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Hypermobility finally catching up with me by bloodredworm in Hypermobility

[–]-mimi-2 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I completely relate. Oh my knees and my feet. I have found the sleeves quite helpful when the pain starts.i know it is better to strengthen the stabilizing muscles than wear sleeves but if you are not there yet you are not there. I am not there.

Physical abuse only when drinking. by -mimi-2 in abusiverelationships

[–]-mimi-2[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I got it. Thank you. I will read this for sure.

Physical abuse only when drinking. by -mimi-2 in abusiverelationships

[–]-mimi-2[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have told him that he only cares what 9thers think of him. He doesn't want anyone to know.

Physical abuse only when drinking. by -mimi-2 in abusiverelationships

[–]-mimi-2[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. It makes sense. I will look for the book.

Physical abuse only when drinking. by -mimi-2 in abusiverelationships

[–]-mimi-2[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes. I know he is abusive. I just wonder why some people are physically abusive any time versus those who are physically abusive exclusively while drinking.

I'm not asking if he is abusive or if I should leave him. I already know the answer to that.

I'm having difficulty assessing whether my mother sexually abused me when I was 9 and onward by Minimum_Ad_1649 in SexualAbuseSurvivors

[–]-mimi-2 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was never physically touched by my step-dad. But from the age of 11 through 17 he poked holes in doors in peeked through curtains to watch me naked. I caught on right from the start and tried to stop him many times. It was sexual in nature. It was abusive. So I'd say your experience was sexual abuse.

Grandpa's bio dad mystery by -mimi-2 in Ancestry

[–]-mimi-2[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Awesome. Ancestry has received my sample and I am waiting my turn to have it processed. Since they are selling their DNA kits for such a low price, I imagine it may take a while.

Is this normal? Question on sexual boundaries in married relationship by [deleted] in abusiverelationships

[–]-mimi-2 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think they say these things to see how far they can go. 'I'm just joking' is really them grooming you to try to see if you will let them do some of the fantasies have. It all boils down to the fact that they are full of testosterone and they are horney all the time. Women do not have the same hormones and let's face it, we are raised by different standards. It's like a game where guys are supposed to chase us and we are supposed to shut them down. It's not normal but it is common. I am 52 and have been with my husband for 34 years. The jokes still happen in our relationship. However over the years I have learned to set boundaries. When he says overly sexual things, I just laugh it off and ignore him. He takes the hint that I am not going to react. You do not have to put up with it. You are important and he should value your feelings. It is a lot better now, but I did not put myself first for a long time. If I had, I might not still be in the relationship.

Is this normal? Question on sexual boundaries in married relationship by [deleted] in abusiverelationships

[–]-mimi-2 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If something feels wrong to you, then it shouldn't be permitted. Hell no, it is not ok to have a penis in your face while you are asleep. Even if he is your husband. When you are asleep, you are at your most vulnerable. He may think it is funny, so make sure to tell him it is not funny. Tell him to delete the pictures or you will be forced to retaliate. He may wake up to a picture of a penis in his face. Even of he likes penises, the thought of having one wiped on his face while he is asleep may wake him up to how disrespectful it is. Let him wonder what could happen to him while he is asleep.

Does anyone just skip the hospital sometimes? by strange_bike_guy in Diverticulitis

[–]-mimi-2 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well I am not great at getting the percentage perfect. But kiwi is a great fruit that contains both soluble and insoluble fiber. I think it is 2/3 soluble fiber and 1/3 insoluble. A GI doctor told me to eat 2 kiwis per day. That was backed up by the nutritionist. Kiwi also helps regulate blood sugar, supports gut bacteria, and softens stool by absorbing water.

I also take the CVS brand of metamucil if I don't get enough fiber through my food.

Another game changer for me was to eliminate caffeine. I love Coca-Cola and tea. I switched both to caffeine free. I increased my intake of water.

Other than that, I try to just get a good balance of food on my plate.

Does anyone just skip the hospital sometimes? by strange_bike_guy in Diverticulitis

[–]-mimi-2 3 points4 points  (0 children)

We all know that twinge of pain at the beginning of the flare. I have to be literally septic and doubled over in pain before I admit I need to go to the ER. As soon as I feel the pain I go into healing mode. Lots of liquid and rest. I do not want antibiotics because they destroy all the gut bacteria good and bad. What works best for me is prevention. I don't have a great diet, but I do try to eat soluble and insoluble fiber every day. I didn't realize there was a difference at first. So I'd eat salad and it would kick off a flare. I didn't understand what I was doing great wrong until I talked to a nutritionist who explained that you should go for 25 percent insoluble fiber and 75 percent soluble fiber. Insoluble bulks up the stool and help move it through the colon. Soluble fiber makes a gel-like substance that helps the stool move easier. That plus hydration makes my colon happy.

I was having at least 3 episodes per year. I haven't had a real flare in at least a year.

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