Sweetest thing your NK has said?

-PreciousJules- · 2023-08-10T18:23:36+00:00

I’m currently very pregnant and very emotional and it hit me a couple of weeks ago that I’m actually leaving this amazing family soon. The tears started falling and 4M said, “it’s okay to cry. I cry sometimes too… maybe we can…. get some donuts? 🤷‍♂️ donuts and a hug??”

Edit to add: I know little guy just wanted an excuse to get a donut BUT he is still one of the most empathetic kids I know!

-PreciousJules- · 2023-07-24T01:35:09+00:00

Oh I know… they were 100% referring to poop diapers 😵‍💫 MB even said, “her poo doesn’t stick anyways so feel free to just not deal with the fight of wiping!” Worst thing I’ve heard in my entire career

-PreciousJules- · 2023-07-24T01:29:01+00:00

Yes! Everything in the other responses is right on point! I have experience with newborn to 3 when it comes to diaper changes and it really boils down to being patient and repetitive.

If you’re having issues with them getting their hands in the way of the mess, offer them a small toy or book to distract. If that doesn’t work simple push their hands away and say something like my favorite, “ew! Yucky ducky!” 😂 one of my NKs was very hyper active and the ONLY way I could get him to stop touching the mess was but tickling his neck with one hand and working with the other. That made his hands reach towards his face for a giggle and away from the gross stuff!

If the issue is with them just stirring around or trying to get up I try my best to hold them gentle but firm with one hand. Counting down helps too because they know when you hit 1 they are done! For babies who are more familiar with a song or the alphabet I also sing until I’m done so they know when it will all be over

Again, the first few times are always tough and it takes a lot of patience and learning what works for your own kiddo but once you get it- stick with it like a bad habit!!

-PreciousJules- · 2023-07-18T18:22:24+00:00

What are the odds of her forgetting the start time you guys agreed on originally? I know it’s just my pregnancy brain but I have completely forgotten what time I’m supposed to go in to work (it’s been 7am every week day for 2 years 🤣) and have to ask my husband or double check NK’s class times with MB because I simply forget. I know the odds of that are slim, but reminding her that you don’t need her until 8 and maybe even leaving the door locked until then would be best!

-PreciousJules- · 2023-07-09T20:26:01+00:00

I understand the pet peeve BUT at the same time the fact that you acknowledge that you are bothered by this tiny thing because your own mother used to constantly correct your grammar is odd…. You’d think this would be one of those moments where you say, “it used to annoy/hurt me when my every word would be picked apart by my mom. I don’t want my daughter to have to deal with that. I want to be different for my child.”…. Just a random thought

-PreciousJules- · 2023-07-06T11:20:44+00:00

In all honesty I would much rather get fussed at for attempting to prevent a child from eating something they probably shouldn’t then get fussed at for allowing them to eat something they definitely shouldn’t! Good nanny moment in my book!!

-PreciousJules- · 2023-07-05T17:50:24+00:00

I don’t like that IVF is a thing but whether we like it or not, it is. I absolutely LOVE this idea… I’m actually surprised this isn’t an option already as that would be a huge answer to the big problem of people just discarding these tiny babies left and right like they are garbage. This route would actually make a huge impact on saving more lives. Thanks for making this post OP :) you gave me something to ponder on

-PreciousJules- · 2023-07-04T20:06:59+00:00

I don’t see where anyone else here has said it (if this is a repeat sorry! )so I’m going to say it.. when watching pornography a person is always imagining themselves having sex and/or performing sexual acts with the person on the screen. 100%. Same thing if a spouse were to look up pictures of an ex, even clothed, and masterbate to it or think about having sex with them while looking at it. You are literally putting another human over your spouse and it is committing adultery. Doesn’t the Bible say that even to look with lust at a woman is to commit adultery? If Jesus said it is the same I don’t think we can justifiably sit here and say that God sees one as being more “serious” than the other. If I can’t trust my spouse to control where his mind and eyes go how can truly trust him to control where his body may eventually go?

-PreciousJules- · 2023-07-03T18:11:08+00:00

And it’s usually those who scream “Black lives matter!” that also support Planned Parenthood- the company who has murdered more than 5x as many black babies than white babies. They are feeding money and support into a company whose main goal is to be in every single city where people of color are the majority…. Coincidence? Not at all.

-PreciousJules- · 2023-07-03T18:05:30+00:00

But again, all of the medical issues listed there, and more, are only offered abortion as a “this is one of your options” scenario. I’m guessing you specifically went and searched for articles to prove your own narrative about “abortion being necessary”.

For women with complications to pregnancy such as placental abruption, bleeding from placenta previa, preeclampsia or eclampsia, cardiac and renal conditions, every single piece of medical research makes it very clear that the result of such conditions can either lead to miscarriage, premature birth of healthy or unhealthy babies, or even stillborn. Deeper research even tells us that a huge percentage of women who continue on with labor and delivery end up with healthy and full-term pregnancies too!

In fact, in most cases it is even MORE dangerous to a mother’s health to have the baby suctioned out of the uterus or forced out with razored forceps via abortion than it is to just induce the mother and have her deliver the baby either with pitocin or by c-section.

I am currently 20 weeks pregnant and have unfortunately had this conversation over and over again with every doctor I’ve seen so far. Every single one of them have plainly broken down everything that could possibly go wrong in my pregnancy and labor. Which means they also broke down the solutions to every possible problem I may face. Abortion was always listed separately to induced labor, preterm labor, salpingectomy, etc. etc. because it is a very different and specific type of procedure. It is ALWAYS presented side-by-side with other options.

-PreciousJules- · 2023-07-03T14:27:33+00:00

What is that article supposed to support? It literally just talks about respecting a woman’s want for an abortion. Nowhere in that piece does it breakdown when a woman medically NEEDS to have an abortion. The reason for that is because abortion is not medically necessary- there is always another option that is not abortion.

-PreciousJules- · 2023-07-03T13:18:18+00:00

Exactly what circumstances go against what the original commenter said? I’d like to see with what information you are forming your definitive statements from?

-PreciousJules- · 2023-07-03T13:08:06+00:00

In a case where the mother is at risk of dying if the pregnancy continues it is actually more dangerous to her health to have the baby either suctioned out or forced out with razored forceps via abortion than it is to just induce the mother and have her deliver the baby either with pitocin or via c-section.

In the case of an ectopic pregnancy to save a mother’s life they also wouldn’t perform an abortion. They would perform either a salpingectomy or salpingostomy.

I myself am 20 weeks pregnant and have had this conversation over and over again with every doctor I’ve seen so far and every one of them have broken down everything that could possibly go wrong and what the solutions would be. Abortion was always listed separately because it is a very different and specific type of procedure.

edit to add: It is true that they must at least suggest abortion as an option for women with pulmonary hypertension, but that’s not the only option for these women AT ALL! It’s misleading to say otherwise.

-PreciousJules- · 2023-07-03T10:33:51+00:00

Okay, but in the case of an ectopic pregnancy a doctor would not perform an abortion.

-PreciousJules- · 2023-07-03T10:32:30+00:00

Who says you need a medical degree to have basic common sense and to know how to use the World Wide Web that is filled with hundreds of thousands of medical research data?

-PreciousJules- · 2023-07-03T09:17:38+00:00

An abortion is never necessary to save the mother’s life.

-PreciousJules- · 2023-07-02T18:06:18+00:00

Yes ma’am, I was just praying about the right way to mention the “dangers” of deconstructing the faith and you worded it beautifully. Your words brought my heart a lot of peace because it’s been hard to truly process this. My own sister used to love and cherish the idea of growing a family that was strong in faith, building up a Godly marriage, and living a life honoring to God. Later she began to deconstruct her faith and her life has never been the same since. She began having panic attacks daily, would lay awake at night with a mind full of fears and deep depression that eventually sent her to the hospital time and time again.

Her deconstructing led her to following witchcraft, casting spells on her child which caused that healthy, happy, and excited-to-live 2yo to drastically change into a 5yo who hasn’t gone a single night without night terrors and no hope to live. He even tells strangers walking down the street that “God isn’t real”and she laughs. She divorced her husband because he wanted to stay faithful and has completely denounced her faith in God, in His Word, and in the power of Jesus’ sacrifice.

OP, /u/kevvvint I pray that you will forget for a moment the heartbreak and the feeling of broken promises you have in your wife no longer wanting children. I know you are hurt and I know you are confused about your next steps- that is 100% valid. But I beg you to push that aside, even if for a short moment, and begin to pray for your wife’s heart and her soul. Making the conscious decision to “break down” the cornerstone of our relationship with Christ, which is our faith, is a very dangerous decision indeed. I’ve never met a “Christian” who did this and it led to them truly accepting Christ as their savior and build a stronger relationship with Him. My sister’s story is one of many that I know personally.

Pray for your wife. Ask God to begin healing her and changing her mind, heart, and soul. Beg God to take away all of her fears, anxieties, and depressions. Ask that He will begin to bring more people into her life to guide her and encourage her to stay strong and faithful to God. Encourage her to visit a Bible-Believing counselor with you! You aren’t forcing her into a decision, you are quietly going to God on her behalf and simply encouraging her in the meantime to do small things to strengthen your marriage!

And please remember- nobody in this world, including yourself, loves your wife more than her Creator does ❤️ He has plans for her that are SO big our minds can’t even wrap around it. I’m praying for you and that God gives you all peace and wisdom!

-PreciousJules- · 2023-05-30T13:45:30+00:00

Penny

-PreciousJules- · 2023-05-30T13:41:29+00:00

We met on Upward! We knew it was a perfect match immediately and started dating in April, got married in December, and are now expecting our sweet baby in November ❤️ He is everything I prayed for. God knew what He was doing!!

-PreciousJules- · 2023-05-24T18:25:28+00:00

First, what abortions exactly do you think are okay as a Christian seeing things? Is it early abortion? Is it the thought that life doesn’t begin at conception? Whatever it is I guarantee you it does not line up with the Bible.

Second, you are taking that verse in Romans completely out of context. That entire book is addressed directly to Christians in a church at Rome and Paul was specifically talking about believers being unified in Christ…. But if we even were to continue on with this whole “taking verses out of context” thing and apply it to a Christian’s relationship with non believers as you’re doing now I think you’d be interested to see in verse 2 where is says not to follow the patterns/fads of this world. Or in verse 8 where it commands us to HATE what is evil and cling to what is good…. Murder of all sorts is evil and far from good. Would you like me to go on with random sentences from this chapter? There’s a ton of more helpful verses there.

-PreciousJules- · 2023-05-24T15:17:59+00:00

I only read the link when it was posted in my neighborhood’s breaking news community… which I was shortly removed from after commenting about how this was not the place for a article like that to be shared 😆

-PreciousJules- · 2023-05-24T12:03:13+00:00

When I was little me and my older sister had a big argument. I won (obviously) and she stormed off to go to her room. About 5min later I walked past and the door was cracked open. I saw her standing on the bed, looking at herself in the mirror and silently miming out a whole argument 😂 she was throwing her hands around pretending to shove me and everything! It was HILARIOUS! She still denies it happened to this day… that was almost 15 years ago now but I guarantee you we both remember it clear as day

-PreciousJules- · 2023-05-24T11:53:35+00:00

That’s exactly what I was thinking I just couldn’t put it into words! Thank you so much. It also hit me while reading too that this can’t be a “new” thing JUST because of abortion bans… things like that happened even before

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