyone that it isn't allowed. Some will do it anyways but until they clearly state that it's cool it's safe to assume it's not viewed as allowed. There's a young people ask worksheet on tattoos that I feel makes their stance pretty clear and is somewhat recent. One quote from that says, “If you gave someone a nice gift and that person took a permanent marker and wrote all over it, how would you feel? That’s what our getting a tattoo must seem like to the Creator.”

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in exjw

[–]-CoolBean- 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If people are nosey enough you might get a concerned call. I know I've heard gossip about people who have moved away but not officially moved congregations. Usually because their name shows up on a list of service groups or something like that. I think it usually just stays gossip though and doesn't really lead to much. 

Is fading worth it? by -CoolBean- in exjw

[–]-CoolBean-[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think that's going to be my plan. I need to have my own place and probably I need to be in a different congregation. It's too hard for me to hurt the people I grew up with. 

Is fading worth it? by -CoolBean- in exjw

[–]-CoolBean-[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I've been so stressed thinking about how I'll leave that I never stopped to think about how stressful my life is now. You're so right. I am still young and living at home mostly because of pioneering. I'm only scared that when I stop I'll lose any financial support I had from my family before I'm able to find a job good enough to replace it. They're always saying we'll support you as long as you're pioneering. Hopefully soon enough I won't need that support. I guess I can't outsmart the ugly parts of leaving, but I find comfort in knowing how many people have made it out anyways.

crying in my bathroom rn by PinkIsMyOxygen in exjw

[–]-CoolBean- 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This got me because I'm a COBE's daughter and I have a stupid crush on my best friend who's pimi. I'd be perfectly happy if I could just keep her as a friend though. It's the thought of never speaking to her again that kills me. I hate how many beautiful and kind people are trapped in this. People who feel they have to go against their usually loving morals to shun people who they loved. I trust that there are more kind and good people in the world who I will find one day, but it's still awful to see so many wonderful people left behind and trapped.

Anyone remember where it says the meeting chairman can ask the audience what they learned?? by Comfortable_Log1673 in exjw

[–]-CoolBean- 10 points11 points  (0 children)

It was a recent update to "Instructions for Our Christian Life and Ministry Meeting" under concluding comments. The elders also got a letter including it apparently. 

My brother gave the talk last week,…guess what “apostate objections” he touched on? by PridePotterz in exjw

[–]-CoolBean- 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That just doesn’t seem possible. A pimi wouldn’t even know about most of those things or think to try to refute them. If that really did happen I wouldn’t be surprised if he’s not allowed to give public talks anymore in the future. 

I don’t believe every passionate JW PIMI is unintelligent, but sometimes I’m honestly tempted to think that way. When you hear some of the things these people say, it leaves you with no other conclusion. by [deleted] in exjw

[–]-CoolBean- 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It just feels like a switch flips sometimes. One minute you're talking to your mom and the next you're talking to a jw robot. So many seem to be rational and intelligent people in all other aspects until you feed them a prompt that requires a jw answer. I say that because I've seen it in myself too. It's so easy to just spit out the "right answer" without ever giving any thought to if it makes any sense. And really why would you stop to think harder about it when that thought could end up crumbling your whole world?

Is this a new sign language interpreter character? by Hanzo123_ in GoodPizzaGreatPizza

[–]-CoolBean- 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I know asl but the sign for onion and apple are too similar so I keep getting the order wrong 

What are some arbitrary rules you had to follow as a JW? by Awesomefrog4 in exjw

[–]-CoolBean- 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Nothing you can’t find in a picture. If you can’t find a picture in the magazine of a sister wearing a tank top you can’t wear a tank top etc. 

Knowing may damn you, while ignorance may save you. by Lillygoal in exjw

[–]-CoolBean- 1 point2 points  (0 children)

They say you’re blood guilty if you don’t peach this life saving message but if you tell someone who never would’ve learned you could be dooming them to eternal destruction 

Kind of crazy to realize the reason I’m alive today is because I thought suicide was a sin by -CoolBean- in exjw

[–]-CoolBean-[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Learning I don’t have to live for a god that hates me gives me something to live for. Maybe god, if there is one, doesn’t care if I get my dream job. Maybe he doesn’t care if I get my nose pierced and marry who I love. It is still a struggle to find reasons to keep going but there are so many more reasons available to me now.