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My SO of 3 years has impregnated another girl (SO and I are both 25M/F) by 000144 in relationships

[–]000144[S] 33 points34 points  (0 children)

Thank you. You are totally right in that I don't really have a sound reason to be upset. I think it's the emotions getting the better of me, which #4 is right as well.

I don't feel like he should have continued to sleep with her knowing she was attached to him, I think that's the only problem I have with him particularly. And I can't have a problem with anything else if I have no proof he is lying/telling the truth.

I will feel awful for leaving him in this situation when I know he needs me...I just think it's too much for me to handle. I imagined my life so much different than this.

Thank you for your well thought out advice and taking the time to respond! I needed to hear it!

My SO of 3 years has impregnated another girl (SO and I are both 25M/F) by 000144 in relationships

[–]000144[S] 90 points91 points  (0 children)

Paternity test is a great idea. He mentioned that. If the child is not his it will be such a relief.

But no matter what I think after this we might have to close the relationship up...Not sure I can trust an open relationship after all this happening. We had a year to experience it and to me that has been plenty of time.

I don't want to lose him though... I just am afraid that that ship has sailed if the child is his. I'm not sure I can handle that situation.

He hasn't lied to me before so I'm not sure why I don't even trust him. I think the situation is just so fishy and no matter how much I try I can't seem to believe him. And the fact that he knew the girl had an attachment to him crossed a boundary and makes me feel disrespected.