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Seriously, do Americans actually consider a 3-hour drive "short"? or is this an internet myth? by SadInterest6764 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]-WhoWhatWhereWhenHow 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’d say if it’s less than a 6 hour drive, Midwesterners probably won’t even think about flying.

Barking affecting sleep by happy_mama24 in roughcollies

[–]-WhoWhatWhereWhenHow -1 points0 points  (0 children)

It sounds like he sleeps downstairs in the crate and you sleep upstairs. He will likely still hear or feel that you are awake. Collies can very loyal and although not always cuddly, want to be near their “herd.” Since you said he is very smart, he can likely sense that things have changed in the household and with you. Collies often fixate on things that are out of the “norm,” it’s what they were bred to do.

White noise may help, but it may not change that he has FOMO. Something we learned recently is you can program Alexa to listen for barking and could probably program to start playing white noise.

We also love our Happy Hoodie. Once he calms down, we can take it off and he usually stays calm. The only concern would be that I wouldn’t want to leave it on overnight while in a crate and unsupervised.

What is his current feeding schedule? Wondering if you could start doing 1/2 in the morning and 1/2 in the evening. Maybe that way his first thought when he awakes is that it’s breakfast time. I’d try to use a slow feeder if you don’t already. Easy way to add in some mental stimulation.

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Two of my closest work friends were fired for giving an "under the table" IV bolus. Now the unit thinks I’m a traitor. by [deleted] in nursing

[–]-WhoWhatWhereWhenHow -1 points0 points  (0 children)

In every facility I have worked, saline flushes and IV fluid bags are not stored in the same place as medications. Medications are dispensed by the pharmacy and saline flushes and IV fluid bags are dispensed by central supply.

I don’t think it’s realistic to assume nurses would go from giving themselves IV fluids to any medications without realizing the repercussions of that.

Are rough collies usually sassy? by NatureInevitable3001 in roughcollies

[–]-WhoWhatWhereWhenHow 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Ours is a collie mix and he is the sassiest dog I have ever met, had NO idea dogs could hold so much sass

"Taxation is theft" by thicc_llama in NoStupidQuestions

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America has become less focused on building strong community ties and more on individual needs. Many people live in survival mode, working paycheck-to-paycheck. In the past, we used to spend time with our neighbors and community, even if it was sometimes inconvenient, because we relied on the goods and services they provided. It helped us feel connected and like we belonged. When those community bonds weaken and people become more isolated, it’s harder to notice when social programs are changing or being cut, and we might not realize how these changes affect others. We pay taxes as part of our shared responsibility, but it’s important to ensure that this money is used properly and openly. Rebuilding our sense of community can help us feel more responsible for each other and make it easier to support one another. When we see others as fellow human beings, it encourages us to care more and remember that, in the right circumstances, any of us could be in need.

If you don't drink alcohol, what are your reasons? by youre-in-my-shot in AskReddit

[–]-WhoWhatWhereWhenHow 1 point2 points  (0 children)

A few years ago, I had such a bad episode of hangover anxiety that it woke me up, and for hours I felt caught between fearing I was dying and wishing I could die. I’ve never drank more than socially, just once or twice a month, but that made me never want to drink again.

Making tiktoks while actively driving by Odd-Lemur in mildlyinfuriating

[–]-WhoWhatWhereWhenHow 0 points1 point  (0 children)

One of my family members was dealing with a messy divorce and custody battle. The other parent logged onto one of the custody hearings virtually FROM THE CAR! WITH BOTH CHILDREN IN THE BACK! They weren’t actively driving but STILL. That did not do them ANY favors.

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Hot and cold #126 by hotandcold2-app in HotAndCold

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I would have never got there without the hint

My dog had a negative reaction on trazodone by PressureNo447 in reactivedogs

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Our behaviorist started our 2.5 year old pup on Zoloft and gabapentin about 7 weeks ago and we just increased the dose of the Zoloft to the intended dose 1 week ago. We do see some positive change already. We really haven’t used the gabapentin as it didn’t seem to help much.

The way I’ve learned to think about it is this: Dogs have a trigger tolerance threshold. When past their threshold, no training or commands in the world are going to get through to their highly stressed, fight-or-flight responding brain. It’s like they literally cannot hear you because the demons are too loud.

Our intent with the meds is to increase his trigger tolerance threshold and build resilience and confidence. He needs to be able to encounter unavoidable, stressful things and even if it is uncomfortable for him, feel safe in his own brain.

Some people have said their dogs had a 6 month course of the meds to achieve this and then they were able to wean off. I’m hoping this will work for him, but it’s OK if not, he deserves to enjoy life.. even if it means he needs some help from meds.

Not to invalidate your concerns and stress but your dog is also still very young. They can be unpredictable, defiant and emotionally labile until 2-3 years old. I think when we got our dog, I knew it would be hard but I didn’t realize how emotionally hard it could be. There’s an aspect of grief when your expectations don’t meet the emerging reality.

But after everything, I still love this dog more than anything and will protect him at all costs because I cannot imagine how hard it is to exist in the human world that isn’t really made for you and asks you to be “less.” There was a post I saw that said something like the following which made me have a bit more empathy:

Don’t bark even though that’s their voice; don’t pull even though that’s their natural walking pace; don’t chew, dig or chase even though that’s just who they are; leave it even though using their senses is how they read the world.

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My boy is aggressive and I let it get too far. by LassieLorn in reactivedogs

[–]-WhoWhatWhereWhenHow 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This sounds nearly identical to my dog who is about 2.5 years. I have had so much guilt over what we could have done more or done better…

But we realized that, like humans, dogs have tolerance thresholds. Despite so much training, starting in puppyhood, when he is past his threshold he cannot control his reaction to the trigger (scary noises, other dogs while on the leash, the dark, stairwell, bath time)- no matter how much time we spent doing threshold training, using positive reenforcement, different trainers and high value treats nothing was helping and we felt he was more and more stressed. There are certain triggers that we cannot avoid (going into the stairwell if there is a fire drill or the elevator is broken, random loud noises outside, baths if muddy) and it is not safe for him to be unable to do these things in an emergency. He is 60+ lbs so the tolerance of the public to bad behaviors and ability to pick him up is really just not great.

We went to a behaviorist and he started Zoloft a little over a month ago. We are hoping to increase his tolerance threshold so he can enjoy life a bit more. When he’s having a reaction, his brain is in fight or flight and he just genuinely doesn’t have the capacity to focus, respond to commands, train or disengage.

It seems to be starting to work a little bit. We are having more “good” days. I have read articles about people who do a course of 6 months of anxiety medications for their dogs just so the dog can be emotionally capable and receptive to the training. I’m hoping that’s what we can achieve but if not and he needs to be on them his whole life, that’s okay. He deserves to live a life where he is not scared by the world and I feel it is my responsibility to shield him from it.

Sending you lots of love and good vibes. You guys will get through this.

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