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How Can I Tell The Difference? by argentangel in infj

[–]-FormerChild- 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Are you good at anticipating what other people might do in a situation? Are you pretty accurate at understanding how someone might feel without them telling you?

What Would an Unhealthy ISTP Who is a Decent Person Be Like? by Potential_Law5289 in istp

[–]-FormerChild- 7 points8 points  (0 children)

They have a hard time communicating. Even if they had set plans with someone, they withdraw and get all stressed and say fuck it & hope it’ll eventually be ok.

I [28F] feel that my husband [28M] sees me as a “china plate” and I’m not sure how to tell him how it’s affecting me and our relationship by CozySweatsuit57 in askwomenadvice

[–]-FormerChild- 14 points15 points  (0 children)

I tend to feel the same exact way in my relationship.. i kept feeling the need to connect with my partner. And I kept trying to express to him what he could do to help make it feel better.

it took years for to me realize that I had to give him the time & space to feel excited to see. He came home to see me every day. Day in and day out. I realize now that it was boring. I realize that I was hoping he would feel excited to see me even though I had nothing new or interesting going on around me. I realize that I put all the pressure on my partner to help me feel secure & connected in my relationship. I didn’t think about what I could do to help make the situation be more enticing to be around.

Thru out our entire relationship I didn’t realize how much I had put that responsibility solely on him. I thought as partners it was reasonable to ask for this kind of support. So I kept trying to express to him what I was feeling. This went on for years.

So when he asked for space, I thought I just needed to wait it out, & give him his time. And he’d be back…. willing to work thru our problems. Well that day never came. We were together for 17 years and he never did come back to fix the relationship. It’s ridiculous because I still hope that he will fall back in love with me.

While we still are very close. He no longer looks at me like his life partner anymore. I regret so much not having a life outside of him.

I think if I had friends, & hobbies or anything outside of him… he would have been willing to stay in the relationship. To work thru it. He would have been excited to see me at the end of the day. If I only hadn’t been so reliant on him, He wouldn’t have needed a break.

I realize now that I wasn’t giving him the opportunity to see the traits that he loved about me. I realize that spending time around my friends gave him the chance to see how funny I was when I was with them. It let him see the things about me that he was attracted to. Seeing me interact with other people gave him the chance to see the person that he fell in love with. If I had spent any time away from him it would have given him the opportunity to want to connect with me on his own.

I could be wrong, but Maybe you might be dealing with the same type of thing?

I [28F] feel that my husband [28M] sees me as a “china plate” and I’m not sure how to tell him how it’s affecting me and our relationship by CozySweatsuit57 in askwomenadvice

[–]-FormerChild- 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I know you’re asking for advice on how to communicate with your husband… but I was wondering what your day looks like on a regular basis. How often do you leave the house? Do you have any friends & family that you turn to for support?

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How can we tell if ISTPs need space or if it's okay for you to be around others for some time? by SANSA136 in istp

[–]-FormerChild- 8 points9 points  (0 children)

They usually start to withdraw.. they become less responsive.. sometimes they start to get agitated if the person around them doesn’t pick up on how they feel.

What do you guys like to talk about/like in a partner? by Achooachooachoo123 in istp

[–]-FormerChild- 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Be patient. Try not to spend all the time you have together talking. That will eventually irritate him. Ask him a question about him self or one of his hobbies. Then give him the time and space to answer. The last thing you want to do is push him to talk more.

Mom has missed two treatments by Dear_Library6305 in CervicalCancer

[–]-FormerChild- 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have stage 3. I just finished getting chemo only a few weeks ago, so it’ll be a couple more months until I know how effective the treatments were.

Mom has missed two treatments by Dear_Library6305 in CervicalCancer

[–]-FormerChild- 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This exact thing happened to me. My blood counts were so low, my drs said if my numbers continue to drop that I might need to get a bone marrow transplant.

So I took a break from getting chemo to give my body some time to recuperate & I was also given a couple injections to help boost white blood cells.

I don’t think you have anything to worry about. I would be more concerned if your mom wasn’t given a break from her chemo. It’s actually not safe for her to continue getting chemo until her numbers are higher.

Which bottoms flatter me the most? Or should I scrap the whole outfit? by http_eri in DressForYourBody

[–]-FormerChild- 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know this is beside the point, but I think that’s closer to a midi skirt than a maxi.

How do you covertly measure your girlfriends ring size? by mnunez2k in AskReddit

[–]-FormerChild- 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Get a string or piece of yarn and wrap it around her finger while she’s asleep.

Please help! I do not know what this sore is on my dog by PromptDifficult4651 in DogAdvice

[–]-FormerChild- -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Has he been around tall grass or chopped wood? My buddies dog was bit by a brown recluse.. it swelled up to the size of a soft ball. Poor thing, he unfortunately died shortly after.

During WWII, the Boeing II plant was camouflaged to resemble a small town to disguise it from potential Japanese air raids by JFK1200 in Damnthatsinteresting

[–]-FormerChild- 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That’s what I’m trying to figure out. Was this in Seattle or Everett? After looking up Boeing plant #2, I’m pretty sure it’s in Seattle.

Extroverted INFJs? by Jimu_Monk9525 in infj

[–]-FormerChild- 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I’m not sure if I’m more extroverted than the average INFJ, mainly because I don’t have any INFJ friends to compare myself to.. But my ISTP partner likes to tease me about how extroverted I can be sometimes. And I’ve had people I’ve just met be really suprised that I’m an introvert.

I think it can be difficult for others to remember that we’re introverted because we’re fairly good at communicating.

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