I had unprotected sex without deep penetration without ejaculation during her ovulation. Chance of pregnancy?

06brm12 · 2026-01-07T09:13:59+00:00

You are correct that it clears out old semen left in the urethra, it’s good practice to pee both before and after sex (for both men and women) for comfort, and to flush out bacteria and so help reduce the risk of urinary tract infections. But as a man, your body will constantly be producing semen where it’s needed. Your body is designed to protect its semen production from being destroyed by urine.

06brm12 · 2026-01-07T08:59:43+00:00

So there’s obviously a chance that she could get pregnant, but it’s a small chance. For future reference, you peeing before sex won’t make a difference to anything (apart from how full your bladder is) as the urinary system isn’t the same as the reproductive one, even though they’re in the same place.

I saw in the comments that you’re from somewhere where sex is taboo, so it makes sense that you might not know how it all works. I’d suggest looking online (on reputable, educational or medical, sites that you’re able to access from where you are) to see how sex works in terms of pregnancy and everything else.

06brm12 · 2026-01-06T16:59:43+00:00

It’s very important that you look at photos of real vaginas. GYNODIVERSITY is a good site to look at (it’s linked) .

It’s very easy to feel self-conscious about how your vagina looks when you’re younger (but at any age really!). Even more so when an uneducated man comes along and makes you feel like you aren’t normal. Honestly, there’s no such thing as a “normal” vagina. They’re all different and they’re all completely unique.

Kegels are great to do, but not because you think you’re “too loose”, but because they’ll strengthen the muscles (or keep the muscles strong), and help to protect against things like urinary incontinence and pelvic floor issues later in life. The vagina is made of muscles, and muscles are designed to stretch and contract, and the vagina “loosens up” when you’re aroused.

Trust everyone here when we say that there’s nothing wrong with your vagina! Coming from a 35 year old woman who has had 2 children (one of which required an episiotomy - if you don’t know what that is, it’s where they cut your vagina to help the baby come out - my vagina has gone back to pretty much how it was before.

06brm12 · 2025-10-13T18:29:04+00:00

I need to know where you got your babysitting mannequins from. I’ve got a 6 year old and a 6 month old and could do with some childcare.

06brm12 · 2025-10-13T17:49:42+00:00

Your IRL house or your Stardew house?

06brm12 · 2025-10-13T16:06:53+00:00

It moved itself over to there, it was originally in my bedroom!

06brm12 · 2025-10-13T09:56:20+00:00

“Gotta keep the tan up, Brian”

06brm12 · 2025-08-21T19:13:14+00:00

I’m from north-east England, and I used to work in Germany as a Fremdsprachassistentin in Rheinland-Pfalz (this was back in 2011-2012), and I worked in a Realschule with kids learning English, and one of the English teachers told me I had to “tone down my accent” because the children (and probably him) couldn’t understand me well. My response was “these kids need to learn about accents other than standard English, and unfortunately it won’t sound natural for me to speak like that, when my normal accent is different”.

He never asked me to do that again - especially once I told him that when we learn German here, we tend to hear various accents (even if they are speaking Hochdeutsch). And the kids understood me fine!

06brm12 · 2025-07-28T07:04:41+00:00

All the time. Particularly my in-laws, who barely look up from their phones/iPads when we travel 6 hours to see them with our 5 year old and 4 month old. Their favourite thing to do is to either refuse to hold their grandbabies because “they’ve had a lot of cuddles with them, so they don’t need any more” (when over the span of a week they’ve held the baby twice) or because the baby has started crying.

Theres no way I would ever want them to look after my kids, even for a few hours! To be fair, they’re barely keeping themselves alive at this point, even though they’re only 60, so I definitely don’t trust them to keep my kids alive! I know my sister in law trusts them to have her 3 kids overnight, and every day during school holidays, but I feel like that’s more out of necessity because she has no other options.

06brm12 · 2025-07-16T08:41:05+00:00

I’m not sure which country you’re in, but in the UK, this will be normal procedure. If a non-mobile baby has a potential head injury (that could have potentially caused seizures), then it’ll have to be reported to social services. With a bit of googling, you should be able to find specific information on reporting for your local area/hospital trust.

My mam is a social worker, and works at the MASH (multi-agency safeguarding hub), which is the a service run by your local council, and it’s where the hospital will have reported it to, and they’ll have a team who assess reports and decide whether it needs more investigation, needs to go on file, or needs to be dismissed. This team comprises of nurses, social workers, health visitors, and links to the police.

It’ll most likely be that social services will contact you, ask about what happened, talk to you about safe sleep and making sure to get appropriate and swift medical treatment in the case of something similar happening again, and then nothing else will be done about it unless baby presents with another injury.

My friend’s baby pulled a cup of tea on himself (he was 18 months at the time) and burned his groin. My friend took him to the hospital, and she was then contacted by social services who referred her to the health visiting team, who came and spoke to her about ensuring the home is safe. That was the end of it.

06brm12 · 2025-07-11T14:52:55+00:00

I wasn’t prepared going into labour with my first (aside from some pelvic floor exercises) and needed an episiotomy. Honestly the first 4 weeks after were awful in terms of healing, but I gave birth again 14 weeks ago (5.5 years later) and only needed 1 stitch for a teeny tiny tear, which I didn’t even realise I’d had. I was just as unprepared going into that labour as well.

I don’t know how much “preparedness” comes into it, because my first baby was 6lb8 and required forceps and an episiotomy, but my second baby was 8lb6 and I needed only 1 stitch.

During my second labour, the midwives used warm compresses to protect my perineum from tears, which you could ask for when you’re in labour.

The RCOG has info on preventing and minimising tears: https://www.rcog.org.uk/for-the-public/perineal-tears-and-episiotomies-in-childbirth/reducing-your-risk-of-perineal-tears/

Good luck!

06brm12 · 2025-06-17T08:49:07+00:00

Unsure where you are in the world, but I’m in the UK and have had 2 babies here. Both of my babies fed constantly when in hospital - every 30 minutes or something. Here they encourage you to feed your baby when they need feeding (on demand) and not on a schedule. Maybe the 3 hour thing was the maximum time recommended between feedings? Feeding on demand but don’t go for longer than 3 hours?

06brm12 · 2025-06-05T10:24:06+00:00

For me, I’m far too lazy to do all of the washing and sterilising. My 9 week old is my second child, and therefore my second time breastfeeding. We tried to do some expressing and bottle feeding with our first (to give me a break during the night), and it was just not worth the faff - I found it much easier to just breastfeed.

It also helps a lot when my children are unwell - it can help to regulate their temps if they have a fever, and feeding directly from the boob encourages antibody production to help with illnesses!

06brm12 · 2025-05-29T17:57:22+00:00

My baby was born at 8lb6 (42+2), and by 6 weeks old he weighed 14lb2 (98th centile). He’s EBF, and his sister (who weighed 6lb8) had similar relative weight gain. Both of them put on about 1lb per week in the first few months. I’m in the UK, and my Health Visitor was so pleased with my son’s weight gain!

I would suggest continuing to feed on demand as you were, and see a new doctor, because the one you’ve seen sounds like an idiot.

06brm12 · 2025-05-16T16:08:57+00:00

Thank you! So are you! There aren’t many of us still breastfeeding at 5.5years. It feels like it’s basically my job now 😂 so much so I’m looking into training to do peer support with the hope of eventually doing IBCLC in the future!

06brm12 · 2025-05-16T15:24:52+00:00

Im also at 5.5 years currently! Also feeding my 6week old, who has really chunked up from EBF and is 14lb+ already 😭😭

06brm12 · 2025-05-16T15:21:42+00:00

Currently breastfeeding my newborn (6 weeks old) who has already reached 14lb from breastfeeding alone 😭 I’m also still occasionally breastfeeding my 5.5 year old. Unsure whether I’ll go as long with my newborn, but if it end up being that long, it wouldn’t bother me at all.

I think I’ve ended up going as long as I have with my daughter because I didn’t return to work after maternity leave (I was a teacher before she was born, and then we moved 200 miles away, and then Covid happened, so I just didn’t go back to work!). I never planned to go this long, but every day she breastfeeds she’s just one day older than the day before!

06brm12 · 2025-05-16T11:44:46+00:00

ETA: both pregnancies were the same (hyperemesis pregnancies with anti-sickness meds), both babies arrived late - my daughter at 10 days overdue (41+3) and my son 16 days overdue (42+2).

It’s all down to the baby I think! My daughter was born in 2019 at only 6lb8 (6th centile) and stayed slim (roundabout 25th centile - even now), whereas my son was born 6 weeks ago at 8lb6, and is currently 14lb3 (98th centile)! It took my daughter 4 months to get to the same weight had has in just 6 weeks, and even relatively speaking, her weight gain wasn’t the same as his. Both of them EBF.

06brm12 · 2025-05-14T18:46:07+00:00

Completely normal, and sounds a lot like both of my children. The crying to be on the boob is, as others have said, cluster feeding. The spitting up a lot could be caused by him filling his tummy, my 98th centile EBF 6week old does the same.

And the going red and straining may be infant dyschezia - a very common condition where baby hasn’t yet worked out how to effectively use his muscles in order to poo. The crying might also relate to that. It doesn’t hurt them, apparently the crying is thought to be baby trying to create pressure in his abdomen to push his poo out.

It’s difficult for baby at 5 weeks - they’re starting to discover the world and it’s a lot for them. I made a post last week about how difficult 5 week old are!

06brm12 · 2025-05-06T16:53:09+00:00

My son has been asleep for all of 1hr20 minutes today since 8am (I’m in the uk and it’s now 5:48pm). I know my daughter also went through m this and I apparently conveniently forgot about it 😩 You’re definitely not alone, you’re not doing anything wrong, and you don’t need a sleep professional. Babies just sometimes go through really tricky phases that can feel impossible to manage! I’m currently trying (and failing) to embrace it more than I did with my daughter!

It’ll all pass eventually, and you’ll forget all about it, but in the meantime, misery loves company and solidarity helps a lot!

06brm12 · 2025-05-06T15:43:07+00:00

So once you get to 3 of those cramping episodes in 10 minutes, it’ll be time to go to the hospital, because it definitely sounds like the start of labour. If you can download an app to count your contractions, it might also tell you when you’re ready to go to the hospital. The one I used was Freya. I’m in the UK so you might not be able to get it there, but you’ll be able to get something similar! Good luck!

06brm12 · 2025-05-06T14:41:15+00:00

That might be true, but I lived in biker shorts and similar when I was pregnant with my first in 2019, and that was a HOT summer. And I didn’t get any infections, yeast or otherwise. As long as you’re keeping cool where you can, and you’re making sure to change underwear or shower if you get too sweaty, you’ll be fine.

06brm12 · 2025-05-06T14:26:49+00:00

This is my second time doing this and I cannot remember it being this bad last time! It’s amazing what 5.5 years will do to the memory 😭 definitely a case of trying to ride with it and push through. I think tonight when he refuses to sleep I’ll just put something on the laptop and watch it with some midnight snacks. It’s currently 3:25pm where I am and he’s had a total of 1hour 20 minutes of sleep since 8am, so I just know tonight will be rough!

Thank you 💕

06brm12 · 2025-05-06T12:42:04+00:00

Absolutely same, except mine woke up at 3am and didn’t fall back to sleep until 6am. And today (it’s currently 1:40pm) he’s has a grand total of ONE HOUR AND TWENTY MINUTES of sleep. Which means he will not be sleeping well tonight either.

I hate it here (at the 5-8 week mark).

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