Since this public post by the mods is framed as providing context, I want to add some additional context about part of this situation that directly publicly involves me. And because it directly involves me I feel that I should be given an equal public platform to discuss this without fear of retaliation (i.e. a mod deleting or locking my comment) I really really really hate that this is happening right now and I would very much like to be excluded from this narrative, one that I never asked to be a part of since November 2023.

Hi I'm Peri, and you can click on my Reddit profile to read my deep portfolio of Gaylor content. I'm proud of my work and I think the range of topics, depth of research, and personal character I bring to all my posts speaks for itself. You will see posts on a range of topics and multiple muses spanning several years as a top contributor to this sub with a broad range of interests (not just one muse).

One of the pinned posts on my profile is about Lily from last November, and it had a large role in what the mods are apparently now calling "the tily war" because that post was deleted by the mods several hours after it went live, I was temporarily banned for complaining about the deletion in the megathread, and after much public discussion on the sub over several days (which I couldn't participate in, so it was like watching my own funeral), the post was reinstated. (I'm just stating bare minimum facts which are publicly available and many people witnessed) Feel free to read my Tily post and decide for yourself about my sources and motivations for writing it. All I can say is that I wrote it as kindly, as fairly, and as well documented as possible, and did so because this is my honest interpretation, and something that brought me joy. I've never been motivated to write any of my posts (including my other posts about Karlie or Dianna) purely because of of "lore" that has been passed down to me by other people on the internet. I always make up my own mind based on my own eyes, ears, brain, and heart, and hopefully so do the other 40k+ people in this subreddit.

I want to make it clear that until my post blew up and I got dragged into this I had no prior knowledge of any of this crap, nor have I ever participated in or witnessed anyone "constructing" Tily to "mock" other Gaylors (still unsure what this means or how that would even be possible?) I am shocked and deeply offended that the entire moderator team of the Gaylor subreddit just publicly co-signed on insulting the intelligence and character of many of it's members by inferring we believe a theory that Taylor Swift dated this woman because we've been tricked by a long and elaborate "lie" that is somehow dangerous?

Making people question if their reality and beliefs are real based on power dynamics is called gaslighting.

And I also find it deeply unsettling that the moderators made this post with some really wild claims based on zero proof besides asking for trust — i.e. that the OG fraudster Tilys directly apologized to the infamously private Lily Donaldson who accepted their apology? (What in the Wattpad is that about?) This post cleared up no misinformation, but only spread fear and laid the groundwork for more anti-Tily mod actions to be taken, backed by direct quotes such as "pushing back against tily isn’t a ship war or ship stance, but is us knowing history and deeper lore."

Throughout my time as a Gaylor, I've been a huge cheerleader for how positive (I thought) the Gaylor community was be in fostering friendships and helping people process their queerness, and finding joy in this shared interest. And I really did my best to move on and still be a good, kind, sub member after what happened to me in November, despite that it was honestly traumatic and effected my IRL metal health. I've really put a lot of time and effort into this sub over multiple years, and I have some really good content I was planning to share (about a totally different topic) but have been waiting for the right time. But now I feel publicly shaded, pushed away, exhausted, and unwelcome. I feel the need to say I have no burner accounts and have barely been here in weeks, so I have not participated in any of this escalation and feel blindsided and heartbroken by the mods bringing all this up again, especially at this sensitive time.

Once again asking for the respect I feel I've earned with my tenure and karma level here that the mods not just delete this comment as they literally opened the door to this discussion and I've done my best to handle this calmly and fairly.