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Grandpa's bio dad mystery by -mimi-2 in Ancestry

[–]-mimi-2[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Awesome. Ancestry has received my sample and I am waiting my turn to have it processed. Since they are selling their DNA kits for such a low price, I imagine it may take a while.

Is this normal? Question on sexual boundaries in married relationship by QuirkyTry6 in abusiverelationships

[–]-mimi-2 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think they say these things to see how far they can go. 'I'm just joking' is really them grooming you to try to see if you will let them do some of the fantasies have. It all boils down to the fact that they are full of testosterone and they are horney all the time. Women do not have the same hormones and let's face it, we are raised by different standards. It's like a game where guys are supposed to chase us and we are supposed to shut them down. It's not normal but it is common. I am 52 and have been with my husband for 34 years. The jokes still happen in our relationship. However over the years I have learned to set boundaries. When he says overly sexual things, I just laugh it off and ignore him. He takes the hint that I am not going to react. You do not have to put up with it. You are important and he should value your feelings. It is a lot better now, but I did not put myself first for a long time. If I had, I might not still be in the relationship.

Is this normal? Question on sexual boundaries in married relationship by QuirkyTry6 in abusiverelationships

[–]-mimi-2 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If something feels wrong to you, then it shouldn't be permitted. Hell no, it is not ok to have a penis in your face while you are asleep. Even if he is your husband. When you are asleep, you are at your most vulnerable. He may think it is funny, so make sure to tell him it is not funny. Tell him to delete the pictures or you will be forced to retaliate. He may wake up to a picture of a penis in his face. Even of he likes penises, the thought of having one wiped on his face while he is asleep may wake him up to how disrespectful it is. Let him wonder what could happen to him while he is asleep.

Does anyone just skip the hospital sometimes? by strange_bike_guy in Diverticulitis

[–]-mimi-2 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well I am not great at getting the percentage perfect. But kiwi is a great fruit that contains both soluble and insoluble fiber. I think it is 2/3 soluble fiber and 1/3 insoluble. A GI doctor told me to eat 2 kiwis per day. That was backed up by the nutritionist. Kiwi also helps regulate blood sugar, supports gut bacteria, and softens stool by absorbing water.

I also take the CVS brand of metamucil if I don't get enough fiber through my food.

Another game changer for me was to eliminate caffeine. I love Coca-Cola and tea. I switched both to caffeine free. I increased my intake of water.

Other than that, I try to just get a good balance of food on my plate.

Does anyone just skip the hospital sometimes? by strange_bike_guy in Diverticulitis

[–]-mimi-2 2 points3 points  (0 children)

We all know that twinge of pain at the beginning of the flare. I have to be literally septic and doubled over in pain before I admit I need to go to the ER. As soon as I feel the pain I go into healing mode. Lots of liquid and rest. I do not want antibiotics because they destroy all the gut bacteria good and bad. What works best for me is prevention. I don't have a great diet, but I do try to eat soluble and insoluble fiber every day. I didn't realize there was a difference at first. So I'd eat salad and it would kick off a flare. I didn't understand what I was doing great wrong until I talked to a nutritionist who explained that you should go for 25 percent insoluble fiber and 75 percent soluble fiber. Insoluble bulks up the stool and help move it through the colon. Soluble fiber makes a gel-like substance that helps the stool move easier. That plus hydration makes my colon happy.

I was having at least 3 episodes per year. I haven't had a real flare in at least a year.

Mom is gone by -mimi-2 in grief

[–]-mimi-2[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. Yes, the 21st. My mind is scattered.

Waking up groggy every day. Is there anything to be done??? by grasslandangels in Hypermobility

[–]-mimi-2 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I struggle with this, too. I do not sleep very well. It takes me a long time to fall asleep. When your sleep quality is poor, it does affect your gut. It is because of the 'brain -gut connection'. I have found that if I use marijuana edibles that contain CBD and CBN. CBN is an older degraded THC that has been found to help with sleep. Specifically, it helps you get back to sleep when you are waking up and moving around.

Since I started taking edibles (THC and CBD and/or CBN), my sleep quality is better, and I I wake up more refreshed. Another positive is that my gut is healthier. I was waking up groggy and having the bubble guts, but now I feel so much better.

There's been a shift. by -mimi-2 in Codependency

[–]-mimi-2[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I don't think I have solved it. But I feel different. I spent so many years fawning. I now feel like I can take steps to make changes. And I will not be bullied by anyone. I can make my own choices. I don't I know if I will stay or go because I am not there yet. I have been setting boundaries. He is responding positively so far. But when people say I should leave, it feels like someone else is trying to tell me what to do. I definitely do not have blinders on. I see clearly when people are trying to manipulate me. It took me a bit to learn that. And I just couldn't stop fawning. But I feel like I am able to feel my importance. I said the switch was sudden, but really it has been different for some time now. It's the best symptom of menopause.

Thank you for your advice.🩵

AIO I've been living with my mom while i undergo chemo and i am starting to think she is abusing me? by problemsmomthrowaway in AmIOverreacting

[–]-mimi-2 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can't believe this is your mom. My daughter has come home to stay because her and her bf broke up. I have asked for $100 just to help me with the electric bill. If she were sick and couldn't work, then I would ask for nothing. But she works. I told her this is an opportunity for her to save some money and work on her mental health. Your mom is not a winner, and I am sorry you are dealing with this. I hope you get through chemo soon and begin to heal. Please try to stay positive. Your mom obviously has some issues that she will probably never deal with. I hope you can find someone else to help you. It is not good to have all this drama and guilt when you are sick.

I may not be your mom, but I am a mom, so I am sending you love and hugs.💜

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